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Dear Papa Bear,

Once again I find myself turning to you for some advice. I’ve written to you before and all your advice has worked so far so here goes. I have pretty low self esteem as it is, but my brother doesn’t really help. He is always calling me stupid or an idiot or putting me down in some way. Granted, he does this to everyone in my family, but I have trouble taking it from him. I have Aspergers and think that might be part od the problem, but at the same time I find myself actually believing him when he abuses me this way. That can’t be normal.

It’s gotten to the point where I start lashing out violently and that just makes my problem worse because he is my younger brother so I could get in serious trouble with the law, but also, even though I’m older, he is bigger and stronger than me and will literally kick my ass if I try to hurt him. I’m 22 and having my ass handed to me by a 16 year old. I’m so tired of the abuse I receive daily and want to know if you have any advice on how I can ignore it. Sorry for the rant. Any advice?

Nite Mastr

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Dear Nite Mastr,

It is not you who has a problem but your brother. As you said, he is lashing out not only at you but everyone in the family. So, my first question is, “What’s HIS problem?” Clearly, he has anger issues that should be addressed. The solution, my furiend, would be much more thoroughly addressed by answering that question and getting him some help so he stops acting like a butt munch.

Secondly, I wish to tell you that your reaction to his verbal abuse is actually perfectly normal. Anyone who is repeatedly told by a family member that they are “stupid” and an “idiot” would, after a while, begin to believe it. I had the same trouble when I was younger and my father’s favorite phrase for me was “You’re as useless as teats on a boar.” Still hurts even today, and he’s been dead for years.

Next—and I just advised another reader on this recently—if you are fretting because you are weaker than your brother, there is something you can do about it: work out. Go to the gym and train and get stronger than your younger brother so you are no longer physically afraid of him. This has the added benefit of making you healthier :-)

Finally, have you talked to the rest of your family? What is their take on your brother’s behavior? Why are they doing nothing about it? Why are they letting him push everyone around? Including your parents? Talk to your parents and tell them that this has to stop. Either they need to discipline him or, as noted above, they need to get him some therapy to figure out why he is so angry and abusive.

My advice, then, is not to teach you how to “ignore it,” but, rather, to do something about it. Your brother’s behavior is harmful and unacceptable and needs to change.

Good luck!

Papabear

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Hey guys! I'm doing another free art thread aaaaaa! (Some of you might remember me by my other username flying_tiger.) I will draw your character's face.
- Post your character references and tell me what expression you want. (Safe for work only please.) You have until this post is 12 hours old.
- I'll pick out 9 that I like!
- Be patient please they won't get done overnight.
I haven't quite decided on a style I want to do, but I do want to do them in colour this time (thats why only 9.) (Also 9 makes a nice square okay.) Other places to find me:
http://www.furaffinity.net/user/snackish/
http://snacky-bites.deviantart.com/
https://www.weasyl.com/profile/snackish
Why am I doing this?
I like to practice drawing faces and expressions and giving out gifts makes me happy! Some extra watches and support for my work is a nice bonus too. Thanks guys!
I'm going to bed now but I'll reply to any questions you post when I wake up~
Edit: OKAY GATES ARE CLOSED. No more posts please! Time to decide who to draw! Edit 2: Here are the ones I've picked!
- Fizzy the Arctic Fox
- RathWolf the Shapeshifter Wolf
- Ildrynu the Orca Taur
- Metal the Dragon
- Sovrim the Chameleon/Salamander
- Gunner the Lynx
- Symlus the Snake
- Tark the Hyena
- Bleatbeard the Pirate Ram

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Author: Hi, Papa Bear, I happened to discover your column not to long ago by a happy accident. Sadly, I can’t exactly recall how. If I remember correctly, I believe that I clicked on an advertisement.  Anyhow, I’ll start on why I’m writing to you. I am a 17 year old Furry who has been […]

What makes a character a furry? Wolfin is away this week, so Star leads discussion. Is “furry” limited to what the fandom produces, or can you find “furry” far outside the fandom, even produced by people who have no knowledge of the subculture?

Metadata and Credits WagzTail Season 3 Episode 11

Runtime: 30m

Cast: Levi, snaky, StarlightWolf

Editor: Levi

Format: 128kbps ABR split-stereo MP3 Copyright: © 2014 WagzTail.com. Some Rights Reserved. This podcast is released by WagzTail.com as CC BY-ND 3.0. If distributed with a facility that has an existing agreement in place with a Professional Rights Organisation (PRO), file a cue sheet for 30:00 to Fabien Renoult (BMI) 1.67%, Josquin des Pres (BMI) 1.67%, WagzTail.com 96.67%. Rights have been acquired to all content for national and international broadcast and web release with no royalties due.

