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All right, Papabear, after reading nearly every question you've answered on your site I think I'll like to try and step forward with an issue that doesn't appear to have been tackled yet.

My fursona is a male fox. But I'm a female IRL. But here's the thing. I'm one of those women who feel so much more natural and comfortable being represented as a male since I've always had this fantasy of being one and I relate more to men.

But at the same time, away from the fandom and IRL, I literally have no desire to physically change to the opposite gender. Not a tomboy, love my girly feminine things, clothes, etc. I like and am fine with being a biological woman. It's contradicting, I suppose, and has confused a few transgender and gay furs.

Basically, I wanted a suit done of my pretty fox self, but wouldn't know how to deal with others. Hell, I've even debated on being one of those who doesn't talk just for the sole reason of concealing my biological gender! But I like talking to others and depriving myself the chance of such just to become a mime is a shame! 

So yeah my question is... How do I explain this to anyone who asks why a lady is running around in a male fursuit in a short, sweet, and appropriate manner? I'd rather not have everyone just assume I'm transgender since I'm not. 

Anyhoo, Papabear, thank you SO MUCH FOR READING! I would really love your opinion on all of this. I'd never change the gender of my fursona regardless because it's a huge part of who I am. But I'd like to make the possible experience a little less agonizing. 

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Greetings, Fellow Furry,

First of all, I am flattered you have read through my past columns so thoroughly. Thank you, kindly. 

So, you are not a lesbian, or bisexual, and you are not transgendered. You enjoy being female IRL, but relate more to men, and in your fantasy life you like being a male character. When you say you relate more to men, I guess (since you assert you’re not a tomboy, enjoying things like football and working with tools) you mean hanging out with them more than with other women, which is not unusual. I know women who prefer the company of men to that of other women; indeed, some women dislike hanging out with others of their own sex and just want to be with other men as friends. You aren’t odd in that way.

As for your fursona being male, I look at that as being somewhat analogous to a male transvestite. Transvestites (cross-dressers, if you prefer) aren’t always gay (in fact, the majority are straight—see this article); they just enjoy dressing as women. Turn that upside down and we have a woman who isn’t a lesbian but likes “dressing up,” in a sense, as a male fox. So one way you could explain it to those who might actually ask you is to think of it in the terms of a female furry cross dresser.

You don’t usually hear about “transvestite women,” I suppose this being because in our society to see a woman wearing pants, a men’s T-shirt, and running shoes is not considered odd, whereas a man wearing a dress and high heels is considered out of the norm. Why men dress as women is still not really clear, even to psychologists, though some cross-dressing men say it relieves stress, and perhaps they just enjoy the feel of silky nylons on their legs. Similarly for you, while you enjoy being feminine, you might find the fantasy of being a male in your furry life to be a stress relief or even empowering. If you role play much in the fandom, being a male you can be more free to assert yourself strongly, even in a physical sense.

You are not the only female who roleplays as a male and yet is not gay. There are not a whole lot like you, but they are out there. 

And let’s not forget that furry role playing is just good fun. Heck, we’re talking about thousands of people all over the planet pretending they are other species, let alone genders. It’s fun to pretend :-) Just think of female authors who write about male heroes in their books (e.g. J. K. Rowling).

So, there are a couple possible ways for you to explain it to others: the lighthearted “it’s just pretend and I like to pretend my fursona is male just like you like to pretend your fursona is a wolf or a lion...,” or the more intellectual “think of it like a male cross-dresser, only I’m a female who ‘dresses’ in a male fursona.”

Hope that helps,

Papabear

Here’s the first set of new discoveries we’ve made this year at WonderCon in Anaheim, California.

