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Ask Papabear - Sun 15 Jul 2012 - 11:30
Hi Papabear,

I've read through some of the letters you've replied to, and the replies, so I figured I'd man up and look to you for advice. I'm living with my boyfriend of six months, and his parents. I've been with them for about a month or so. I feel absolutely out of place here. I mean, I used to come down with my boyfriend when he lived in my hometown, and I loved it down here. The move was unintentional, but at first I enjoyed it. After about the second week, I started feeling a little out of place, but I continued on like everything was absolutely perfect. I recently started feeling worse about being here, and feeling more out of place. I'm feeling lost, as well. It's like my moving here has just thrown off my psychological equilibrium. I don't know what to do anymore, and really feel that there is just something wrong with my being here.

Thank you for taking the time to read this,
Skylar Darkpaw

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Hi, Skylar,

Well, first obvious question: why can't you move back where you were?  I feel there are some details being left out about the circumstances of the move. Please elaborate.

Thanks!

Papabear

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Hi Papabear,

I guess, the reason I can't go back is more of a personal, rather than anything else. I turn twenty-one this year, actually very soon, and I have been trying to be more and more independent as time has gone. I absolutely hate relying on my parents, but I'm regretting having to rely on my bf's parents. I haven't really been able to figure out what to do with my life, either. I've gone to school for computers, with government funding, which fell through, I wound up failing my classes, and could not go back without paying my tuition out of pocket, and then, having skidded around that problem, I attempted to go to school for music, which is my passion, but, again, failed my classes. I don't know if I'm just being too focused on my independence, or if I'm just not cut out for it. Back to the main point though, it's mostly an independence versus dependence issue with me, with a small side of monetary issues.

I hope that gives you all the detail you asked for, if not feel free to ask for more.

Thanks again,

Skylar Darkpaw 

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Hi, again, Skylar,

Okay, it sounds to Papabear like being "out of place” actually means “not feeling good about being dependent on my bf’s parents.” So, you tried going to school to study computers and then music, but failed in both. This could be for a couple of reasons: perhaps you lack discipline and focus to succeed in a classroom setting, perhaps (and you don’t say this) you have a learning disability, or perhaps you just are not cut out for either of these fields, despite having a passion for them.

In order to gain your bearings again and not feel lost, the best thing for you to do is to find a job that gives you self-confidence and makes you feel like you are contributing and becoming independent. Now is the time to sit down with people you know (your parents, boyfriend, other people you know and respect) and talk to them. Tell them you really don’t want to be a burden to people around you and you want to find something you can do with your life and be productive. 
Be open-minded about their suggestions--don't dismiss them out of hand if you don't like them at first.

Skylar, I think you will find that talking to other people can provide you with real insights about yourself. Those around you often see things about you that you yourself cannot see, and they can then offer suggestions, perhaps even find you some job leads that will get you interviews and employment.

Start to network and build a list of potential mentors and contacts. Work on this for at least a few hours every day. Your diligence will not only eventually pay off in unexpected ways, but the people around you will gain immense respect for you because you are really making an effort to contribute. This, too, will help you feel more like part of your adopted family and you will find yourself fitting in much better.

Good luck!

Papabear

Kailin Fox in real life

Furry Reddit - Sun 15 Jul 2012 - 10:03

pics from various furmeets and califur

http://imgur.com/a/r4PhE#1

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Ghostbusters' fursonas - help me out

Furry Reddit - Sun 15 Jul 2012 - 06:20

I want to make a fanart picture of the movie Ghostbusters with the main characters as furries but I'm not sure which species to make them. I've been looking on FurAffinity but it seems to be mostly people putting their own characters in the suits. So what you guys think their species should be and why?

