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So mister papa bear ...

I hope for advice and clarification on relationships.

First my family and I are doing a bit better and I've gathered my self and applying to everything that's offered.

Second is something a bit more complicated and why I’m contacting you. I always liked helping with minor tech support and thus kinda how I introduce myself to new furs. So I help this one guy and get his [computer] back up and running and we have been talking over the last 4 months so he is a friend.

Now the confusion... I always thought I was straight but recently I enjoy his chats of random things and it kinda brightens my day. We ...  recently started to rp together and now yiff too. I enjoy it I do, but once I start thinking “oh, the other one is also male” it kinda ends up in a stand still and me feeling guilty and the other one feeling like he pressured me.

It’s just he also helped me like you did stop the idea of suicide. 

I do enjoy rping and everything but as soon as I think it’s a male I'm doing it with confusion of who I really am.

I'm confused now more then ever since I look almost forward to his text messages. 

It might seem silly. And the other says more or less we are who we are, but I is real answer. May you help?

Glitch

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Hi, Glitch,

Don't overthink things, hon. If you like the guy and you like chatting with him and even yiffing, then relax and enjoy it. 

Papabear

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And what if I want to see him and be with him? I mean it sounds right but confusing and is warping who I think I am.

Glitch

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Hi, Glitch,

You need to learn to trust your instincts. Many people have lost touch with their instincts, and, instead, listen to the brainwashing judgment of parents, peers, and those at the top of the social hierarchy. [Here is yet another reason I feel the furry fandom is taking off—the desire of the younger generation to reconnect with Nature and the Animal Kingdom—with INSTINCT—something that modern society has stripped away from us and denied us.]

Note that you say “who I THINK I am.” Your intellectual side is creating a filter that is blocking your connection with who you REALLY are. 

I can say this from experience. For 40 years I thought I was a straight man. That is because I believed all the crap that was going into my ears and eyes from my father and the media, among other sources--I was brainwashed. When I learned who I really was because I allowed my instincts to awaken, it was a huge surprise for me, I can tell you! But I am better for it.

If you want to be with this guy, and if your heart is saying that you may even love him, then, if I were you, I would listen.

This does not necessarily mean you are gay (why do we have to label everything?). It means your instincts are telling you that you should be able to love a person with whom you feel a connection.

Love is color blind. Love is blind to race, nationality, religion. Love knows only the heart.

This is why those in power hate Love, because Love cannot be controlled by money and power. Love liberates us. Love connects us. Love is Instinct. It is within us from the time we are conceived. Hatred is learned. Hatred is the elite’s tool of preference for controlling the masses (the second tool being, of course, ignorance, which is why our school system has been destroyed—sorry, I’m getting on my soap box).

Don’t be confused, hon. Let yourself be free.

Papabear

Hey guys. This is a creative writing exercise I thought you'd be interested in. I'm planning on expanding this into a series of short stories.

If you're wondering, the Thirio are basically furries, and the Drak are based on Eastern dragons.

Leave some comments, tell me what you think. I need critique.

Four gods came to us in the beginning. They spun the world and it’s two moons from stardust and named it Fae. For more time than any mortal could imagine, they watched Fae grow from the space between the two moons, Lorae and Theia.

When the time came to give life to Fae, each god took from their heads a single hair, and gave them to the great oceans from which all life took form. The first to awaken were the Drak in the northern mountain ranges, great lizard men gifted with great strength. Second were the Elves, who were blessed with great insight and a land rich with natural strength. Third were the Humans, whose love for knowledge and invention helped them survive in the great central plain. Last were the Thirio, animal men of many forms whom came to life in the many forests of the world.

For thousands of years the four races competed for dominion of the great continent. Eventually the Elves and the Drak became the two great powers. Their empires covered more than half of the lands on the great continent. Human kingdoms allied with the Elves as their dominion continued to spread westward from the their capitol, Elysium. Many Thirio tribes allied with the Drak as their empire spread south into the Human kingdoms. It wasn’t long before the Drak declared war with the Elves and it’s dependandant territories. The war carried on for over a century. The Elvish armies eventually collapsed under the tremendous might of the Drak’s military power. Then began the genocide. The Drak destroyed Elvish cities and culture as they marched towards the Capitol city. Human cities could only attempt to hide their Elvish citizens as Drak imperials replaced the fledgling Human democratic governments. Thirio on both sides of the war effort started to see their people’s own death at the hands of the Drak and abandoned the war, retreating to the Republic of Raelios in the west as the Drak finally came upon Elysium.

The next century under Drak rule consisted of hundreds of small scale battles between the remaining Elvish forces and Drak soldiers. Humans and the remaining Thirio became second class citizens and began forming rebel groups thoughout the Empire. Elves fell in number to a point that they could do little more than lead and coordinate rebel groups, fearing any lost Elvish lives in battle would bring about their extinction. The Empire’s diminished strength from the past two centuries of continued war had finally started taking it’s toll. Slowly the rebel groups started taking back their cities thanks to well coordinated assassinations of Drak consuls and stationed military leaders. The Republic of Raelios eventually came to aid the rebel war effort after decades of negotiations. The Drak fell quickly thanks to the Raelian armies’ quick and powerful assault on Imperial outposts as the rebels within cities simultaneously began their attack on Drak soldiers. Unfortunately by the time the Drak surrendered, having been forced back into their ancient homeland, the Elvish population had fallen to below one hundred individuals spread across Human kingdoms and the few remaining Elvish cities. They convened within the imperial palace in Elysium to consult with the Ministers of the newly formed Confederation of Kingdoms for special protections. Unfortunately even with the concessions the new government gave them, the Elves could not recover and went extinct within two centuries, leaving behind only a blood legacy within the few human families the last generations married into.

