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Dear Papabear,

Um hello, this advice column thing is pretty new to me so I'm a bit nervous with it. But from reading the archives you seem to be a very wise and helpful bear so I wanted to at least try it. Do you ever have trouble letting go of bad experiences of the past?

You see, when I was seven years old I stayed at a cousin’s house for two nights. I was happy cause I got to play his Nintendo 64 (I'm a big video gamer even now). One day when I was playing he told me that I couldn't play it anymore even though I didn't do anything bad. I begged him to let me play and he said I could if I did something. He made me give him a blow job, making me suck him 10 times without touching his penis with my teeth, if I did I had to start over again.

He didn't ejaculate in my mouth or anything, but after that happened when it was time for bed he bound me to the bed tying my wrists and ankles to it with the bed sheets telling me to try and get out myself.

All these years I had blocked the memory from my mind, but now its back and I just can't get over it. When I think about it, it could have been the main reason why I'm bisexual today. I hate my cousin for what he did, I'd find him but I can't remember his face. But even more I hate myself, I was too gullible as a kid, doing whatever I had to to get what I want. I know I shouldn't blame myself but how can I not? Sometimes I just don't know what to do.

I really don't know if you can help me or not. But still, I would like to have someone to talk to about it. That's all I really want.

Kageichi

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Dear Kageichi,

It took courage for you to write about this traumatic event in your childhood. Papabear hopes that he is not the first one you have talked to about this. I will state right from the beginning that the best thing for you to do is seek help from a professional counselor experienced in childhood sexual abuse. I will give you some information on that below.

First thing's first: DO NOT blame yourself for what happened to you. The blame lies SOLELY on your twisted, sick, manipulative, criminal cousin. DO NOT hate yourself for what happened. I cannot emphasize enough that THIS WAS NOT YOUR FAULT!

Some time has clearly passed since you were raped. Blocking those memories is a common thing for victims to do, but now, as inevitably happens, those memories have come back to haunt you. You say you cannot confront your cousin because you don’t remember his face, but do you remember his name? There is no statute of limitations on rape in the United States (meaning that even if this happened decades ago, he can still be charged with rape). Papabear’s concern, among others, is that this cousin of yours has raped more people than you and he should be stopped. For this, you need to seek an attorney. Proving the crime at this point might be difficult, due to lack of evidence by this time, but, if you can recall his name, you can still talk to an attorney; find someone who does some pro bono (no charge) work in the field. To start, try contacting the Council for Child Abuse and Neglect: 500 Indiana Ave. NW, Room 4415, Washington, DC 20001, phone 202-879-1406, http://www.nccafv.org/.

But that is just one thing. Even more important than that, at the moment, is you and your well-being. There are many potential side effects to rape, including low self-esteem, drug and alcohol abuse, sleep and eating disorders, sexual dysfunction, and even suicide. This is serious, and, while there are some things you can do to help yourself (everything from taking care to stay healthy, meditating, and reading books), it is very important that you seek professional help as soon as possible.

An excellent place for you to start is the Rape, Abuse & Incest National Network at www.rainn.org. The website is a treasure trove of information on everything from the criminal to the psychological aspects of rape. They also have information on how to find local counseling centers that can be of help. The website also includes information on their national telephone hotline.

Kageichi, what you experienced is one of the worst crimes possible short of murder. Thank you for reaching out to Papabear as a first step. Now, be brave, think of yourself, and take the next steps I have mentioned above. Papabear is here for you if you want to talk more, but you need to seek out the professionals, as well.

Be Well, God Bless, Blessed Be,

Papabear

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Somehow I thought it would be more popular than it was. Maybe there is something to put in it now?

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Hey guys, I haven't really nailed my fursona yet but I am a cat. Im 17 and work as an IT admin, I love to play video games (cross-platform) and hanging with my friends. I play paintball and love to dirtbike XD.

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Basically, I don't know if I'm a furry or not. I've never really even been given a full definition of what a"furry" is, so I was hoping someone could inform me of that as well. Here's the deal:

• I am in no way attracted to animals. I,personally, find bestiality horrific.

• I am not attracted to those full furry suits. I am however found of things like this and wish to acquire one of these types of outfits. (Anyone know where I can?)

• I am extremely attracted to animalistic behavior such as growling, crawling on all fours, clawing, etc...

• I do see myself as a black cat (cliche I know, but it fits very well).

• I'd totally be up for getting it on with the previously mentioned suit in an animalistic way.

Am I a furry or do I just have some odd fetishes (besides BDSM)? I hope I don't seem like an ignorant person, I just wasn't really sure of where to post this. Thanks for any help! :D

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Author: Isiah Jacobs Isiah takes a closer, in-depth look at his recent reviews. Find the full article here: flayrah – furry food for thought Creative Commons: Full post may be available under a free license.

Our friends at Cartoon Brew have a link to the first trailer for the new Teenage Mutant Ninja Turtles TV series, premiering this fall on Nickelodeon. This new CGI series (similar to the TMNT feature from 2007) features the voices of Jason Biggs (American Pie) as Leonardo, Sean Astin (Lord of the Rings) as Raphael, Rob Paulsen (Animaniacs) as Donatello, and Greg Cipes (Teen Titans) as Michelangelo. “Nickelodeon’s Teenage Mutant Ninja Turtles chronicles the adventures of the teenage turtle brothers as they emerge from their hidden lair in the sewers for the very first time. Ready to confront the wondrous and hostile world of New York City, they face enemies more dangerous and pizza more delicious than anything they could have ever imagined.” The trailer premiered on Nickelodeon last Saturday.

image c. 2012 Nickelodeon

Author: Fred The Cartoon Brew just posted this 1 1/2-minute

anyone willing to draw my pets as anthros?

grizzly and sammy(sammy is the only girl): https://dl.dropbox.com/u/1796937/photos/2011-02-19%2005.37.30.jpg

big guy: https://dl.dropbox.com/u/1796937/photos/2012-03-04%2010.43.55.jpg (small white patch on belly)

turbo: https://dl.dropbox.com/u/1796937/photos/2012-02-08%2020.15.12.jpg

dash: https://dl.dropbox.com/u/1796937/photos/2012-04-26%2016.41.05.jpg

little guy: https://dl.dropbox.com/u/1796937/2012-06-24%2021.54.08.jpg (he is fat and has a big white belly)

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This week on UnFurled stuff happened.

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Go and listen to find out just what happened and enjoy it. Also sorry this is posted late. Rl is stupid sometimes.

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Hello all, Akira here. Been lurking for a while now, and finally made my own account. Boring old Siberian (or Amur) Tiger, who generally enjoys being lazy (what cat DOESN'T?), playing video games, airsoft and building/fixing computers. I sell cars for a living, but want to get into IT. Any questions, feel free to ask!

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Author: Fred The first line in this science-fiction novel is: “When I woke up, surrounded by talking dog-people, it was clear we’d strayed pretty far from the mission parameters.” (p. v) There are a talking chimpanzee in a smoking jacket, cravat, and pin-striped trousers; a gigantic lion with a hairless human head; and a robot [...]