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Ok, I just got soda up my nose. This was made by a Racoon named Ringer who seems to be a very silly person.
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The Beauty of Small Cons
Guest post by Thurston Howl. Thurston is the editor-in-chief of Thurston Howl Publications. The author of several novels, short stories, and poems, he prides himself in the Ursa Major Award winning essay collection he edited, Furries Among Us. He received his BA in English at Vanderbilt University and his MA in English at Middle Tennessee State University. Aside from running a publishing house, he teaches English at a local college, plays piano, dances, and is actively training to be a coffee connoisseur.
Ed. note: I got so overwhelmed with other stuff that I forgot to post this! My apologies to Thurston and to his readers!
All year long, furries see it all over the social media: “3 days till AC!” “Can’t believe I’m on my way to MFF!” Or, my personal favorite, “Suffering post-con depression after that big con.” Yet, we never hear enough about the less famous small cons. Wikifur has published a list of conventions by attendee participation. It shows 55 furry cons, ranging from 58 participants to over 7,000. The arithmetic mean (average) of the participants for a con was 1,027. Yet, cons that average around that number are generally called “small cons.” I have been to more small cons than large ones. So, here I shall provide five reasons for why small cons are better—or at least, as good as—large cons.
- More intimate social connections: The last small con I went to was FangCon in Alabama this past October. I participated heavily in the Writing Track as both a panelist and a panel-goer, and it was delightful to run into the same people over and over again. Rather than seeing a person once in the con and never seeing them again through the crowd, I ran into them over and over again throughout the con. Three writers went to each of the Writing Track panels, and that wasn’t unreasonable; I felt like we had a pack of writers going throughout the con. When I socialized outside the panels, I’d get to run into the same people multiple times over the three days I was there. I got to know people more intimately than just a chance introduction. I would worry that being at a large con, people could easily be overwhelmed and not really be able to add as many contacts, especially if they were particularly shy. Small cons give you five or six rooms people will be at, and you can move between them with ease, cycling through them multiple times, getting to know people gradually and allowing you to have multiple conversations with the same person more easily.
- Less overwhelming personal schedules: At FangCon this year, at one time, there might be two things happening: maybe a panel in one room and a game in another. I think at one point, there were three panels happening at once, but that was after the Dealer’s Den closed too. When I planned out what I was going to do for the con, generally, it was a fairly quick and painless procedure. A or B? C or D? And it went on just like that. When I look at schedules for larger cons, my eyes are glazed over from staring at the tons of panels offered throughout the day and well into the night. A couple of years ago, I went to Mephit Fur Meet near Memphis, TN. I remember at that time, there being two panels I really wanted to participate in, but they happened at the same time. That frustration must be tripled for people who frequent the larger cons. Small cons completely eliminate that frustration.
- Sleep: Spirits above, I get to sleep at small cons. All activity is pretty much dead by 11pm. There’s usually a dance after that, but in my experience, there’s usually ten people or less that go to that at small cons. And things don’t pick up until 10am the next day. I just get to chat with my roomies all night or just socialize. Still, this opportunity to not be sleep-deprived for the duration of the con enables really thought-provoking discussions at panels consistently, and it allows you to take advantage of the multi-hundred-dollar hotel room you’ve saved up for.
- Local color: People don’t travel from New York to go to an Alabaman small con. It is just an incredibly rare occurrence. The people who frequent small cons are almost always locals. This means you can get a better glimpse of local culture when visiting small cons. You don’t know what that’s like until you see fursuiters with camoflage clothing, speaking in Southern accents, and having a barbecue at the con. In this way, small cons become so unique, from each other and definitely from the large cons.
- Indie culture: Furries are already not considered mainstream. However, there are still “popufurs.” Going to a small con, you are guaranteed to meet artists you’ve never heard of; authors you’ve never read; and musicians you didn’t know existed. The Dealer’s Den is full of craftists and hobbyists, with board games, soaps, bracelets, and more, not just furry gear. You will find the most hipster of furries at small cons, and that creates such a warm, family environment, rather than “name-brand” furry.
Now, here is a list of a few small cons, where they are, and what they’re about.
- Mephit Fur Meet: This is a con in Olive Branch, Mississippi, really close to Memphis, TN. This is a great Southern con to go to. They have great music and writing tracks, and their Furry Drama Show is always amazing with Calamity Cougar and Keefur involved. Always a great time to see the wonderful Phil Geusz, too. With the mascot of a skunk, the con has always been the largest contributor to the Knoxville charity, Tiger Haven.
