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I've used most furry sites EXCEPT FA, oddly enough. I always found it slow, clunky and just not very user-friendly. But I'm willing to get back into it. SO now that I have some extra money to burn from the holidays, I'm looking to get my first commission done, and I realized I have absolutely no idea where to start. ;~; I don't really know many artists that would be a good place to start, or if they're open to commission or what, I'm just lost

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Dear Readers:

Today I received the letter below. When I first read it, it really hurt. Even though I have received tremendous support from the furry community (and even some who read this column and are not furs), it still is painful to read such harsh words from a reader.

Initially, this post had a survey at the bottom asking if I should continue the column. I have taken that survey down because I received an overwhelming "Yes! Continue!" response, and only one person saying I should take this site down, and I can pretty easily guess who posted that.

The title of this post was meant to be sardonic, given the nature of the letter. However, it has now become literal because so many of you have said so many kind things that I am once again a happy bear. Thank you!

If you haven't already done so, read the letter, and I am now going to reply to it.

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Hey "Papa Bear." 

This isn't a question for your advice column. In fact, I wouldn't want to be associated with your column at all.

You see, the "advice" you give is often illogical at best and downright harmful at worst. You have a huge ego and seem more like you want to build yourself up as a popufur instead of giving a damn about the people who write to you.

Your solutions are simplistic and something anyone with two minutes to think about the issue could give. 

Not to mention that when anyone dare question you, you slap them down publicly in a way to humiliate them and serve as a warning to anyone who dares doubt the great Papa Bear (really original name by the way.)

Just want to say you're pretty horrible. Since you love the ego stroking, I doubt you'll stop the column or give it to someone more qualified. I just wanted you to know that the whole world doesn't revolve around you, and not all furries are lining up to fellate you.

Anonymous

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Dear "Anonymous,"

(Original name, by the way) Thanks for your letter. Initially, I was upset by your words, but everyone is entitled to his or her opinion, and so I have posted your opinion on my website. The overwhelmingly positive comments I have received made me feel better. At any rate, I would like to respond as objectively as I can to your remarks.

Please do note that I have a disclaimer on this website stating that I am not a licensed professional (few advice columnists are, really, such as Dear Abby) and I also point out that this is a site for entertainment purposes, strictly speaking.

I started this column because a lot of young furries were asking me questions one on one, and it seemed to me there was a need for a column like this in the furry community. I don't do this for money. I accept advertising and you can buy an "Ask Papabear" T-shirt, but, frankly, no one has yet, and I only do it to try to make up for some of my costs.

I do not do this for my ego. However, I can see why it might seem I have a large ego when I write the column. But then, as Critter, below, noted, you kind of have to have at least some ego to be an advice columnist. I mean, wouldn't you rather have a response to a letter like this: "I understand what you're saying and, based on my experience, here is what I think you should do," rather than, "Oh, gosh, you have quite a problem there but I'm not the person to ask because I'm just a little furry and I can't help you at all!" Kind of defeats the purpose of an advice column.

As for my responses when someone "dares to question" me: I always try to give a fair and reasoned reply to what people say. I have been known, in fact, to change my opinion based on a letter, but if I see no reason to change my opinion, or if I feel the writer is misinformed or just plain wrong, I am not afraid to say so. That's called having the courage to stand by one's convictions. No one has to take my advice. It's free. Take it or leave it.

Finally, it might startle you to know I do not feel the world revolves around me. In this mind-boggling universe, I am quite aware I am a tiny spec on a tiny planet. I am also not expecting furries to stand in line to "fellate" me. But if you know of some, please send me their contact information (kidding, but it makes me laugh).

I am sorry you find me to be a horrible person. I'm not sure what inspired your hatred, but there is nothing I can do about it. It does sound, though, that you might have some serious anger issues (a comment below suggested that, and I agree) and you might want to look into that.

The world has plenty of hatred in it. I'm just trying to add a little love and caring and sympathy. And if anyone else would like to write an advice column to help furries--or anyone else--I would applaud and encourage them to do so.

As for ending this column. It ain't gonna happen. As long as furries write to me and ask for a little guidance, I am happy to try my best to help.

Thanks to all of you who commented and wrote to me and reminded me why I write the "Ask Papabear" column.

Happy New Year!
Papabear

Author: Badly translated article ahead lol. Sarah (24) lives in Trondheim dressed like a fox. She is part of the furry community in Norway.http://www.nrk.no/trondelag/far-kick-av-a-kle-seg-ut-som-dyr-1.11387262 - I'm a 1.80 meters high rev. Brown, black and white, with big fluffy tail, long pink tongue and sharp teeth. But I tend not to bite, says Sarah (24). She […]

Author: Dear Papabear, I’d like to first thank you for running this lovely site and this lovely column. I’ve browsed through your letters and responses now and then, always admiring the unbiased approach you take and the useful advice you give. In a world where so much seems changing it’s reassuring to know that there […]

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So today I saw the trailer for the movie "The Nut Job", which is due to come out in 2014. While watching it, I couldn't help but think it was an obvious rip off of Tirrel/Cerberus's 2007 animation "The Nut Job" where the plot is basically the same, less the use of a giant mecha-squirrel. Please compare these too and let me know if I am just crazy or the movie is ripping of the animation.

2014 Movie: http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=fq4qP2oSpIA

2007 animation: http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=qeRqkTNDFRI

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I would be more than glad to play with any furries. I play LoL, TF2, Civ, CS:GO, and occasionally Guns of Icarus. I own gMod but have not played that in a long nor do I have it installed.
Add me on Steam :P

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Dear Papabear,

I'd like to first thank you for running this lovely site and this lovely column. I've browsed through your letters and responses now and then, always admiring the unbiased approach you take and the useful advice you give. In a world where so much seems changing it's reassuring to know that there are always logical steps that can be taken to move forward.

