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I just saw all the downvotes to this post. We are all aware that Avocado is the #1 safest recreational substance that you can enjoy right?

I just love getting Avocado at furry cons and then seeing all the fursuiters all around me. It's awesome!

In case you don't understand

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Hello there!

Greetings from Germany! I really like your site, you sure are a wise man! My problems aren’t easy to put in a nutshell, so this might take some time to explain, but I appreciate every advice.

It all started when I met this guy, three years ago. Yeah, I know that's a very common opening ^^. We became very good friends in no time, but he told me there's no way we could become boyfriends. Because his father doesn't like the thought of his "good" son liking other men as well, because he feels some responsibility toward his family, that kinda stuff. I should mention that he is Thai, so of course he has different moral standards, very different. But yet, after a year we became boyfriends. It kinda happened, we just get so well together I guess it was inevitable, even though we're so different in many ways (or maybe that's the reason). 

My parents know that I'm gay and have no problem with it, especially since they know my boyfriend. Since he's a true paragon of courtesy even my mom gave up her fears that I might end up with the wrong person, and we sure did spend many good times together, not to mention he helps me a LOT with my extreme coyness. We went to conventions, museums, zoos, events, many places were are lots of people, which isn't quite easy for me, I tend to feel very uneasy between masses of people, but he makes me feel better. We even went to some gay pride parades, I would never done this by my own.

So, what's the problem? For one, his father. He always told me stories about his dad, so I didn't actually want to meet that man. But one night we were at a train station far away from home at 3 o'clock in the morning, and the trains just stopped. I tried to call my parents, but I didn't reach them, so we had to call for his dad. Damn, I was so afraid to meet him at last! My bf told me to act completely normal, since his dad doesn't know his son has a bf now. Then he came to pick us up, he seemed quite normal to me, but the next morning he told me his dad asked if I was mentally disabled, because I looked like a retard to him. Well, I never met the parents of one of my boyfriends or gay friends, but I sure didn't expect THAT! Then I met his dad one second time, he was getting something and I was waiting with his dad outside. His dad doesn't know much German, so I didn't expect a big talk, but then he suddenly turned away from me and went some steps away, without even looking at me anymore!

I guess you can see his dad is a very difficult person to talk to, and I gave up any hope for us to ever come out to him. He really is the perfect stereotype of an east Asian patriarch, who wants his son to be a good student, to marry a good woman and to raise good children. In addition to that he wants his son to return with him to Thailand as soon as possible, another reason why he didn't want us to become too close. And even more, he WANTS to return with his dad, and to raise an own family. Okay, I don't want children (lol) but that made me wonder why he suddenly chanced his mind and wanted to become my boyfriend. Sometimes I wonder if it's just his father’s influence, but that's the main reason our relationship doesn't seem to have such a happy future.

We did have many little fights lately, but nothing too bad since every relationship has its ups and downs, so it actually makes me feel just even more like we're a real couple by now, but you see… the bitter end is just inevitable, since he actually seems to want all the things his father wants. He's just too much of a good soul and too loyal to his old man, I guess, but it does kinda hurt to know that his father's interests are more important to him than me. I don't think he wants to hurt me, heaven forbid! But it became really hard for us recently, and I started to think, is it worth it to trudge through the last few years we have till it has to end? Because sometimes I think it's hard for him, too, that he has to hide me from his family, while my family truly loves him for everything he is, he even got to celebrate Christmas with us, and he got almost more presents than me ^^. But the next day already he was upset again, his great pessimism has always been his worst side. I just don't know how to help him, to help US.

Anything I can do?
Hyperion

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Dear Hyperion,

When Papabear was still living in Van Nuys, there were a lot of Thai families in his neighborhood and two of my best friends were from Thailand, so I am somewhat familiar with the culture. As with many Asian cultures, family is very important and the wishes of the parents are a lot more respected than they are here in the United States. This, I’m sure, you are familiar with by now.

Your boyfriend is in a difficult situation. On the one paw, he loves you (willing to bet) and he loves being with you in a relationship. On the other paw, he has been raised to respect his father’s wishes and to be an obedient son. After reading your letter a couple of times, Papabear’s inclination is to predict this: your boyfriend will enjoy his life with you as much as possible and for as long as possible, but when the time comes, he will obey his homophobic father, return to Thailand, marry, and do what his family wants. Will he be miserable? Of course he will, but that, to him, is secondary to family.

In fairness, I do not know this young man, except from what you have said here and from your insights. The mixed signals you are getting from him are the telltale signs of a soul in deep conflict between what he wants and what he believes he is obligated to do. It is certainly possible that he could overcome his feelings of duty to family and do what is best for both of you.

Hyperion, you don’t tell me about your age or living circumstances, but would I be correct that you and your Thai boyfriend are both in school now? And, when you are done with school, his father will take him back to their homeland, yes? 

Here is one possibility: after your boyfriend earns his degree, would it be possible for him to obtain a work visa? If he had a terrific career opportunity in Germany and took a job there, then he could become financially independent and remain in your country and be with you. Maybe he could even convince his father that this is a great opportunity for him and that he should stay instead of going back to Thailand.