- Furry Siesta is an unusual small con in Addison, Texas. It is a two-day event that is really just a huge furry gathering. They don’t have panels or guest appearances or workshops. It’s like a humongous furmeet in the summer. It is the perfect environment for people who just want a big hangout without all the commercialism (not that it is necessarily a bad thing; just a better idea for more frugal furs, or furs who are only into the social aspects of the fandom).
- FA: United is a small con on the east coast. Originally, it started as a con that was ran by FurAffinity, but now it is technically run by the person who owns FurAffinity. The con frequently is represented by FA admin Fender, and art is often a major focus for the con. It participates in usually vivid themes, with the 2016 one being “Masquerade of Beasts.” Their website proudly boasts that congoers consumed over 200 pieces of sushi at this year’s con.
- Furlandia is a small con in Oregon, and its themes proudly boast of different periods from the Iron Age to 1929 (their 2017 con theme). Since the con’s being adopted by Rainfurrest, their con has grown to almost 800 members, and their guests of honor are “popufur” artists typically. Still, it is a wonderful con to visit if you are just looking for a well-designed con and interesting furs.
Note that while I defend small cons, I am not attacking large cons. Large cons are wonderful events, and I would never recommend someone not go to them. However, I definitely also support the underdogs of conventions for their intimate culture and decreased stress. I can’t ever recall even feeling post-con depression after a small con. I heavily recommend furries frequent their local small cons if you don’t already.
So furries, ever onward.
Guild news, January 2017
Welcome to our newest members, Jaden Drackus and Sibir! If you’d like more information about joining, read our membership guidelines.
Member newsIf you’d like to be listed here, please post your sales/publications to the Member News section of the FWG Forum! It’s the primary source for these news bits.
Jako Malan, Televassi, Frances Pauli, Alice Dryden, and Mary E. Lowd sold stories to Fred Patten’s anthology Symbol of a Nation.
Bill “Greyflank” Kieffer has sold a short story collection set in his “Aesop’s World” milieu to Jaffa Books.
Fred Patten’s book Furry Fandom Conventions, 1989–2015, will be available from McFarland Books later this month. It’s already available from Amazon for preorder.
Speaking of Fred, his latest FurPlanet anthology, Dogs of War, is premiering at Further Confusion this January with a boggling 23 stories, many of which are by FWG members (including a couple who are getting their membership via this publication).
And, speaking of FurPlanet and FC, Kyell Gold’s new Forester Universe novel, Love Match, and Watts Martin’s science fiction novel Kismet both debut there.
New markets- Arcana is a new anthology of furry fiction themed around the Tarot, edited by Madison “Makyo” Scott-Clary and published by Thurston Howl. The anthology will accept twenty-two submissions, one for each of the major arcana cards. Length: 2,000–5,000 words. Payment: 0.5¢/word. Deadline: March 31, 2017. Submission guidelines.
- Furlandia, the furry con in Portland, is looking for stories of 1,000–3,000 word length, themed around “1929: Age of Prosperity.” No deadline or pay rate given, although most con books pay in copies only. Submission guidelines.
For ongoing markets previously covered but still open (and occasionally, open in the future), visit the FWG web site:
Remember to keep an eye on the Calls for Submissions thread on the forum, as well as other posts on the Publishing and Marketing forum.
Odds and endsIf you’ll be at Further Confusion in San Jose, come see the FWG at the Meet and Greet on Sunday, or attend any of the dozen other writing-related panels—most of the panelists are FWG members!
The Tuesday Coffeehouse Chats continue to take place on the FWG Slack channel, while the Thursday chats continue to take place on the shoutbox.
As usual, we’d like to keep recruiting you to the FWG Goodreads group: add things to our members’ bookshelf (see the instructions here on how to do that), start conversations, draw rabbit ears on other authors’ head shots, and so on.
Have a terrific month and start to the new year! Send news, suggestions, feedback, and coffee to furwritersguild@gmail.com, or leave a comment below.
The Furry House – a base for creativity and community.
Ever been to a furry house?
They don’t smell like barns or zoos, with shedding all over the place. But they are full of nerdy games and comics, fursuit parts, and framed animation and fursona commission art on the walls. Sometimes there’s art that might cause awkwardness during a pizza delivery or surprise visit from mom. But it’s not for them. It’s by and for fellow furries when they get together for meets, parties, art jams, and movie screenings as a community.
A furry house is a special place. It’s more immersive than activity by yourself. If you live there, you’ll never get PCD. It’s a dimensional crossroads where the limits of reality dissolve and you can be furry 24/7.
Inside the Prancing Skiltaire.