Podcast image belongs to Levi Wolstrom, used with permission. What Defines a Furry? - What makes a character a furry? Wolfin is away this week, so Star leads discussion. Is "furry" limited to what the fandom produces, or can you find "furry" far outside the fandom, even produced by people who have no knowledge of the subculture?

Hello my name is christian but you can call me Joey or Joeywolf. I'm 17 my fursona is a wolf. this is my first time opening up to welcome furry it to my live for the first "real time". so do any furry out there want to be my friends. you can message me so we can talk on Skype Google+ ~Facebook (I don't really use Facebook) :) PS. English is really not my language so my accent may be harder to understand.

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I am told that this dance is meant to be like a funeral ceremony for a rabbit that had accidentally died during a magician’s trick.

This is a routine coreographed by Wade Robson and was shown at the season finale of So You Think You Can Dance. One of the best routines I've ever seen and the concept of it is quite magnificent as well.

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The possible origins in the maltese tiger may have lied in a combination of two genes that would have caused a rare fur pigmentation. It raises the question of how many mythical creatures may have started from the sighting of a unique mutation.

As Esther Inglis-Arkell writes:

Tigers are relatively variable in their colors. There are pure white tigers with barely distinguishable stripes, white tigers with black stripes, and golden tigers that have slightly deeper gold stripes on a tawny background. Reports of black tigers or gray tigers still do turn up. Despite the stories told by hunters and the brief glimpses of hikers or farmers, it's doubtful that this kind of cat exists.

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Clothes store specialised in selling t-shirts with animal faces that seem to almost pop out of your chest. They also pride themselves on they environmentally friendly printing methods and use of American sourced materials.

In their words

To create and develop one-of-a-kind, top quality, earth conscious apparel; in a fun, creative, collaborative environment in which everyone has a voice and nothing is impossible. 

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Suitable for all ages. This site has no offensive content.

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Furry news site which also syndicates content from Flayrah and InFurNation.

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Like the idea behind FNN. We are striving to be a socially driven source for Furry news, entertainment, and services. As we find new services to offer that we think will be of value, we will bring in the talent to help us make it a success.

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Suitable for all ages. This site has no offensive content.

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Fur Affinity

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Not content to have the (as should be expected) “art of Rio 2“, Blue Sky Studios instead bring us The Art of Rio: Featuring a Carnival of Art from Rio and Rio 2.  My, now that’s a title! “From 20th Century Fox Animation and Blue Sky Studios, the creators of Ice Age and Horton Hears a Who!, the musical adventure comedy Rio told the story of how rare Blue Macaws Blu and Jewel met and fell in love in Rio de Janeiro during Carnival. In Rio 2, the pair journey with their 3 chicks to the amazon jungle in search of their wild roots. With over 300 pieces of concept art, character sketches, storyboards and digital paintings, along with interviews with the key animation talent, this book reveals the artistry behind the 2 colorful movies.” It’s put together by Tara Bennett (who’s written and edited several movie tie-in books of the sort), with an introduction by Carlos Saldanha (the director of both films). Look for it at Amazon, where it’s available now in hardcover.

image c. Titan Books

We both like rock, metal, dubstep, that sort of thing.

Thanks!

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this look like an amazing kick starter and i found a lot of great artist here. thought you guy might want to take a look.

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Author: KnotCast@foxstuffers.com Tumblr questions (and emails) are go! Lots of quickie questions this week and we also talk up Sub-Level 03′s new comic/album. We also use one of their covers as our music break.Sub-Level 03′s cover of Dragostea Den Tei originally by O-Zonehttp://www.youtube.com/watch?v=jRx5PrAlUdY&feature=kpEpisode 246 – Oh Crap It’s Thursday (27mb, AAC)Episode 245 – Oh Crap […] KnotCast: Episode 246 – Oh Crap It’s Thursday

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Hello everyone!

I just found out about a recent episode of MTV's True Life titled "I Want Respect for my Sect". It features furries along with Juggalos and vampires. The furry in this episode is somewhat young and I think got pulled into MTV's scheme of featuring "freaks", but it really wasn't that bad overall. I even remember her fursuit from RMFC, haha!

It can be watched here:
http://www.mtv.com/videos/true-life-i-want-respect-for-my-sect/1724255/playlist.jhtml
(I don't know if it works outside the US)