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Today when I was walking through the hall at school there were a ton of people wearing tails and ears! At first I thought it might have been a special event, but in fact It was just some of my furry peers! It reminded me of you guys :3

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So I'm in a poly-amorous relationship, I love both my mates very much but there's a bit of a complication. In the time my first mate and I had to move back to our respective "home" states we had talked less and less. While we were apart we both 'found' a replacement of sorts. I was talking to a fur in PA rather frequently through text and online. We developed an emotional bond and a mutual attraction for one another. The fur I know in PA also has a mate, which is where things get complicated.

My 1st mate who was in his home state found someone in real life as well, but their relationship wasn't online. It was face to face and often in the same space. The guy my mate met after much discussion became my second mate after a lot of deliberation and talking to one another on FB and through text and on the phone and such. I love the boy as much as I love my first mate, they would both pull the moon from the sky for me if I asked them too. 

But I'm really torn, I love the guy in PA... He's done so much for me and I would probably be homeless at this moment if it weren't for all the help he'd given me in the form of cash assistance and the emotional support that he had created for me and I for him....

But now my mates both talk to me on a nearly daily basis and we were 'open' to a point, but recent events led me to closing the relationship... I don't want to exclude the guy from PA, we had talked about hooking up someday in the future... I don't want to close the relationship and then say "Oh sorry I love you but all those plans you have are going up in smoke." Because I know that's how it'll go down and how bad it will hurt him...

Do you think that you can come up with advice that would keep my relationship with my mates and the guy in PA intact? I'd like to not burn any bridges or take sides in all of this I really just want to find a happy medium in all of this. 

Lelouch Utsukukitsu Valentyne

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Hi, Lelouch,

Okay, lemme see if Papabear has this straight. You fell in love with a guy who then moved out of state and got his own mate. Meanwhile, you also fell in love with someone else and this other guy is in Pennsylvania and also has a mate. While you were getting close to the PA guy, he sent you money so you wouldn’t be homeless and gave you other emotional support. In addition, you have fallen in love with your first mate’s mate, which means you now love three people—I guess everyone except the PA person’s mate? Of all these people, too, the only one you have met IRL is the first mate.

Papabear’s first instinct is to say you might be tossing around the word “love” a little too freely. Furthermore, as I’ve said before, a virtual relationship is not the same as one in which you know the person in real space and time. None of these people live near you, and you don’t mention that you have any intention of moving yourself to be closer to any of them. If you don’t plan on being in the same state with any of these people, then any notion of having a real loving relationship with them is a fallacy.

Here’s what you do. 1) Pay back the guy in Pennsylvania what you owe him, making sure to thank him profusely for his kindness. 2) Downgrade all three relationships to friendships, explaining that you care for them but that circumstances prevent you from having a committed relationship. 3) Start looking for that someone special in your life who can easily be in the same room with you.

Papabear is not against polyamorous relationships per se. Sometimes they can work if all parties are in agreement as to the terms and conditions and are within at least easy driving distance. But having three lovers split between two states and one in a relationship with a person you are not interested in is, well, a complete mess. And “not taking sides” is not an option. You are heavily involved in this and you can’t just be neutral.

It’s time, Lelouch, to get your love life in order and to be a little more realistic as to what is possible and what is not feasible. Simplify things and you will be much happier.

Good luck,

Papabear

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I failed to mention this but my first mate, who lives with the 2nd mate plans to move in with me come early winter. The both of them plan on it.  

Lelouch Utsukukitsu Valentyne 

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[Note to readers: here's a great example of why it is important to include all relevant information in your letters; different information engenders different replies.]