It sounds like, however, you believe he will go back to Thailand no matter what. Instead of speculating what he wants, have you sat down with him and had a heart-to-heart talk? Ask him, frankly, where he sees your relationship going. Is he just in it for the short term? Or, does he want to go the distance. You two have been together long enough that you deserve to know his intentions. Don’t let him fudge: get an answer from him, one way or the other. 

If he admits it is just for the short term, then it is up to you what to do. Do you want to enjoy him while you can? Or would you consider this just a waste of your time because what you really want is a committed relationship? If the latter, it is time to go your separate ways. If the former, you will still separate but maybe have some more good memories to share.

If he says he really wants to be with you, then it is time for you to step up. Tell him that you realize he is being pressured by his father to return to Thailand and live a traditional life, but you really love him, and if he wants you to be a couple you will stand by him, support him through thick and thin to make it possible. It sounds like your family is supportive of you, so perhaps you can enlist their support as well. Tell him it is time he spoke honestly with his father, told him that he is gay, and that you will be with him every step of the way, no matter how well or badly it goes.

In the end, it is his decision what he wants to do, but the two of you need to communicate your goals and needs clearly before you take the next step.

Wishing You Luck and Love,

Papabear 

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From what the rest of the Internet tells me, you furries are mostly disgusting basement-dwellers doing lots of weird stuff to please their sexual urges. I'm not a furry in any way, but I'm just curious what you furries have to say about this stereotype. Please be honest, as I will not be judging you if those things are true, I just want to hear what you guys think about this.

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I'm trying to "expand" my skills, just write your request below. Pretty much anything you'd want.

First thing ive learned: how to spell "QUEUE"

trying not to think of how much money i could be making X3

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Of course I had to talk about my trip to AC at some point and just so happen to come across this thanks to my friend Neko.  So, as for me the trip was amazing and everything went amazing. I’m glad everyone like my suit and my acting in it to bring it to life. For AnthroCon if you didn’t already hear hit we hit over 5,000 furries this year with over 900 fur suits. The local news paper of course got wind of this and the “Save Fernando’s” thing so they did a little piece on it. Head over here and read or watch the video at the bottom. Also good job to Neko for getting in the main pic.

Didn’t make it to AC2012 and wanted your chance to get a copy of “Unconditional” ? Well now is your chance to get your paws on something hawt. Rukis just posted she will be signing and sending out copies of the book for $20.  IF you also feel so inclined to get your murr load off on so extra pics, you can get the Special Edition copy for $40 which will give you some extra yummy pics.  Check out the original post here and how to order yours today!

Looks like someone popped a load all over the place and also hit 16,000 views. Yes, Anhes posted a AMAZING murr purr flash thingy on the FA site. Look for the hidden “click” to make a horsey happy and explode a load (horny husky today sorry) .  Here is the page link. Also congrats on the 16,000!!!!

the question could be, how does the wolf phipaw? and the answer be, by going to a fur meet.

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Alright, so hopefully there are some fur's out there that read this awesome web-comic called The Oatmeal The basis of this fun-raiser has quite the comedic history and hey. It helps animals and it helps fight cancer.

If you fellow furs are interested in helping out toss some bills to Bearlove good. Cancer Bad. Be nice to see us make a bit of difference once in a while _^

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Hello and welcome once again to the WagzTail podcast! This week, listen to us talk about our favorite furry accessory and where or when we would wear them. Also learn more than you ever wanted to know about the health benefits of chlorinated water.

Metadata and Credits WagzTail Podcast 2.0 Episode 15
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http://www.huffingtonpost.co.uk/2012/06/18/breakdancing-furries-video_n_1605416.html?just_reloaded=1

Random article is random lol. It doesn't seem to be talking about anthrocon, just furries in general as a whole. good going I guess? :p


What's a 'furry', you ask? Well, that's a fair enough question. A furry is a person - to quote Wikipedia for a moment - who likes to dress up as a "fictional non-human character with human characteristics".

That is to say, a person who likes to dress up in a human-like wolf costume (or the like) and have a load of fun whilst wearing it. There's no denying that's a smidge odd, of course, but what's important here for these furries who go to furry conventions is that they're obviously having the time of their lives.

To show you what we mean, here's a video from last year's 'Anthrocon' at Pittsburgh, Pennsylvania, which shows a group of more athletic human beings (in their 'fursuits') giving it some on the dancefloor to the tune of Missy Elliott's 4 My People. As you do.

And for some animals behaving like humans, here's a video gallery of some cats and dogs and so on pretending they're one of us. N.B. None of them actually breakdance. Sorry about that.

Gotta love the Japanese sometimes — especially their animation, of course. Kanokon is a direct-to-video animated series from Media Blasters.  It is decidedly adult in nature, though not pornographic. Here, we’ll let them describe it: “Kouta, a country boy who lives with his grandfather, is moving to the city to attend high school. Changes come with his new home and new school, but nothing could have prepared the gentle young man for girls, specifically a bombshell fox spirit named Chizuru! As if her aggressive advances weren’t enough, he also catches the attention of a frosty wolf spirit named Nozomu. Kouta is dragged into supernatural events as a result of his contact with the two girls, and his school life only gets more chaotic by the day. But with a girl who gives ‘foxy’ new meaning and another howling after him, things are looking up for his love life.”  Now Media Blasters have released all the Kanokon episodes in one DVD collection.  RightStuf.com has information on it and other special releases from the series.

image c. 2012 Media Blasters