In the next thousand years Humans became the dominant force in the world as their Confederation of Kingdoms became the Republic of Elysium and their neighbour countries also grew in power and influence, until eventually they formed the United Central Nations. Thirio from the west began immigrating to the UCN. and integrating into the previously human dominated society. Thirio dominant countries bordered with the UCN eventually started applying to join the union, bringing in new cultures and people. Small groups of Drak also began immigrating to the UCN as refugees to escape their now walled nation, still under the rule of the Imperial family.

Today the UCN and most of the world enjoy an era of peace and prosperity. Technological advances have given rise to more effective medicinal treatments and industrial growth. Elysium has grown into the largest city in the world, with more than five million inhabitants. Modern buildings dominate the skies in the south end of the city, while the north has become on of the largest historical sites in the world with the Imperial Palace now serving as a museum dedicated to the history of the Elvish Empire. Human-Thirio discrimation as at an all time low, but prejudice towards Drak is common in less metropolitan areas.

The future of the world can only be guessed at, but in the west a mysterious figure stirs in the shadows, readying itself for the day that it's plans can come to fruition.

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What influence does faith have on furry? It has been a while since we discussed this here at WagzTail, so we decided to revisit the topic for a week. We speak from a Christian perspective, but if there are any others out there who would like to give their take on it, we would be glad to hear about it in the comments below.

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Author: studio@xanacreations.com (..::XANA::.. Creations) http://furcast.fm/logo.jpg Furry Standard Time (FST), also Furry Daylight Time (FDT) is the standard of time with which most members of the furry fandom subscribe. It is derived from the normal location time zone plus several delay hours, missed texts, dropped phone calls, miscommunication and cars breaking down. Oh, and a few [...] FC-133 Furry Standard Time

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I remember seing a few french cartoons here but cant seem to find them anywhere, can anyone link em for me? much obliged

oh while Im at it, there is some furry fudal japaneese bucket brigade anime that looked interesting, but the link was broken. bonus points for that

now furries, FETCH! :3

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Just wondered if any UK furs were attending the Brighton Pride Parade/Festival this year?

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Bought it a couple of days ago, playing through it now, such a beautiful game!

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Go watch this amazing artist! for every watcher she gets that has been brought to her by me, I can get points :)

all you have to do, is watch her, and in her journal: seen here! and mention my name in a comment!

info: "- They have to tell me your name in comment on THIS JOURNAL, like " it's **** who bring me here " to be considered '

thanks guys

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Dear Papabear,

I have a real problem that I need help with. My best friend, who I just recently found out is gay, have told me he loves me. He said it through a text message since I'm out of town right now and I haven't responded. I'm not gay and don't feel about him this way but I'm worried that if I tell him this then it might ruin our friendship. Also, he gets depressed really easily and has been suicidal before. I don't want to be the reason he has a relapse, especially since he said I'm one of the reasons he is so happy these days. I need some advice on what I can say to keep our friendship strong and not hurt him or make him depressed. Please help me, I really don't know what to do or say.

Anonymous

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Hello,

That is, indeed, a quandary, and Papabear is glad you are being so kind and considerate about your friend’s feelings. Certainly you need to be honest with him, because if you’re not you’ll just be leading him on, giving him false hopes. You need to have a dialog with him in which you carefully balance the fact that the two of you cannot have a sexual relationship (I’m assuming that’s what he meant by “love you” and not just platonic love) with the even more important fact that he is a dear friend whom you care about greatly and will always support and love in a brotherly way.

Did you see the “Lord of the Rings” movies? A lot of people made fun of the characters Samwise and Frodo because they expressed such love for each other. They kept putting posts on various sites, often including movie stills with highly suggestive captions, implying the two hobbits were gay (like there was time for sex when you’re starving, exhausted, and fighting off orcs and other evil creatures). Anyway, at the end of the movie, Sam and the others return to the Shire and Sam meets a girl, gets married, and has kids.

When you talk to your friend, you can use this analogy of your being like Sam to his Frodo, and how much you care about him, but asserting you are straight like Sam. Also, reassure him repeatedly that you are absolutely fine with his being gay and that under no circumstances does it mean you cannot be close friends. Explain to him that you respect him for being who he is and, as good friends, you expect him to also respect you for being who you are. Also, apologize that if you gave him the impression you were gay, it was not your intention and that you in no way were trying to mislead him. You are simply a straight man who does not exactly fit into a macho lifestyle.

Tell him you are very proud of him for coming out to you; it was a brave thing to do, and you are very glad he felt the two of you were good enough friends that he could do so. Reiterate that the two of you can still have a very caring and close friendship, filled with many good times ahead, and that friendships—true friendships like that between Sam and Frodo—are rare and to be treasured. Your being straight is not a rejection; it is simply who you are. You are not rejecting him, and, in fact, your friendship is even stronger now because it is completely open and honest. The two of you know who the other one is, inside and out, and you are good with it and content to be good friends.

Your friend might be emotionally fragile, but if you give him enough reassurance that your friendship is not only intact, but stronger for his confession, as well as telling him how proud of him you are and how glad you are to have him as a friend, then you should be fine.

Finally, it is extremely important that you do not change your behavior in a negative way toward him. That is, you do not reduce the number of times you see him or talk to him on the phone or online. You might even wish to increase this contact somewhat as further reassurance to him that the two of you are cool. Remember, it is not just what you say but also your actions that reveal who you are and what kind of relationship you have.

Please write again if you have more questions, and good luck!

Papabear

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