Lelouch,

Okay, well, that is very important! So, the three of you, then, are all okay with being mates? And then the only issue being your guy in PA? I would say, then, you need to have a heart-to-heat with the PA mate. Tell him directly what is going on with your life and that you care about him and want to know how he stands on your relationship given the fact that you have these two mates? It sounds like he might be open to polyamory, too, given that he has become close to you while also having a mate. Does that sound right? Oh! And, if you haven't already, make sure you tell your other two mates about the PA guy. As long as everyone is informed about what is going on and is agreeable to it, you don't have a problem. BUT! if the PA furry has a problem with your relationship with the other two, you are going to have to end that relationship in terms of being amorous (shouldn't be difficult, as you have not had sex) and, if possible, be friends. You should also do the honorable thing and try and pay him back the money he gave you.

Make sense?

Hugs,
Papabear 

Quick NEWS:  So AnthroCon looks like they have the dates and theme set for the next four years they are:

 

July 4th to 7th, 2013 Theme: “The Fast And The Furrious”

July 3rd to 6th, 2014 Theme: “Secret Societies”

July 9-12, 2015 Theme: “Viking Invasion!”

June 30-July 3, 2016 Theme: “TBA”

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I'm a writer, because I can't draw or paint with pencils and brushes, I do it with words, but my question is, would any furry out there really care about a non yiff filled story? Actually care about a real story line with plot and stuff? Because from what I've seen on FA, only the writers who solely upload short yiff stories are the only ones with any fandom. So, mind telling me? And yes, I know this should probably in /r/Furry_Wordsmith, but that subreddit is kind of dead.

Edit1: Thanks to all of you, I'll get working on my new story right away!

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So my mom makes tails and sells them as fashion accessories. She started making them as an alternative to real fox tails. This alone would not make me think she is a furry. Then one day, while she was on her computer, I noticed she had a furry site booked marked. I didn’t really think much of this and just forgot about it. Then, my mom recently expressed interest in making a ‘fursuit’. Now she knows I have a wolf partial but she has never called it a ‘fursuit’. She has always called it a costume and I have never called it a fursuit to her nor anyone else in my family. This is the first time I’ve ever heard her use the word fursuit to describe an animal costume. Now she really has me thinking. To me it’s no big deal but still, I was a little shocked. Has something like this happened to anyone else? And how would you react?

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So Kyell Gold is at his amazement again! He will be soon posting new audio books thanks to Amazon books and an amazing voice actor. This will make me of course squirt so much easier hearing those detail lines of how his characters describe some hot foxes, etc… Stay tuned to DFB for the updates! His first book will be “Waterways” of course being the first in his series.

Look, it’s probably better if we just let the creators describe this one: “Virginia Hamm along with friends Herford Bovis and Bill E. Goat travel to Porksilvania to claim the estate of her late uncle, Otto McMonster. Little does our trio know that they must survive the likes of Count Porkula, Beefenstein, Mr. Gruff and a host of other ghosts and ghouls to bring home the bacon!” Got it? Old McMonster’s Haunted Farm was created by Brent E. Erwin, and this first full-color 48-page graphic novel in the series, Bride of Porkula, was written and illustrated by Jay Fosgitt. Ape Entertainment will be releasing it on the world this October — and if none of this makes sense to you, then check out the preview on their web site. Blah! Blah!

image c. 2012 Ape Entertainment

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Portland Library Board To Discuss Behavior Policy - CTnow

A costumed visitor to the Enfield Public Library provokes discussion about appropriate behavior in libraries.  (Update to the article previously posted by Higgs, including mention of FurFright.)



The comment I posted to the article:

This article used cursory research at best. Most furries do not dress up at all and are merely fans of animal characters in cartoons, novels, movies, etc. The costumer in Enfield may either have been invited as part of a community event, or was acting against the common sense advice of the rest of furry fandom and is not representative of it. Most costumers, like any performance artists, know not to appear uninvited or to approach anyone, especially children, without supervision, mainly for the costumer's protection from reactionary people.

For a more objective article on furry fandom, see the Hartford Advocate's "Hell Hath no Furries".

