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I have been kinda lurking around this subreddit for a while, and would like to get into the furry community. Can i just get like... a tour guide? I dont know how to put it, just someone to help explain this fandom to me.

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Hey papa bear,

I’ve been struggling a lot lately with stress and life in general.

My family has a lot of crap that always comes up, yet I can't say anything and I’m supposed to just take all the bullying from the external sides of the family during the holidays. Seeing this pressure stresses my mom out to the point every year, in November she loves Christmas but as soon as it's December, she's about to have a nervous breakdown from the external family taking everything out on her.

On top of that stuff, my mate is trying to move out to a friend's house in California as quickly as possible, but I’m getting more and more stressed out by how hard he's having it now where he lives currently.

I don't know what to do anymore papa bear.... I feel like I’m either a ticking time bomb waiting to explode and just nuke everyone with a rant and my emotions. Yet at the same time, I feel like I’m being sucked back into the depression I had during junior high school when I wanted to kill myself.

Am I taking all this to heart WAY too much and am making myself go insane, or am I being too selfish and need to focus on my immediate family and mate and help them out?

very confused pup,
Owen

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Dear Owen,

Ah, the traditions of Christmas.... eggnog, festive trees, the lights, the garland, food, relatives and STRESS! By “external” relatives, Papabear gathers you mean the “extended” family, such as uncles, cousins and such? And it sounds like they all flock to your house, where your mom has to cook and clean for them and entertain them. She sounds like the kind of person who takes a lot on herself to try and make everyone happy.

People often put stress on themselves. This is something Papabear is very guilty of himself, so take my advice with a grain of salt because I have a hard time following it myself. I’m betting you take after your mother, allowing things beyond your control to stress you out and even inviting in more stress into your life unnecessarily. But, too, you mention this “bullying” by your relatives. I’m not sure what that means, but it doesn’t sound like something loving family members should be doing.

Then there is also your mate and your concern for his move and his home situation that is causing you stress.

One thing we need to learn in life is to not get stressed over things that are beyond our control. You, Owen, cannot control how your mother reacts to relatives and the stress she puts on herself, nor can you control what is happening to your mate. In both cases, you can offer your love and support, but you need to adopt a Buddhist attitude and not burden yourself with other people’s stress.

As for your relatives, you say you are “supposed to just take all the bullying” from them and keep your mouth shut. Given that you have a mate, you are old enough to defend yourself. This is what I call “getting your GRRR on.” You should not have to take verbal or physical abuse from anyone, and if your parents tell you to “just take it” they are not being supportive and loving parents. The extreme end of this is parents not listening to their children when they have been sexually harassed by a relative (a situation Papabear has seen several times from letter writers). Wouldn’t you say those victims have the right to their family’s support? Same goes for whatever is happening to you. You have a right not to take abuse from others and to stand up for yourself. Period. If is to the point of, God forbid, criminal abuse, and your parents don’t listen, then time to contact police or social services. If it is just teasing and making fun of you, then make fun at them back, tease them back. Don’t allow yourself to be a doormat to nasty people. Even though blood is supposedly “thicker than water,” that doesn’t give your relatives license to be cruel to you.

That said, I must continue with this comment: you suggest you might become suicidal from all of this stress just as you were back in junior high. Really? Suicidal because your family is being a pain and your mate is having a stressful move? Owen, try and get a little perspective here. These situations, while a pain in the butt, are certainly FAR from cause for committing such a drastic act. Actually, there is NO cause for suicide Papabear can think of (with the possible exception of suffering excruciating pain from a terminal illness; I’m not advocating that, but it is understandable).

I’m glad you wrote to me, Owen. I hope this letter gives you a little objective perspective. When we are living within our own lives and our own perspective, sometimes things seem magnified and more desperate than they really are. Are you in good health? No one in your life is grievously sick or dying? You have enough money to get by? A place to sleep, food to eat, clothes to wear? Then you can get through this without doing anything radical.

In the meantime, you need some stress relief. Papabear always advocates exercise and meditation to help. There’s another thing, too, if I may be a little naughty: sex. I’m not sure where you live in relation to your mate, and I’m assuming you’re of legal age for this, but a terrific way to relieve yourself of stress would be to perform some mattress athletics with your mate *wink wink*.

So, Owen, take a deeeeeeeeeeeep breath, realize you are not in charge of everyone’s life and therefore not responsible for their stress (though you can offer help), defend yourself from derpy relatives, and relieve your stress with exercise and meditation techniques.

Good luck! You can get through this!

