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Hi guys! I'm just wondering about some general art business practices and how common they are. I've been in a few situations where I've paid for a commission, waited a few days, and then notice that the artist has been working on personal art instead of my commission.

I've also been in some situations where I've paid for a commission, watched it drawn and completed in a stream, and then been told that they'll upload it in a batch later with their other commissions (sometimes a week later or longer). They always offer to send me the art if I explicitly ask for it, so its not a huge deal.

It just seems really strange to me. In the first case, the artist posted a journal saying that they were open for some 'emergency'-ish commissions, and so I paid them up front, but still waited days for my commission while they streamed other peoples commissions (understandable, there's a queue) but then their own personal art. Like, imagine if you paid for a commission at a booth where the artist was actively advertising commissions. You hand them your money, and they start working on their personal art.

I'm not upset or anything, I'm just wondering how common this is and how others feel about it? Artists are free to draw what they want, but if they have paying customers waiting for art I feel like getting that out of the way first and then closing commissions for a while to work on personal art would be the legitimate thing to do. I hate feeling like a huge needy weirdo asking when my art will be worked on– I'm just excited! Another artist I recently commissioned has kept me up-to-date with exactly when they'll be able to start working on my art, which I love and I wish more artists would be more open about that (I get its hard when you have a list of things for multiple people, so a queue list is just as beneficial).

EDIT: I don't mean for this to be a rant-y thread! I'm just interested in seeing what others think, and hopefully this thread can help answer some questions from commissioners.

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Papabear,

I don’t know why but I am attracted to animals mainly the feral and anthro canine species with the correct anatomy. I have come to terms with it but I don’t have anyone in real life to interact with and the few that I do only one I can really talk with is taken so is not really willing to talk all that much about it. The only people I find are online and a few in real life and I’m not with them. I am so tried to being alone. I know there are other people out there. its just I give my all to people cause that is just me. I tend not to hold back and be a true friend I will not turn my back on someone I stand there are and be there for them through thick and thin cause that is what friends are for not just a trophy to discard when things get tough. I just don’t know what to do anymore I am breaking down the walls I put up but as the saying goes its a rough world out there and no one is going to make it easy. If you have read this through I thank you for your time.

Anonymous

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Dear Furiend,

Okay, what I think you’re saying here is that you are having a hard time finding other people who are attracted to feral animals the same way you are. Because of this, you feel alone and can’t find a mate.

I think the problem here is that you are limiting yourself too much. When seeking a partner in life, you shouldn’t be so one-dimensional. There is more to you than your sexual proclivities, just as, I would hope, there is more to other people than just this one aspect.

I’ve had similar letters from furries in which the person writing is frustrated because they can’t find a furry partner. I suggest to them that they broaden their sights a bit. My mate, Yogi, for example, is not a furry, but he is fur-friendly.

Try not to look at yourself in such a narrow way. Traditionally, when people asked others who they are, they might say, “I’m a lawyer” or “I’m a businessman” and so on. Americans often identify themselves by their occupations. If you were to ask me, I might give you a laundry list: “I’m an editor, writer, furry, gay man, bear, lover, mate, amateur philosopher, artistic soul, advice columnist.... but, most importantly, human being.”

My advice to you would be to stop obsessing about the fact that you like feral animals. When you interact with people, try to see the whole picture. Instead of meeting someone and hoping they share your sexual preferences, use a different measuring stick: Are they kind? Thoughtful? Fun to be around? Generous of spirit? Loving? These things are more important than a sexual desire that is routed only in fantasy, anyway. Perhaps, too, you can find someone who has their own sexual quirk and then you can have fun indulging each other in alternating role play.

While it is important to have some things in common with your partner, it makes for a more interesting relationship, too, if you don’t share everything in common. Let this interest of yours be one of those things and, when seeking a partner in life, make your top priority a person with a good heart.

Good luck!

Papabear  

Furries often prefer to date other furries.

There are a lot of good reasons for this. For starters, we’re pretty awesome. We also tend to feel that furry is a full and honest version of ourselves, something we love but can only express in appropriate spaces. Furry is something to edit out in restricted social settings (like work, or extended family), and something to enjoy when we are free to be ourselves. And it’s a lot easier to express furriness in the company of other furries.

This is great, however furries are thin on the ground. And while we tend to socialise online en masse, it’s not always easy to meet someone you might be interested in, and who might also be interested in you. It’s especially difficult if you’re a heterosexual man – the numbers are not on your side.

Fortunately, science is here to help. The February 2015 issue of Evidence-Based Medicine includes a long review of online dating, looking at data to support successful strategies. It’s comprehensive but enjoyable to read – in the acknowledgements they “thank the potential dates who turned down one of us repeatedly”—and it contains a lot of lessons that can be applied to the furry world. I have distilled those down here.