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hey guys just letting you know ive decided to get the phi-paw tattooed on my bicep

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Dear poppa bear,

I’ve never done this sort of thing before, and I’m not sure if I’m doing this right, but I’ve been stuck in a bad depression for some time now, and one of my Internet friends recommended I talk to you. I’m currently 26 years old and living in my parents’ attic, I lost my job in May, and haven’t been able to find a new one and eventually just gave up, and now my parents are telling me I need to get out, my dad mostly, as he’s always treated me badly and even said his life would have been better had I never been born, but my mom has been getting on me as well. There’s a lot of stress in my house for multiple reasons, one big one is my little sister, who has been under suicide watch twice in the past 3 years. I’m expected to always do as I’m told still, and any time I do have money of my own I’m told I need to pay my dad’s bills. I’ve been feeling much more depressed these days than I have in the past and even seriously considered walking out into traffic a few days ago when my dad left me to watch my sister’s broken down car for 3 hours. If things keep going this way, I’m afraid I might either snap and go after my dad, or do something to myself. I’m honestly not sure what I’m looking for help wise, or if you even can help, but the friend who recommended you is kind of close, and I trust them, so I decided to give it a try. 

 Sorry for dumping my issues on your lap, but I do think I need help.

Lupo

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Dear Lupo,

Many people are suffering because of this rotten economy. Papabear knows people who have been out of work for years, and it can get really depressing for sure. You have only been out of work for four months. In this depression (and I still assert we are in a depression and don’t care what economists say) that is not really very long. Papabear is guessing that, because your parents see you have quit on yourself, they are getting frustrated with you. Threatening to kick you out might just be “tough love” to scare you and get your tail moving again. Perhaps not, but that is one possibility.

I’m not sure about the circumstances of how you lost your job, but assuming it was because of no fault of your own and your company was simply downsizing for one reason or another, you need to get back at it. If you have not already done so, get a letter of recommendation or two from your former employer, revise your resume, and get back on the job search. Network with friends and relatives to see if they have leads for you, as this is a much better way of finding a job than searching the want ads or job sites online.

Talk to your parents. Show them you are putting forth renewed effort to get a job. See if they can give you any advice. And do not “poo poo” a job because it is “beneath you.” Take anything you can get at this point. Papabear has a dear bear friend he respects immensely. A talented photographer and smart guy. He lost his job and couldn’t find work, so to make ends meet he stocked shelves at Wal-Mart. He did that for three years, but finally found a wonderful job he loves and has already been promoted.

You need to follow his example. Don’t be a quitter. Once you give up on yourself, you will just spiral downward into oblivion like your poor sister. Things will only “keep going this way” if you stand by and do nothing. You got a job once before, right? You can do so again.

Your job right now is the profession of finding a job. It is practically a career in itself. It pays bupkis for a long time, but eventually there is a payout. Here’s a handy little summary of some things you can do: http://jobsearch.about.com/od/findajob/tp/tensteps.htm or http://www.wikihow.com/Get-a-Job.

The key here is to get your fuzzy butt in gear again. Drink lots of caffeine and consume lots of carbs (your health provided) and get into high gear. Exercise, too, to give yourself energy. Once you get a job—and if you assert yourself in the above way you eventually WILL get a job—then you will be able to support yourself again, move out of the attic, regain your self-respect, and watch your depression melt away. Will this happen right away. Hell, no, not unless you have a great stroke of luck. But don’t give up. Never give up.

Meanwhile, if you can, keep a social network close to you; some friends who will help support you emotionally during this trying time. Lupo, there is nothing like a good friend to get you through times like these. I hope you have one or two or more.

And, if the above doesn’t address your question adequately, please, feel free to write me again. Papabear’s door is always open.

Hugs,

Papabear

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Because I’m a horn dog most of the time. I decided to open a twitter account for all my naughty sayings and pics. The account is just not tied to furry things, but normal everyday sexual play as well. When I do talk I use the words “yiff” or “husky sniff” and only furries might get it. Check it out @NightlyFurBlog . Heck if it gets well-known enough maybe I’ll tie it to a website or somethn’ .