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Hey.

alt.fan.furry - Sun 15 Jul 2012 - 05:46
So, lol. hi, i'm new here. And, this group's pretty much dead :P
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FC-91 Love Puddles - Puddles of love. THEY'RE EVERYWHERE. SO MANY PUDDLES. D:

FurCast - Sat 14 Jul 2012 - 22:59

Puddles of love. THEY’RE EVERYWHERE. SO MANY PUDDLES. D:

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FC-91 Love Puddles - Puddles of love. THEY'RE EVERYWHERE. SO MANY PUDDLES. D:
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FC-91 Love Puddles - Puddles of love. THEY'RE EVERYWHERE. SO MANY PUDDLES. D:

FurCast - Sat 14 Jul 2012 - 22:59

Puddles of love. THEY’RE EVERYWHERE. SO MANY PUDDLES. D:

Download MP3

Watch Video News: Emails:
  • Shaco – “Question for Furcast : Chibi Yiff. Sent by : Shaco The Hyena =^,…,^=”
  • Vexamillian – “Mentionable Inspiration”
  • Anonymous – “Open me PARADOX for hot, hot sex…”
  • Cole Husky – “Podcast”
  • Nanashi – “One apology, one question, one small gift.”
  • Straight Lion – “A couple short and sweet questions.”
  • Tyler – “I’m a furry! Now what?”
  • Anonymous – “Howling”
  • SexyPurplePeagasus – “Help!!!”
Breaking News:
  • 2 The Ranting Gryphon Studio Invaded by FBI RAID!
FC-91 Love Puddles - Puddles of love. THEY'RE EVERYWHERE. SO MANY PUDDLES. D:
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[Series Reboot]Live From the Hop Inn Episode 222

Furry News Network - Sat 14 Jul 2012 - 22:39
Author: Harvi We’re rebooting the podcast! Now you can take part in the Hop Inn from the beginning! When we catch up to the current episode we’ll update our iTunes Feed to point over here instead of the old, soon to be gone, site. We’ll be adding more information and links as this site progresses [...] [Series Reboot]Live From the Hop Inn Episode 222
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So I play Feral Heart...

Furry Reddit - Sat 14 Jul 2012 - 19:44

Yes, I know a lot of 13-year-old girls play it, but I like it because it's super-easy to modify just about anything in the game.

Right now I'm working on releasing a series of presets (modified UV maps on characters) based on the works of different artists. So far I've got one for MC Escher, VanGogh, Leonardo daVinci, and Jackson Pollock.

http://imgur.com/a/NsBdU#3

Let me know what you guys think or if I should post this elsewhere...

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Canidae Survey rough draft

Furry Reddit - Sat 14 Jul 2012 - 19:26
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‘Courageous Cat’ to get film treatment

Furry News Network - Sat 14 Jul 2012 - 18:25
Author: Higgs Raccoon Evergreen Media Group has acquired the rights to Courageous Cat and Minute Mouse, a cartoon series from the 1960s. Courageous Cat, created by comic book artist Bob Kane, was a parody of Kane’s better-known creation: Batman. Courageous Cat and his sidekick were a crime-fighting duo who lived in the Cat Cave, and, [...]
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Episode 18 - Welcome back to WagzTail! This week we read several of the comments we have received in the past few weeks. Thank you for your thoughts! One of our listeners, Crimson_X, was kind enough to share one of his poems with us.

WagzTail - Sat 14 Jul 2012 - 18:10

Welcome back to WagzTail! This week we read several of the comments we have received in the past few weeks. Thank you for your thoughts! One of our listeners, Crimson_X, was kind enough to share one of his poems with us. Unfortunately I don’t know any of his online profiles, or I would encourage you all to support him. Crimson_X, if you see this, please let me know.

This week we talk about exotic pets. Also potatoes. Don’t ask about that one, just listen. What’s the strangest animal you’ve seen in an exotic location (for those of us who have ever traveled of course), and if you could have any exotic pet, what would it be?

Listeners, I’d like to hear your thoughts on it, too. What have you seen, and what animal would you have (if there were no ethical dilemma raised)? Please comment below.

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Runtime: 30m
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Need a Mood Change?

DailyFurBlog - Sat 14 Jul 2012 - 16:45

TaniDaReal strikes again with her famous mood badges. She has four new sets coming your way to Eurofurance or ONLINE (HERE) . Looks like your new choices are Pine Marten , White Ermine,Ferret and  Otter. For my cons I just need Suiting Duh!, Drunk, sleepy/moody and doing it all over again from yesterday .