Papabear

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I got a new FA account relatively recently, and I was wondering what some of your favorite artists were to +watch. I would love to really see some quality and diversity! Hit me with all you got!

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Author: actfuronair From their early days in antiquated chatrooms and terrible geocities home-pages with scrolling marquee banners, to their current glorydays across twitter and deviantart; Social sites have been the bread and butter feeding the growing community fandoms, furry included. What sites brought us along and what places do we fondly remember spending our teenage [...]

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Must Christians be wimps, or can they defend themselves? Today we discuss this teaching: “When a man hits your cheek, turn to him the other also.”

Very interesting topic today, you don’t want to miss it.

Hosts: Levi, Spenser, Wolfin
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Daily Show: December 12, 2012 - Must Christians be wimps, or can they defend themselves? Today we discuss this teaching: "When a man hits your cheek, turn to him the other also." - Very interesting topic today, you don't want to miss it. - Hosts: Levi, Spenser, Wolfin

OMG! This is actually one of the better of the most entertaining videos for a con I’ve seen in a while. The video has hip music and somewhat of a main character. It gives you the better go around of MidWestFurfest 2012 in Chiacgo, IL this past Nov. 2012. Like any con there is hard parts to edit and what to keep, they did a good job on this though. Sadly I was doing other things and my video I don’t even know how to edit because it’s barely any footage, but I’ll have it up soon. Be sure to pass this one around and give hugs to the maker “Syd Stoat” who gets two paws up from me (rare yes) and hope the works doesn’t go over looked.

From many sighted sources a big announcement was made from the down under country today. MidFur (Melbourne in December Furmeet – Yes Melbourne Australia…Google it) is looking to change its name, date and hotel spot after this Dec. 2012 con. The change of course seems to be with only good reason,  “getting to big” . The convention now houses about 445 Australian furs and gathers more each year. This all sounds like great news, because it means they are doing very well. Hell, maybe one day I’ll be able to hang out and meet a blond hair, blue-eyed and muscled Australian ready to sweep me away. WANT MORE?

Author: Isiah Jacobs Isiah offers his own thoughts and analysis on Roar as a part of a twelve-part review series. See also: Reviews of Roar 4 by Roz Gibson and Fred Patten. Find the full article here: flayrah – furry food for thought Creative Commons: Full post may be available under a free license.

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Our thanks (we think) to EbonyLeopard for pointing this out to us…  In keeping with the current “New 52″ line of re-boots for venerable comic book stories and characters, DC Comics brings us… Captain K’Rot. Yep, it’s Captain Carrot, the 1982 super-funny-animal creation of Roy Thomas and Scott Shaw!, re-imagined as “a borderline psychotic, booze swilling, whore-mongering rabbit” for the new science fiction comic book series Threshold (from Keith Giffen and Tom Raney). Some are saying this is all inspired by the new (and popular) kick-ass version of Rocket Raccoon that has been appearing in Marvel Comics’ Annihilation: Conquest. Others are saying it’s a re-incarnation of good old Bucky O’Hare, created by Larry Hama and Mike Golden back in the 1980′s. Either way, you can decide for yourself. Threshold hits the stands in January, and Captain K’Rot makes his first appearance in issue #3 in March. Read more about it at Comics Alliance, too.

image c. 2012 DC Comics

 

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Author: Fred Chakat Goldfur reports that MiDFur 2012 (14), Australia’s largest (474 attendees this year) and oldest (since 1999 as a house party; 2008 as a convention) regular Furry event, will be the last under that name or in December. Its next meeting will be under the temporary name of Egyptian Nights, January 10-12, 2014, [...]

Author: GreenReaper Some say there’s no money in porn. But furry porn? That’s a different story. Crowdfunding has proven very popular, funding projects from digital aardvarks, roleplaying rats and space-abducted foxes, to fluffy ears, Furcadia’s ‘Second Dreaming’ and seemingly every other work by M.C.A. Hogarth. Twokinds raised enough to buy a good-sized house. Furotica is [...]

Great episode! We discuss "To Do" lists, Bible football, Alkali redecorating his cubical, the Final Fantasy concert, and THE AMAZING SHATTERING DOOR. Also, check out our YouTube channel for highlights. - http://www.youtube.com/user/DraggetShow as always, you can leave your questions and comments on draggetshow@gmail.com, we love hearing from you! Ep. 48 - The Amazing Shattering Door - Great episode! We discuss "To Do" lists, Bible football, Alkali redecorating his cubical, the Fi...