I have so many questions! And maybe that's indicative of my life at the moment. It would be a lie to say I'm in a very mentally stable position – I haven't been for some time. I think that's possibly useful information for the question to come. I'd like to ask about not poly relationships in general, but rather my own poly relationship. And I guess the question most on my mind, the one that keeps me up at night is, “Am I doing the right thing?” To expand, “Am I doing the right thing by them?”

I met my boyfriend roughly a year ago. It's long distance, but with plans to meet and be with one another in the very near future. He's saved a lot of money (as an artist with no secondary job, I find saving more then a few hundred to be difficult, but I cannot help but feel I've failed him if he has to provide the majority of the money for air fares and such!) and we're planning on being together in person for the first time around February-March of the new year. I was initially very hesitant to get into a relationship with him, I know I've had trouble in the past maintaining any sort of relationship and what with being transgendered (male to female) there are some rather large mental barriers to work through before I can promise him much in the way of physical intimacy. And yet everything seemed to fall into place. He was perfect for me. Supportive, caring, forgiving of my faults. He is himself an artist with more ability to pour himself into his art than I've ever seen. 

Then she came along. Much like I had with him, I fell rather instantly in love with her. When we spoke I was the happiest I had been in weeks. When I could make her smile it ... well, you get the idea. She's transgendered, too, and I feel a strong empathy for her. I want to help her through life and, if the possibility of a poly relationship had not been open, I would have striven to stay by her side and make sure that she was happy, whatever happened. 

I guess the “problem” is that a poly relationship was possible. That is to say, I approached the topic gently with my boyfriend and after convincing him that it was by no means a failure on his part that I had room in my heart for two people, he agreed that the idea of a poly relationship was worth exploring. And so we did. 

Now at every junction my boyfriend seems cripplingly insecure. Whilst my girlfriend is content to spend but a fraction of every week together, my boyfriend grows upset if we cannot spend every day with one another. I feel like I can't do things with my other friends because I'm pressured to be on Skype with him all the time and explain myself when I want to do other things. Although he claims that my going and doing my own thing is okay, he starts to fall apart if I'm absent for more then a day or two. A week ago I felt guilty that I hadn't spent enough time with my girlfriend, so I got a commission from another artist of our characters hugging. My boyfriend went off the deep end, telling me he thought I'd much rather be seen in public with her character than his. It felt like my commitment was being questioned, which I felt unfair considering how much of my time I spend with him.

To make matters worse, I literally cannot argue very much with my boyfriend. If he perceives any danger of us breaking up, he'll back down. Is it bad that I don't share this trait? That I would rather see if we're right for each other than cling to the hope that we are and that if we don't talk about things everything will be all right?

I feel like there's much I can't explain in this letter. There're aspects of the relationship that I just can't do justice to in one document. I love both of them dearly – so what do I do? Am I doing the right thing? Trying to fight for this three-ringed circus of a relationship when they have no interest in each other, only me, or am I being selfish? Despite what he's said, my boyfriend is clearly not interested in a poly relationship yet with all that's happened. I'm not sure I could go back to a relationship with just me and him and I know the very idea would break my girlfriend's heart. I would very much like to hear your insight.

Yours,

Lucky Cow

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Dear Lucky Cow,

Reading through your letter, I think you pretty much understand the situation and are just waiting to hear from an outside, objective voice whether or not you are correct.

While your boyfriend says he’s okay with the polyamorous relationship you’re exploring, both you and I know that he really doesn’t want to share you with your girlfriend. As for your girlfriend, you don’t say enough about her for me to really gauge her feelings. My sense is that she is a little more secure in this, so far, because you are currently able to see each other in real life. This might change drastically once your boyfriend is with you in the physical sense.

Polyamorous relationships are extremely difficult and only work if everyone involved is 100% on board. This is not the case with you. If you try to force the situation because you want both of them in your life, you are bound to be disappointed and, quite likely, will hurt one or both of them.

So it is, Lucky Cow, that I would advise you to make a choice. Take your time and think long and hard about what you wish to do. Weigh the pros and cons and also, of course, take into account your instincts and your emotions. In the end, though, based on what you have told me here, I don’t see a polyamorous relationship working between the three of you. Pick your boyfriend, or pick your girlfriend, not both.

Before you do that, however, I want you to reflect on who you are as a person. Why do you think it is that you want a polyamorous relationship? Would you ever be satisfied with just one person to love for the rest of your life? If so, then my instinct tells me you should go with the boyfriend; if not, then the girlfriend seems a more viable option. But be prepared for the possibility that she, too, might seek other lovers, which means you would find yourself in a situation analogous to the one in which your boyfriend now finds himself. When it comes to polyamory, must you be the focus of the group dynamic? Or would you be content to be a satellite lover?

Only you can answer that question. Figure it out before you take the next step.

Good luck!

Papabear

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Hey fellow furries!

I waa lucky enough to get a Playstation vita for Christmas but I don't have any friends on PSN ;w;

Did anyone else get a vita (or PSFurr) for Christmas? :3 If so, feel free to add me (CyberKitsune) on PSN!

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Author: rodney Sheriff Callie’s Wild West is a new CGI animated TV series for preschool kids, coming soon to Disney Junior. Starring the voice of Mandy Moore (Tangled), it tells the story of Callie — a calico cat, the loyal and heroic sheriff of a little western town called Nice and Friendly Corners — and […]

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