Christopher Lee (no, not that one) is a graduate from the California State University at Sacramento who majored in graphic design. After working for graphic magazines, toy companies, and special effects studios, he made the bold choice to go solo as a graphic-designer-for-hire. To that end he has created a series of prints, t-shirts, and other items which he sells on his web site, www.thebeastisback.com. Among the items he’s created is Kaiju Romance, “Twenty two of your favorite giant monsters from the Gamera and Godzilla franchises falling in love in unexpected ways.” Each of these 5 x 5″ cards was hand-finished, making each one unique, and they’re available now as a set.

image c. 2013 Christopher Lee

Author: GreenReaper Ke$ ha promotes teenage delinquency, one-night-stands, petty theft and vandalism, accompanied by fuzzy animal mascots, in her latest music video, C’Mon. [allie is wired] Find the full article here: flayrah – furry food for thought Creative Commons: Full post may be available under a free license.

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Author: Fred Well, minimally. I saw it yesterday with my sister, and we loved it. More importantly for Flayrah, we saw that, although it is 92% non-anthropomorphic, there is one definite if non-talking anthropomorphic character in it: the little sloth, Belt, who serves as Guy’s belt. His body language makes him a fully intelligent character through [...]

Every year in PGH there is a giant furry convention, what do you guys do? Like what are some activities?

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Info here:
http://www.furaffinity.net/journal/4481628/#cid:32710108
If anyone is interested feel free to contact me here or on FA:)

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After traditional Canadian apologies for a two week delay, Potoroo rejoices in the world of the multigenre. This week we hear electronic, blues, pop, nerd rock, and early 90s indie goofoff...yup, this episode is so multigenre that we invented new genres for it! Music from Niteskunk, Vodka Foot, Wolfhound, Rabbit Rabbit, Galaxy Defender, Overgrown Spatulas, Party Wolf 17 and a new closer for the episode by Asid Rayne... Roo also talks (rambles?) about his experience last week at Canadian Music Week, pulls back the curtain a bit and lets you know what you're in for if you drop money on a music industry conference pass! THE MUSIC Niteskunk - Helioscope Track: http://www.furaffinity.net/view/9305011/ FA: http://www.furaffinity.net/user/niteskunk Vodka Foot - Cortex Track: http://www.furaffinity.net/view/8140150/ FA: http://www.furaffinity.net/user/vodkafoot Wolfhound - Good Vibrations Track: http://www.furaffinity.net/view/811862/ FA: http://www.furaffinity.net/user/wolfhound Rabbit Rabbit - Not Human Enough Track: http://rabbitrabbit.bandcamp.com/track/not-human-enough FA: http://www.furaffinity.net/user/bartbix Galaxy Defender - PBS Track: https://soundcloud.com/galaxy-defender/february-2nd-pbs-she-wouldnt Soundcloud: https://soundcloud.com/galaxy-defender Overgrown Spatulas - Backyard Barn (Storytime with George) Track: http://overgrownspatulas.bandcamp.com/track/backyard-barn-storytime-with-george Bandcamp: http://overgrownspatulas.bandcamp.com Partywolf17 - Without You Track: http://www.furaffinity.net/view/10220216/ FA: http://www.furaffinity.net/user/partywolf17/ Asid Rayne - Fuzzy Notes v3 Track: https://soundcloud.com/asid-rayne/fuzzy-notes-v3 --- Roo's Blog on Digital Media: http://www.dalespeaking.com/canadian-digital-music-week/ This Week's ASK! - If you listen on iTunes I would REALLY appreciate if you rate and review Fuzzy Notes so that people who stumble on the show can get an idea of what to expect! <3 iTunes: https://itunes.apple.com/us/podcast/id581600769 FIND FUZZY NOTES ONLINE: Twitter: http://twitter.com/Potoroo Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/FuzzyNotes Email: fuzzynotespodcast@gmail.com Episode 9 - The MOST Multigenre - After traditional Canadian apologies for a two week delay, Potoroo rejoices in the world of the m...

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Author: Smokescale Aquatos Greetings once more dear listeners! It is I, the Smokey one here to greet you once again! Discussion topics ranged from a possible (though unconfirmed) case of religious intolerance in Florida Atlantic University, through the Supreme Court deliberation on Prop 8 and D.O.M.A. on over to Kyo urging everyone to help save [...] Episode 80 – Away Mode

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Furbuy goes classy with some new updates, which includes adding a “furry craigslist” . The site is pretty cool, but so far I can’t see anything as it is still in beta mode. I suppose this will be cool if you need to look for something furry to buy without having to bid on a item. Let’s just see where the site takes us when it goes live.