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Review: ‘Save the Day’, by D.J. Fahl

Furry News Network - Sat 14 Jul 2012 - 16:02
Author: dronon Save the Day by D.J. Fahl is a 2010 novel published by FurPlanet; it’s both a gay-coming-out story and a superhero drama. It’s a decent read, although there’s room for improvement. The novel is set in contemporary America (Portland, mainly), except superheroes are a new phenomenon that have only appeared in the last [...]
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Furry Is Having an Identity Crisis

Ask Papabear - Sat 14 Jul 2012 - 15:43
Papabear,

In my life, I have always been rather confused about myself. I identify as furry, I identify as otherkin, and know I don't feel human. Through my various identities, I have made a lot of friends who are also furry...Yet sometimes I feel like everyone knows who they are, and yet I do not. 

I'm currently 23, biologically female, and have struggled with my identity since I was 15. When I was younger, I simply knew my identity isn't human... I still know that. Yet, no matter what I do, I keep "changing" my fursona, kintype, etc. My friends think I'm a shifter, yet I suspect there's something more psychological going on ... blocking me from myself. I knew myself better when I was younger.

Now I have no idea what my fursona, kintype, etc. is...

The things I do know are:

I mentally do think like an animal. I growl when angry, make a "crowr" sound, I whimper, I even mental shift. I chew affectionately, I'm possessive of food, so on. All these things come very naturally to me. Yet they sound quite generic, I am told.

I also know that I identify as, to an extent, a unicorn, but I feel as if there's something else there...As I have sometimes described it, I am a unicorn, I AM an animal, meaning that I'm a unicorn in soul, but otherwise I am something else entirely. (Aside from human, of course). I see that something else as being a mental state, and very ingrained. Sometimes I'm not sure which one is the more legitimate identity.

I've been going on and on with my search since I was 15, and people have doubted me a lot, and tell me quite frequently that I change all the time, why should they listen this time?

I just don't know what to do, I have no idea what feels like me anymore, or what I feel like....

I need some help with sorting through my confusion. Do you have any advice?

~Epona

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Dear Epona,

The physical forms that we inhabit in this present life can be viewed of as if they were a shell or articles of clothing or, perhaps more apropos, fursuits. As you seem to realize, our real selves lie within these shells, and this real self is actually only a piece of a larger part which is the Spirit that informs all of Reality.

Most people in the world, for lack of a better phrase, “buy in” to the idea that they are their outer forms. This is about as logical as saying, "I am an Armani suit," or "I am a football uniform." So, a person who is born as, say, a white male is raised and comes to believe that this is what he truly is. But that is not really the case. A great non-furry example of this is people who struggle with gender identity, such as a male who believes with complete certainty that he is actually a female trapped inside a male form. The medical community is doing more and more to alleviate this conflict in such people through surgery and hormone therapy.

This disparity doesn’t necessarily apply to just gender, of course. Papabear, for example, believes that he has bear spirit within him. But this, again, is just one aspect of my personality. Many furries feel a connection to just one other type of animal, but it doesn’t always have to be so limited. Some furries feel connection to more than one type of animal, or even to creatures (such as unicorns) that are mythological on this planet (but who is to say there are not unicorns, dragons, or other fabulous creatures on other worlds or in other realities?)

Epona, you are one of those people who is apparently gifted with a more open spirit that can connect to multiple aspects of yourself. What you need to realize is that you are confusing form with spirit. Just as my spirit is not the same as my human or even my bear form, your spirit is not just a human, a unicorn, or some other type of creature. These are just shapes, outer appearances and behaviors.

So, what I recommend is that you stop being obsessed with finding out who you are in terms of species and instead find out who you are in terms of the spirit that has no outer form. I always recommend some form of meditation for this type of exploration, whatever works for you, as long as you take some time to try and focus on your spirit regardless of form. What are your qualities? Your feminine and/or masculine aspects, your intellectual aspects, your emotional aspects, and your spiritual aspects. Discover your spirit first. Once you do this, it will be like a person who is getting measurements made for a custom outfit. Once you know what your inner dimensions are, you can then figure out best what outer form fits you the best. But always remember, this is just an outer form and not as important as what is underneath.

I hope that helps.

Hugs,

Papabear

Browsing FA

Furry Reddit - Sat 14 Jul 2012 - 13:43
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A dragon I drew for a commissioner. :)

Furry Reddit - Sat 14 Jul 2012 - 06:52
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