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submitted by mind-lux
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Dear Papabear,

Hello, again. I just want to start off by saying my deepest condolences for your loss. I can't imagine what it's like to lose someone you care for so much and thank you for continuing to do this in spite of it.

I'm not entirely certain how to work this question, so I'm really sorry if it's confusing.... I used to be really smart, but not anymore, so I lost a lot of my vocabulary. Anyway, how do you know when to give up on something? I mean, does a person get a great realization or something? It's just I've wanted to work in veterinary medicine since I was 6, and now that I'm doing it ... I'm positively awful at it.... I can't do anything right. I'm just shy of a year at my job and I don't seem to be getting any better at it. I'm always being yelled at for my screw ups and I'm trying my very best but it's pretty clear it's just not enough.... I've had two panic attacks at work already. Thankfully, I was able to keep it hidden both times, so at least I didn't get fired. But I'm starting to think my mom was right, I'm just useless and not good at anything. That I should just find a dead end job that requires no skill or brain power and that's it. But, I'm just not ready give up.... Am I, as the expression goes, not seeing the forest for the trees?

Once again, thank you for your time.

Galileo (age 27, New York)

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Hi, Galileo,

Before I answer in more depth, what do you mean "I used to be smart but I've lost a lot of my vocabulary"? Did you suffer an injury that caused you to forget words? What's going on there?

Hugs,
Papabear
 
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Not an injury, but couple years ago, I terribly sick and it really messed with my mental facilities.
 
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What was the illness, please.
 
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Would you believe Lyme disease? I was in the that lucky percentage that it affects brain. I haven't been right since.
 
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Hi, Galileo,
 
Okay, I believe I have enough information now, thank you. Let’s talk first about the Lyme disease. Very sorry that happened to you. If you haven’t already done so, I would apply right away for social security disability (http://www.disabilitysecrets.com/social-security-disability-lyme-disease.html and confer here, too: http://www.ssdrc.com/ssd-lyme-disease.html and here http://fromlymetolife.com/category/social-security-disability-for-lyme-a-how-to-guide/). You are probably eligible for government assistance because of your condition. You need to get documentation from your doctor and go through an application process, of course. Sometimes, sad to say, you also need to call an attorney to get what you deserve (our lame government often fights tooth and nail before it gives money to people who qualify, but it is worth the effort).
 
Okay, next: your job. Do your bosses at work know you had Lyme disease and it affected your mental faculties? If not, they really should know. Perhaps they can change your workload in order to compensate; if they do know and are still treating you this terribly, shame on them.
 
It’s not your fault that you are having these problems. Please don’t blame yourself and put all the guilt on you. You had a disease and it hurt you; would you blame yourself if you had fallen, struck your head, and suffered some mental impairment? No, you would not, and neither should you for this. Also, shame on your mother for calling you useless. I wish I could hit her on the nose with a rolled up newspaper. “Bad, Mom! Bad! No! No!”
 
What you need is a supportive voice or two or three in your life. I suggest you take a look at the following links for resources and advice:

• International Lyme and Associated Diseases Society http://www.ilads.org/
• Lyme Disease Association, Inc.  http://www.lymediseaseassociation.org/
• LDF (Lyme Disease Foundation, Inc.)   http://www.lyme.org
• Lyme Disease Network - blog site  afterthebite@gmail.com
• Lyme Disease Network http://www.lymenet.com

Galileo, before you go worrying about your career, you need to take care of yourself and learn how to manage what has happened to you because of this disease. Please take some time to do that, and then we can talk again.
 
Hugs,
Papabear
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submitted by fxscreamer
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So this story I want to write and hopefully have published somewhere is about furries. That's not the issue though. The issue is that the furry parts of it come when someone dies. Their spirits given the option to go to normal heaven/hell or to go to a furry heaven/hell. By its self that shouldn't be an issue, but given the amount of unstable people in the fandom having issues with self harm, I don't know if it would be a good idea to give them something that could push them into doing worse things to themselves than what they may already do.

Thoughts?

submitted by k-swee
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Hey. I'm something of an artist and I am looking for some advice from people who've been where I am now.

Art that I work very hard on seems to get very little attention. Posts get very few views and favourites and watches are even rarer. It feels like sending out a text and getting no reply.

I've tried giving back to the community, i.e. freebies, commenting around, etc, but it really doesn't help.

Here are some examples of things I draw : http://imgur.com/a/vLU79

All advice is appreciated! c:

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submitted by TakeMyKnot
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But god damnit, you guys. Zootopia turned me back into a furfag.

So, about 3 or 4 years ago, I had discovered the fandom through a friend. I was mostly in it for the yiff, because jesus christ is that shit heavenly. But I was still active in the community, had a fursona and all that stuff. I sort of cut that all out a year or two later. Mainly because of this one group I was in, they made fun of me at any given moment because I considered myself a furry. I still looked at yiff, and still am (not that that's important or anything). But ever since all this hype for the new Zootopia movie. God damnit you people. I'm a furfag again. (Also, now I've got the whole, "I wish furries were real" mentality again.) :p

Looks like I'll be thinking of a new 'sona. Especially since my first one felt way too similar to that one guy off of bed fellows. I think his name was Sheen? (Plus, it'd be nice to have a Fox now, rather than a cat.) Anybody got any advice with coming up with a new fursona? :p

But yeah, glad to back in this community again!

submitted by xiscr
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Arf hey everyfur! I'm a blue eyed blue furred Wusky who loves mixing music and modifying his car. I can be quite energetic at times. I love meeting new people and making friends. I'm pretty easy going, I like talking about anything really. Especially if its about one of my interests. My good friend /u/spicchicken987 convinced me to join reddit.

http://imgur.com/e8VgRuz

Artist: Haz Fox

https://plus.google.com/100939539918282281789/posts

submitted by FrostKage
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Hello Everyone!

This episode focuses on the various nonviolent communication strategies you can employ in your relationships. We also take a listener question on the practicality of long-distance polyamorous relationships.

For more information, including a list of topics by timestamp, see our Show Notes for this episode.

Thanks and, as always, be well!

FA 002 Nonviolent Communication - Nonviolent Communication Strategies

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