Your online presence is important, and you will want to update your main profile, perhaps your Fur Affinity user page. Tell your friends that you’re making changes, as this will have the triple effect of reminding potential partners that you may be available, soliciting input and interest from your social group, and counteracting the natural tendency towards procrastination. Research shows that it’s normal to procrastinate during this step, and that going public with your plan can provide motivation to get started, which can then generate the urge to follow the task to completion.

Don’t worry too much about details. Attraction is a largely subconscious phenomenon, so keep it simple and concentrate on making a good first impression. Don’t include a simple list of your interests, friends, or links to community groups. Make sure your profile picture is attractive – it may be worthwhile commissioning something new by a well-regarded artist.

In your profile, mention that you are single but don’t mention that you are looking for a relationship. Be positive about yourself and your interests. Don’t include anything negative. About 70% of your profile should be about yourself, and about 30% should be about what you like about other people. Something like “I’m an open and happy person, and I enjoy spending time with happy people” is good.

Use simple language, which (believe it or not) will make you seem more intelligent and likeable. (This is the main reason why RandomWolf, the [adjective][species] mascot you see frowning down at you from the top of the page, will remain forever alone.) Be lightly humorous if you can, and ask your friends to check for spelling mistakes.

It’s important to stay close to reality, so personal stuff about your non-furry life is good. Mention where you live, and your personal situation, but remember to avoid dry lists: don’t say “I have a sister”; say “I’m proud of my sister, who is doing really well at school”. It’s better to talk about traits that make you personally likeable (kindness, for example), rather than mentioning academic achievement.

If you can, choose a screen name that starts with a letter towards the beginning of the alphabet. Your screen name should be neutral or positive – avoid negative terms: so “Lightning Wolf” is a lot better than “Storm Wolf”. (This may all sound a bit silly, but there is a lot of evidence showing that names have a measurable impact on success in many areas of life, not just dating.)

You should emphasise similarities between yourself and the things you find attractive in other people. That means there is going to be a few repeated words in the 70% about you, and the 30% about others, and that’s okay.

Adding photos of yourself to your gallery is a good idea. Choose photos where you in a group of people, where others are looking at you and smiling. (It matters less whether you are smiling.) If you can find a photo where you are touching someone—keep it sane, perhaps a hand over a shoulder, or on an upper arm—that’s great. The toucher is perceived to be of a higher status, so avoid photos where you are the one being touched.

When you make initial contact, make it a text message – a private message on a social networking site is good, so a Fur Affinity note is better than a shout. Make a comment that is individually tailored to the recipient (even if you’re quietly messaging a few people at once), which should be a single positive remark about your target’s profile or photo. Be reasonable though – over-the-top flattery will appear dishonest. Invite them to chat further, using rhyming poetry (which has an instinctive appeal), ideally using their name as the rhyme.

Making rhymes is harder than it sounds, by the way, especially if you’re trying to rhyme with a furry name. There are no reasonable rhymes for “wolf”. You might find an online rhyming dictionary to be helpful. Avoid the natural temptation to rhyme “fox” with “cocks”.

Your initial contact should be three or four sentences in total. Don’t ask any direct questions, just mention that you’d like to chat and leave the ball in their court. Don’t follow up: if nothing happens, nothing happens.

If you make contact and they reply, there is no value in leaving them waiting for a response. (The Fonz and/or Charlie Sheen may have counselled you to delay your response, however I’m happy to say that science has proven them wrong.) Don’t keep them waiting.

Start your chat with simple, open-ended questions like “What did you find interesting in my profile?”, and avoid yes/no questions. Spontaneous humour is good. Share trivia about yourself.

You should aim to move your chat to more direct methods over time – from asynchronous communication (like FA notes), to chats over Telegram or Skype, and eventually to video chat. The faster this happens the better: three to four weeks is a sign that the two of you are doing well. If you live near one another and you haven’t met, it’s better to meet face-to-face sooner rather than later – this may take anywhere from a few days to a few months.

Initiating online conversation is difficult. Continue using open-ended questions as a conversation starter until the two of you become more comfortable.

Be relentlessly positive, for example by saying nice things about your friends or people within furry you both know. (You might wish to mention how much you like [adjective][species], for instance.) Keep in mind that your opinion of other people will tend to reflect on you: so if you say such-and-such is lazy, this will make you seem lazy.

Negative comments, even just criticism or snarkiness, are much more memorable than positive comments, and so need a lot of positivity as counter-ballast. You shouldn’t always agree with someone—in fact it is helpful to disagree initially and then change your mind—but you should avoid direct criticism.

As your electronic relationship progresses, you will want to reduce uncertainty, in both directions. That means sharing personal information about yourself, and asking personal questions of your prospective partner. If you have specific questions, ask via the written word.