Bases for creativity.
Culture gains energy from physical bases. It’s hard to say what comes first – a gathering place, or an industry that produces what people want. I guess it can depend on categories of subculture.
Fandoms are one type that seem to form out of the air. They’re made by media before they materialize in space.
Look at the beginning of modern fandom. I’ve heard academic “aca-fans” say that it started with Sherlock Holmes. Arthur Conan Doyle’s fictional detective got popular in 1887 with the growing business of cheap printed mass media (which then gave birth to the modern art form of comics.) That history is for another time, but it’s useful for looking at how industry can lead culture.
(I remember seeing Miyazaki’s Sherlock Hound on my first visit to a furry house in the mid-1990’s.)
On the opposite level from such big happenings, there’s cottage industry. That’s part of the subculture of furries, who aren’t exactly tied to large permanent spaces or industry. This fandom isn’t like ones led from the top. It’s more grassroots – look at the rise of fursuiting from home-based creation.
Houses that gather for an interest or ideal are hotbeds of creativity. It’s baked into their foundations. You can find it in back in 1960’s counterculture communities, punk houses and squats, and industrial live-work art spaces. (Those are in the news now because of a national purge on them, after the Ghost Ship fire in Oakland CA. It got attention here from one subculture to another).
Furry houses are part of why furries are special and different from other fandoms. They make me curious, because they’re very under the radar. They don’t advertise and if you’re not a fur you probably have no idea that they exist.
Photo tour of Wild Life studio, by Tommy Bruce.
Fursuit making with Tanidareal
The beginning of furry spaces.
Do you know of any other fandoms that have their own houses?
I barely do, but there were some for old-school science fiction fandom. They had ‘Slan Shacks’ (named after classic novel Slan, by A. E. van Vogt, about a race of superbeings.) And they had clubhouses. In the late 1970’s those helped furry fandom to form. One of the roots was anime fan meets at the Los Angeles Science Fantasy Society. (Fred Patten can tell you a lot about that.)
“Fred becomes editor of Rowrbrazzle at the LASFS Clubhouse in January 1989. Present are former editor Marc Schirmeister, and Bob Hill as a Bambioid.”
Furry grew with the 1980’s indie publishing boom. Cons began to support furs to gather for short events. Then things exploded with the internet. It enabled a niche to gather with freedom beyond small local areas and limited access to media. When they began share homes, many were in for keeps.
Those ones used to be looked down on as ‘lifestylers’. That seems like a fairly useless judgement now, after it’s grown to an international network of cons and members. Some can do fan stuff for a career. Others even partner up and make multiple generations together.
Furry houses now.
For some local groups, they’re like community centers. They’re all over the place, but the San Francisco Bay area (and the West Coast US) has more than I know of elsewhere. They can go from very informal roommate sharing, all the way to animal rescue sanctuaries, party venues, or even places with BDSM dungeons.
One is a platform for fursuiting that hosts monthly nights for DTD building. (You need at least 3 people to make a Duct Tape Dummy, and it helps if they are furs who know what that’s for.)
I can imagine one day having furs pitch in to support a 24/7 furry clubhouse – a place for a library, game nights, art jams, and projects like building parade floats. (I wonder where Australia’s Sydney furs built their LGBT Mardi Gras parade float? I’m told it took most of a year to plan and execute.)
World’s biggest furry joke from the OzFurs at Sydney’s LGBT Mardi Gras
How about a place to customize and keep a furry event truck (with art on the outside and a mobile fursuit lounge inside), with sound system included for the many street fairs and Burning Man events that Bay Area Furries love.
There is interest, and as fandom grows maybe there will be a critical mass to make it real.
So when does this post show you the inside stuff? Sorry, I don’t have the wherewithall to go visit and document a furry house at this time. (But check Tommy Bruce’s tour linked above.) I have a feeling that it would be better to hear from people who live in them.
Got any stories for the comments?