LINK TO SITE

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Greetings once more dear listeners! It is I, the Smokey one here to greet you once again!

Discussion topics ranged from a possible (though unconfirmed) case of religious intolerance in Florida Atlantic University, through the Supreme Court deliberation on Prop 8 and D.O.M.A. on over to Kyo urging everyone to help save Radio Comix (link at the bottom of the show notes), and me going a little Matt Mirah on the cast as I geeked out about space and the American Space Program. What I failed to mention was what Wil Wheaton had tweeted, a kickstarter to edit down “We are the explorers” to a 30 second clip to be used as a teaser trailer before “Star Trek: Into Darkness” and several other films. Link to that below as well. My apologies on that, I was distracted by cool, shiny ships!

This week, we discuss vacationing! With three e-mails left over from the previous show, we had quite a lot of reading material! So, we carefully reheated them in the oven then the stove because the microwave would have made them rubbery and we read them first. We received an update from a previous message about an unfortunate aunt and how she interfered with going to FWA, another message from our lovable Aussie friend Abion, and an update regarding a young man who has only just recently begin to reconnect with his biological family.

From there we moved on to the emails for this week and we had a lot of really good tips and tricks for traveling, as well as a cautionary tale for those who had not crashed with fellow furs while on vacation. When staying at another fur’s house, use caution. One doesn’t know what one might find in the home of another! The cast even offered brief discussion on where they would like to travel if they could. Want to know about past vacations taken by the four? Write in and ask!

Next week, we will not be recording as half the cast prepares for an eminent move. We will record the week after and we want you to write in and tell us what you think of the show, not just how much you might enjoy it, though we do appreciate that, but more what you would like out of the show. Tell us what you would like to hear more or less of, topics you want us to discuss, format changes you wish to see. We are here because of you and we want to keep providing quality content you enjoy. For us to do that effectively, we need feedback. Even negative feedback (provided it is of course of the constructive type, all attempts at making Kyo’s lady parts pucker and shrivel will not be read on the air… but they will be read aloud to him).

So the next topic is not so much a topic as an open letter, inviting you to tell us what you want to hear. You make our show possible. Without you… well, that ‘quality’ would be of a very different sort and no one wants that!

Help Save Radio Comix – Be sure to read the description. Though the goal says it’s only $4000 which they’ve more than doubled already, the actual amount they owe is ten times that. There’s still quite a bit of time left. Please, give if you can. They’ve been a big part of the fandom. Don’t let them fade away.

‘We Are The Explorers’ Trailer for the Space Program – Peter Cullins’ legendary voice fit perfectly with this idea. Now they want to trim it down to a 30 second clip to show as a trailer before select films to put the space program back into the consciousness of the public. They’re already close to their goal, but it doesn’t hurt to give a little more, especially if you’re a NASA fan like Smokey. The original video is there as well. When Optimus Prime tells you to go to space… you don’t question it, you just go to space!

This week’s music break:
Fall Out Boy – Light ‘Em Up

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Episode 80 – Away Mode - Greetings once more dear listeners! It is I, the Smokey one here to greet you once again! Discussion topics ranged from a possible (though unconfirmed) case of religious intolerance in Florida Atlantic University, through the[...]

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As of recently I have been having a bit of a sexual orientation crises. Now I have always considered myself straight, having quite a few girl friends with a sexual relationship. Now I do find women attractive but as far as sex, I do not find it all that pleasing, almost more of a chore. I have not had a real sexual experience with another male other than oral sex, witch I have enjoyed more than any form of sex with a girl. But I have been having thoughts of being with another man and I am not sure if this means that I am gay or bi. I just wanted to see what others had to say.

note I am 21, and even though that is young I still have had quite a few relationships and none of them have been all that pleasing to me. Hell half the time my soldier will not stay at attention

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