You will be able to tell if someone is hiding information or being deceptive if their response has suddenly reduced detail, or if they avoid using words like “me”, “mine”, and “I”. If you’re unsure or someone is being evasive, press for a straight answer. It’s natural to worry that being direct and persistent might come across as negative or badgering, but research suggests that it’s the best course of action.

Having said that, don’t worry too much if someone has lied about themselves to you. It’s natural and normal for people to present themselves as they hope to be in the future, not as they are right now. If you discover that someone has been lying about their academic qualifications, or employment, or living situation, or age – in general that’s not a big deal.

In video chat, your appearance and body language is important. Make sure you’re well-presented, sit upright, and check that your environment is presentable. Use hand gestures to emphasise points, and provide feedback to demonstrate that you are listening, perhaps by nodding your head or smiling at appropriate moments. Mimic your potential partner’s movements (subtly), and smile slowly so that it spreads across your face over a second or so. These movements indicate that your chemistry is good. Humour helps too.

If you make a mistake or say the wrong thing, ignore it. Mistakes are much more noticeable to ourselves than to the other person, so you might just get away with it. And if the other person starts to feel like they don’t meet your standards, demonstrate that you are nothing special by doing something clumsy, perhaps by spilling your drink during a chat. (It is counter-productive to make yourself seem too special or rare.)

It’s important to plan for termination of your video chats. You want to end on a positive note: there is a lot of evidence that the end of an experience is the most memorable by far. This phenomenon is called “duration neglect”, where experiences tend to be remembered as a series of snapshots rather than a reflection of the experience yourself, and the end of an experience remembered most vividly.

So if you have something negative about yourself to share, reveal it in the middle of a conversation. If you have something positive, save it for the end.

And if your relationship is solely online, and you live apart from one another, you should still work towards meeting face-to-face: the sooner, the better. Good luck!

Finally, please keep in mind that none of this is prescriptive. But it should help you negotiate the complex process of getting to know someone romantically.

One important post-script: if you are a guy looking to meet women in furry, be aware that harassment is a real problem in our community. Many women stay away from public furry gatherings and conventions because they are unwelcoming, and many others have developed coping strategies to deal with unwanted attention. Don’t approach a woman at a furry gathering unless they are already a friend or you are being introduced by a mutual friend. Do it online, be respectful, and be mentally prepared to be ignored or tacitly rejected.

You may guess that I have left this for last because I want you to remember it as particularly important. You’d be right. Read more here.

Hello, fluffbutts! I'm new to reddit not the furry community. I might need some help finding a few friends and getting to know people. I'm tripp! And I give hugs to all of you :3 anyways this is basically a social thread to get to know you and for you to get to know people too! So feel free to comment and have a good time! (Nothing too yiffy we might have pups in this chat!)

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Guise! I broke my ball! An inside was this little plastic piece.. I bit it.. It squeaked.. I ate it.. Now I squeak.. What do? pokes my tummy and squeaks

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High speed Fursuiters? Why the hell not?

Is it a car? Plane, train, automobile, spaceship, miniature cloud, magical farts, or your own damn wings?

I prefer to yiff from above >:3

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Anyone know of any local meets in and around Salt Lake, Orem, and Provo?

I know Unthrocon is here in October but I was looking for something year round.

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Internshipping: A romantic comedy with a furry twist! is my very first e-book, and I'm absolutely thrilled to be sharing it with all you fuzzbutts!

Any critiques will be met with a warm, loving hug! :3

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Yay! Two things promoted here are on the short list of Ursa Major nominees. Best Anthropomorphic Magazine: Dogpatch Press - OF COURSE!   Well, it may be more accurate to claim “Fluffiest hugs” or “Most Linty”.  Who can pick just one from all the awesome choices?  But vote for us anyways, so we can spread more awards and […]

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I was wondering how many space wizard ninjas we got here and if any of y'all wanted to do the up coming raid with me and a friend!

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This will probably be a bit cheesy, but I just thought I'd share.

The story of it goes like this:

There was a person who was part boy and part wolf. He was going to school, but people were distant from him. Saddened, he became reclusive; until one girl convinced some others to go out of their way to tell the boy/wolf that they love him. He befriended them and became happy again.

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Ok guys, so I recently posted a text post on ideas for my fursona, a snow leopard, and now I think I may have gotten the main idea of him down! So the species is a snow leopard (obviously haha). He is dark grey, with a white stomach/paws. He's not a huge fan of the cold (ironically), so he tends to wear hoodies/jackets in the winter. I may have decided to name him Beeter, an intentional misspelling of Beater, the marshmallow-ey part of the bass drum on a drumset attatched to the pedals. I'm still trying to flesh him out, so feel free to give any and all advice/input! Thank you guys for everything!

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