Saturday Morning on the Printed Page
Looks like we might have to wait a while for this one, but it might well be worth it. The Pink Panther Cartoon Hour Special is a one-shot full-color comic headed our way this June. Here’s what the publisher has to say: “Did you grow up watching The Pink Panther on Saturday morning cartoons? We did! This awesome new special brings back Pink and all his pals in brand new comics! Welcome back the Texas Toads, Misterjaw & Catfish, The Ant and the Aardvark, and many more! Now grab a bowl of cereal and rush to the comic shop to enjoy that nostalgic mix of hilarious hijinks again!” It’s brought to you by S.A. Check, Adrian Ropp, Bill Galvan, and the folks at American Mythology.
image c. 2017 American Mythology
S6 Episode 9 – Abusive Relationships & Enablers in the Fandom - It's a sad truth and something we've all seen - abuse exists in the Furry Fandom. So do the enablers who don't want to see their friend as an abuser. Nuka joins Roo and Tugs this episode to d
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Show Notes
Special Thanks
Vulture 01
Dronon
Dave Lenfair
Jason Vinsick
Mika the Glowing Bunnifox
Addi Fennet
Cody
Music
Opening Theme: Husky In Denial – Cloud Fields (Century Mix). USA: Unpublished, 2015. ©2015 Fur What It’s Worth and Husky in Denial. Based on Fredrik Miller– Cloud Fields (Radio Mix). USA: Bandcamp, 2011. ©2011 Fur What It’s Worth. (Buy a copy here – support your fellow furs!)
Some music was provided by Kevin MacLeod at Incompetech.com. Licensed under Creative Commons: By Attribution 3.0 License. We used the following pieces:
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Space News Music: Fredrik Miller – Orbit. USA: Bandcamp, 2013. Used with permission. (Buy a copy here – support your fellow furs!)
Closing Theme: Husky In Denial – Cloud Fields (Headnodic Mix). USA: Unpublished, 2015. ©2015 Fur What It’s Worth and Husky in Denial. Based on Fredrik Miller – Cloud Fields (Chill Out Mix). USA: Bandcamp, 2011. ©2011 Fur What It’s Worth. (Buy a copy here – support your fellow furs!)
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Next episode: What grinds your tail about the Furry Fandom? What just makes you hate something about it? Our next show, "What do you hate about the Furry Fandom" will be accepting responses via email until January 19, 2017. S6 Episode 9 – Abusive Relationships & Enablers in the Fandom - It's a sad truth and something we've all seen - abuse exists in the Furry Fandom. So do the enablers who don't want to see their friend as an abuser. Nuka joins Roo and Tugs this episode to d
Hound Dogs and Otters and Bears, Oh My!
Hollie Hibbert was born to be an artist, she says at her web site. “Growing up in Idaho, crayons, colored pencils, and markers were her most loyal companions. However, the thought of becoming an artist never crossed her mind until college. She has a big soft spot for hound dogs, otters, and especially bears.” To that end she has created fine art prints, theater posters, and also fan art works. She has even illustrated several books for young readers, all of which have anthropomorphic interest: An Orphan No More (a story of adoption) by Jerry Windle and Jordan Windle, The Three Bears ABC (which uses the classic fairy tale to teach the alphabet) by Grace Maccarone, the Dolphin School series by Catherine Hapka, and Pupunzel (you can guess!) by Maribeth Boelts.
image c. 2017 by Hollie Hibbert
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FC-255 Printing Partners - Back after the holidays we boot up the studio an- We bought a house.
Back after the holidays we boot up the studio an- We bought a house.
Watch Video Link Roundup:- This month’s National Geographic features furries
- [adjective][species] will be at Further Confusion
- Cards Against Humanity filled the Holiday Hole
- Tailpipe ducks
- Infected Mushroom Manipulator Plugin Demo
- Inkbunny has an awesome revisions changelog
- Vice does large article on Brazilian furries
- Relationship anarchy blog posts you might find interesting:
- How and why the leap second affected Cloudflare
- Canada’s Experiment: is this the world’s first “postnational” country?
- Flayrah posts review of Furries Documentary
- “Talented Furries Wanted for Public Access Show”
- Telegram tweets to furries that they will fix asterisk bolding
- GoFundMe – Help for Tarak’s Funeral Costs
- Music Break Link: Patrick’s Midwest Furfest 2016 Con Video Part 1
- Music Break Link 2: Sly Bunny – Zootopia Pogo Style Remix by Smuffy
- $1 Million Prize Awaits Winners Of X-Rated ‘American Idol’ (NSFW)
- [DNews] If Antlers Are So Heavy, Why Do Animals Have Them?
- ‘Ninja Turtles’ Porn Parody Will Shell-Shock You (NSFW)
- People Are Freaking Out Over This Horse Toy’s Very NSFW Undercarriage
- German Man Comes Home, Finds Brick Wall Blocking His Door
- Pair Of Google Home Devices Claim They’re Human, Quote Nickelback
- Qorrux – “A Cat Raised by Dogs?”
- Ashdon – “0w0”
- Commander Wolfe – “Bit of a problem”
- Serf Raccoon – “Difficult understanding: Value of spending”
FC-255 Printing Partners - Back after the holidays we boot up the studio an- We bought a house.
Back after the holidays we boot up the studio an- We bought a house.
Watch Video Link Roundup:- This month’s National Geographic features furries
- [adjective][species] will be at Further Confusion
- Cards Against Humanity filled the Holiday Hole
- Tailpipe ducks
- Infected Mushroom Manipulator Plugin Demo
- Inkbunny has an awesome revisions changelog
- Vice does large article on Brazilian furries
- Relationship anarchy blog posts you might find interesting:
- How and why the leap second affected Cloudflare
- Canada’s Experiment: is this the world’s first “postnational” country?
- Flayrah posts review of Furries Documentary
- “Talented Furries Wanted for Public Access Show”
- Telegram tweets to furries that they will fix asterisk bolding
- GoFundMe – Help for Tarak’s Funeral Costs
- Music Break Link: Patrick’s Midwest Furfest 2016 Con Video Part 1
- Music Break Link 2: Sly Bunny – Zootopia Pogo Style Remix by Smuffy
- $1 Million Prize Awaits Winners Of X-Rated ‘American Idol’ (NSFW)
- [DNews] If Antlers Are So Heavy, Why Do Animals Have Them?
- ‘Ninja Turtles’ Porn Parody Will Shell-Shock You (NSFW)
- People Are Freaking Out Over This Horse Toy’s Very NSFW Undercarriage
- German Man Comes Home, Finds Brick Wall Blocking His Door
- Pair Of Google Home Devices Claim They’re Human, Quote Nickelback
- Qorrux – “A Cat Raised by Dogs?”
- Ashdon – “0w0”
- Commander Wolfe – “Bit of a problem”
- Serf Raccoon – “Difficult understanding: Value of spending”
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Back after the holidays we boot up the studio an- We bought a house.
Link Roundup:- This month’s National Geographic features furries
- [adjective][species] will be at Further Confusion
- Cards Against Humanity filled the Holiday Hole
- Tailpipe ducks
- Infected Mushroom Manipulator Plugin Demo
- Inkbunny has an awesome revisions changelog
- Vice does large article on Brazilian furries
- Relationship anarchy blog posts you might find interesting:
- How and why the leap second affected Cloudflare
- Canada’s Experiment: is this the world’s first “postnational” country?
- Flayrah posts review of Furries Documentary
- “Talented Furries Wanted for Public Access Show”
- Telegram tweets to furries that they will fix asterisk bolding
- GoFundMe – Help for Tarak’s Funeral Costs
- Music Break Link: Patrick’s Midwest Furfest 2016 Con Video Part 1
- Music Break Link 2: Sly Bunny – Zootopia Pogo Style Remix by Smuffy
- $1 Million Prize Awaits Winners Of X-Rated ‘American Idol’ (NSFW)
- [DNews] If Antlers Are So Heavy, Why Do Animals Have Them?
- ‘Ninja Turtles’ Porn Parody Will Shell-Shock You (NSFW)
- People Are Freaking Out Over This Horse Toy’s Very NSFW Undercarriage
- German Man Comes Home, Finds Brick Wall Blocking His Door
- Pair Of Google Home Devices Claim They’re Human, Quote Nickelback
- Qorrux – “A Cat Raised by Dogs?”
- Ashdon – “0w0”
- Commander Wolfe – “Bit of a problem”
- Serf Raccoon – “Difficult understanding: Value of spending”
Penguin & Peep, Moose & Bear
Monica Bruenjes specializes in animation, children’s book illustration, & comics. She is the founder of Subarashii, a creator-owned company designed for providing you with “Splendid artwork for a joyful life.” To that end she has created an on-line comic called Penguin & Peep. “Best friends and polar opposites, Penguin & Peep go on adventures in hopes of having the perfect day together. Penguin loves his home in the zoo, but Peep is always looking for something new.” Also on her web site you’ll find information about Moosebear, a TV series concept which Monica has been trying to pitch. “In the Alaskan woods behind her house, a relocated California girl determined to fit in becomes friends with a magical creature trying to help his no-nonsense neighbors.”
image c. 2017 by Monica Bruenjes
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Introducing… Aggretsuko!
Sanrio (Hello Kitty) has introduced a new character, a Red Panda. "Aggretsuko is a cute Red Panda, working as an office associate in the accounting department of a highly respected trading company. She works in one of the biggest metropolitan areas of Tokyo. It’s always been a dream of Aggretsuko to work as an accountant, especially in this part of the city. But in reality, her bosses are unsympathetic and give her harsh deadlines. She ultimately has become a pushover within the company. When she gets pushed to the limit, she goes out after work and takes out her frustration and stress with heavy metal Karaoke sessions!"
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Five Steps to Help You Find New Love
It's been 3 years since I first wrote to you, and I am very happy to see you once again. Since I last contacted you, I've gotten past my nightly existential problems with your suggestions. What's more is over these last few years, I have made some huge steps forward in my life.
These days I've found myself in an actual successful career, in good health, and recently moved out of my folk's place and into a nest of my very own with a couple close friends as roommates.
But with all this success and joy that I've worked to get to... I can't help but be the loneliest bird in the nest.
Within the past few years I've had a few relationships that went south. Abusive relationships, cold or toxic (in one case both) relationships. Even a horrid long distance relationship. Most recently one that physically abused me. That one ended ... well terribly. Since then I've been focused on my career too much to even start thinking about having another relationship. But now that things have leveled out and my schedule has given me a few days of freedom every now and then. I'm thinking about dating again.
I've considered online dating, mainly because I've tried having my friends set me up with my last few relationships. I've been on the fence with actually pulling the trigger on filling out one of those online profiles and trying it. I'm just afraid that I will end up worse off than I was earlier this year. It's really hard to find an example of the questions that each individual sites ask and I'm afraid I will get invested in something and not be properly represented. Then either disappoint someone I meet through it or scare them away. Or just end up heart broken and constantly going onto the next person hoping that they might be 'the one.'
My question is, is online dating actually worth the trouble or should I just stick to the 'old fashioned way' of dating?
Either way, I hope someday soon I can find someone to fill the empty spot in my nest.
From,
Dimitri (The Lonely Phoenix, age 26)
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Dear Dimitri,
I’m glad my reply to your 2013 letter was helpful, and thank you for writing again. Life is about problems to be faced, challenges to overcome. Fix one issue, and the next will knock on your door after that. Let’s work on this one.
There is nothing wrong with meeting someone online (that is, actually, how I met my beloved, departed, Jim). You can look at online dating as another tool in your belt to be used. It really doesn’t matter how you meet someone; what matters is the chemistry between you.
Letting your friends play matchmaker is clearly not working for you. They probably don’t understand what you need. Many people, when playing this game, look only at the outside (“Oh, isn’t s/he cute?” “Oh, s/he has money and owns a cool car!”, that sort of thing).
You say you’ve been in some bad, even abusive relationships. I’ve seen this happen to lots of people before. It happens for a couple reasons: 1) as noted above, you’re using the wrong measuring stick; 2) you’re too desperate and lonely, so you grab onto the first person who shows even the mildest interest in you; or 3) you have low self-esteem issues and don’t believe you can do better (especially true in the case of partner-abuse situations).
First thing you need to do is recognize and believe you are a worthwhile person who deserves love. Once that happens, you won’t allow people treat you like the gum on the bottom of their shoe, which will delete a lot of reject material from your list of candidates. Remember, if you can’t be yourself around this person, then they are the wrong choice.
Second, work on being a better judge of character. Part of this is trusting your instincts. If you feel there is something “off” about someone, something that doesn’t feel right or is perhaps even disturbing, then listen to that voice in your head and back away from them. I had this experience not too long ago. A guy who was actually quite nice in many ways, as well as financially secure, but there were some things about him that, eventually, I realized made him not the guy for me.
Third, at the same time that you are being discriminating, you must also allow yourself to be open to possibilities. You might meet someone who, at first, makes you think, “Oh, I could never be with someone like that!” But then you find, if you get to know them more deeply, that they are actually terrific! Often, this is because the person is hiding behind a mask that society told them to wear. Lift off the mask, and you find an actual human being.
Fourth, do not rush, take it easy, don’t push. Allow things to evolve organically. When you meet someone who seems really great, don’t jump into bed with them. Get to know them first. Sex will come when you’re ready.
Finally, of course, be good to them in return.
And that’s how it’s done.
Good luck!
Papabear
A Wolf and Dog Trading Places
“Lynn Chen is an illustrator / animator / 3D environment artist originally from Szechuan, China. She loves to travel and draw cute creatures. With an Animation major background and the professional experience in video game industry, she combined her illustration with animation to create interactive picture books that make kids laugh.” The first of those books in question would be Woolly and Shaggy, which is currently available as an app. According to the official web site, “Woolly Wolf lives in the forest and get tired of hunting; Shaggy Dog resides in the town and get bored from herding sheep. What would happen if they decide to exchange their lives?” The site includes an introductory animated short which Lynn put up on Vimeo. She also has her own personal web site to display many of her other animation projects and full-color illustrations.
image c. 2016 by Lynn Chen
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Episode 335 - Derpy Deeds Done Derp Cheap
Savlonic – Epoch
The Living Tombstone remixed Savlonic (MrWeebl's) song Epoch. I do love the graphic style ... so very Apple II+. The Original Track: https://youtu.be/voOLx2SeP2g
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Does Furry Culture Encourage Unsafe Sex?
There's something that I have been wondering about. Last week I went to the doctor to do my first HIV test and everything went OK, but I have noticed that safe sex is not something you see in the furry.
I'm sure that unconsciously leads to people to risk themselves with bareback sex. In my country it's common to begin with sex at 14 or 15, but if you are gay you can't tell anyone because they start with "You are going to burn in hell f*g", "What did I do to deserve this?" thing.
And well... The only information you can get is through Internet or friends, but in the time I have been in the fandom, just a Fox friend and ex-mate talked about condom. When I told my friends I was going to do an ELISA [a test for antibodies in the blood that could indicate an infection] they looked at me like I was the devil or something.
Why safe sex and sexual diseases are so excluded in a community like ours?
Toichi (age 16, Bogotá, Colombia)
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Dear Toichi,
Thank you for bringing up a perennially important subject: safe sex.
I think you make some shrewd observations here, Toichi. Papabear has seen some risky behavior in the fandom, indeed. There appears to be some misinformation and false conceptions within the fandom. A big one is the belief many people have that if you’re not feeling sick or don’t show any symptoms, then you are safe. Here are some facts about that:
- HIV: you can be HIV positive for as long as 10 years without expressing any symptoms. During that time, you can pass the virus along to sex partners if you don’t use protection. (By the way, in the United States at least, knowingly having unsafe sex with someone when you are HIV positive is a crime).
- Herpes: about 1 in every 6 Americans ages 14 to 50 has herpes in some form. While it is most contagious during a breakout, you can also pass it to others when you are not showing symptoms.
- Gonorrhea: most common among young women, it can often be mistaken for a yeast or urinary infection. If left untreated, it can cause infections in other areas of the body, such as the heart, joints, brain, and blood. It can also adversely affect pregnancies.
- Chlamydia: also most common among young women, it is, like gonorrhea, often misdiagnosed as a bacterial or yeast infection. Undiagnosed and untreated, it can lead to pelvic inflammatory disease, causing permanent damage to the fallopian tubes and infertility.
- Human papilloma virus (HPV): this one is rather tricky, too. It is a very common virus and, interestingly, wearing a condom does not always afford protection against it. HPV sometimes, but not always, expresses itself as genital warts. In some cases, it can lead to cervical cancer, which is why HPV vaccinations are recommended for young women. The good news is that even if you have it, the body can eventually defend against it and cause the virus to be eradicated. Many people with HPV never know it and have no symptoms.
One factor about the attitude of furries and STDs, then, is that they are ignorant of the facts and the dangers. Another factor is trust: furry communities and friends within it can be tight, and people often extend trust to their friends that are not wise or deserved (“Trust me, I don’t have any STDs. I’m fine. Let’s play without condoms!”) But it’s not just friends, it’s a culture. Once, my mate, Yogi, and I were out with some furries at a restaurant. A female furry leaned over to my partner and, placing a paw on his knee, said (not kidding), “One of the great things about being a furry is you can have sex with anyone.” Yogi looked at her and said, “I’m gay. Don’t you see me here with my boyfriend?” As you can see, stupidity plays into this, too.
This attitude can be encouraged by the atmosphere of the furcon. Furry conventions are often places where young and old furries go to their hotel rooms and have sex. A lot of this has to do with young furs who are managing to get out of from under their parents’ shadows and go a bit wild. To be fair, this is not unique to furry conventions. From what I’ve learned from other business convention attendees, a lot of sex and cheating goes on here. One time, Yogi was at a journalist convention. He opened up a closet door, looking for a conference room, and saw two people making out in it.
Yet another factor has to do with advances in HIV medicine. The advent of PreP (a medicine you can take to protect against HIV infection, although it doesn’t protect against any other STDs), as well as better treatment for AIDS patients has caused people to believe that HIV is no longer as dangerous and that, consequently, safe sex is not necessary.
The website [adjective][species] has a thoughtful article on the topic, too: http://www.adjectivespecies.com/2012/10/08/furries-hiv/. Here, the writer suggests some other factors, including that HIV is “scary,” so people do not like to talk about it, which makes them more ignorant of the facts and dangers. The article also suggests that the “incestuous” furry community has a higher rate of STDs within it, making infection more likely.
And there you have it.
Ignore your friends’ scorn, Toichi, and be the smart furry you are. Always play it safe.
Hugs,
Papabear
Talented furries wanted for ‘Public Access’ show.
Furry friends, I’m honored to share a special invitation to you from media producer Ben McShane. A professional studio is being offered for you to make YOUR video show. (Please be aware this is on site in Burbank, CA.)
When Ben’s call for furry talent came to my inbox, I had to be careful to screen it. (We know about ‘the media,’ right?) I saw that Ben’s genuinely into cool stuff, has worked on some shows you may know (Battlebots, Shark Tank), and is associated with Nerdist. I’m copying from his resume to show the guy who’s inviting you:
Producer, Project Alpha – Legendary Digital Networks / Nerdist Industries
“Currently I am the producer on a number of shows for Project Alpha, the exclusive, interactive, live-streaming SVOD portal for Legendary Digital Networks. I manage a small budget, oversee staff hires for the shows, and lead creative. Many hats!
Live broadcast and digital content are exciting new frontiers for me as a producer. As a life-long table top gamer and über-geek, coming to work with the Nerdist and Geek & Sundry families has already been one of the most memorable stops of my career. I can’t wait for the shows to launch so I can say more!”
Check Project Alpha and browse the shows to get some idea of what they already have… I sense a great opportunity.
Ben shares details of the project:
“On Public Access, we turn our Nerdist stage over to people from outside the company to produce their show for 22 minutes. I bring the stage, the lights, the crew… the on-camera folks bring the show.
I’m completely sensitive to the public perception issues that can make furry fans wary… but the great thing is, whoever steps up and does “the furry show” on Public Access gets to control the content 100% – within the technical confines of our stage. The show streams live; there’s no deceptive editing or after-the-fact commentary.
The only other restriction is that everything has to be clearable. Everyone appearing needs to sign a one-page appearance release, any artwork shown needs a one-page materials release signed by the artist, etc.
I definitely want the show to include fursuits in some form, because a user clicking in will find it visually striking, but I think a broader “insider” fandom discussion, that either directly or indirectly dispels misconceptions, would be terrific. Or it could be 22 minutes in fursona. It can be almost anything. I’m really just looking for someone within the fandom to take charge and “make it so!”
Public Access shoots in Burbank, CA on Sundays from 3:30p to 6:00p. I have slots open on 1/8, 1/15, and 1/22 and am really hoping to get something from the community on one of those dates.
All shows are 22 minutes long and tape live. We set the stage for your show, lock our three cameras, and the board operator switches cameras back and forth live as the show streams-out. Some technical and creative limitations…
It’s a three camera show- Once the show begins, we can’t reposition cameras; cameras are locked
- It’s difficult to fit more than four people on stage at a time
- We can play graphics, sounds, and roll video clips
- All persons appearing on camera need to sign our 1 page release
- All intellectual property needs to be cleared with our 1 page release
- After streaming, the episode’s live on our site. Clearance releases are non-exclusive (the owner retains rights to those works), but our non-exclusive license is worldwide and perpetual; meaning the parent company can continue to show the episode after it streams indefinitely.
3-5 days after taping, the show’s live on our site video-on-demand. We air on Project Alpha, a subscriber-based portal from the same folks who do Nerdist and Geek & Sundry. Alpha offers 30 day trials, so your fans and friends can sign-up to watch your show for free. Here’s the site: www.projectalpha.com. If you sign-up for a trial, navigate to Shows, “See All,” and then find the Public Access page, you can see some of the previous shows we’ve filmed.” (- Ben)
Again, this happens on site in Burbank! Some furries are already involved. New responders might either join them or talk to Ben about doing your own.
Serious responders, please send a short intro about your capability, and a short message about what kind of show you’d make. I’ll forward.
Email to patch.ofurr@gmail.com.
Do You Want Philip To Be Free?
Mengyao Zhang has been working mostly as a layout artist and lighting specialist while he completes his studies at the Savannah College of Art and Design in Georgia. Most recently he and his team have been hard at work on his thesis film, Philip — and now they have a Kickstarter campaign up and running to get the film completed. “It tells a dystopian story about Philip who’s trying to free himself from the rules in his world. The story of this film is based on the black and white film Metropolis from 1927. The aesthetic of the film is influenced by German Expressionism and tells a story which is dark in appearance but warm in the heart.” Oh, did we mention that Philip and his world are all cat people?
image c. 2017 by Mengyao Zhang