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Hello Everyone!

We open this week's show with a discussion on how polyamory helps some people love being married. While some people view polyamory and marriage as being mutually exclusive, we look at an article on how polyamory has opened the door to love and longing in a marriage and how to overcome fear and trepidation at saying the things you are most afraid to say. 

Our main topic is on accepting love as a damaged individual. Within the fandom (and especially the LGBTQ+ community) many people face hardships and abuse. Perhaps it is a parent who hates that you are trans*. Perhaps it is a mate who acts in an abusive fashion. Maybe it is a lifetime of feeling rejected, or not belonging. It could be that you have depression or anxiety issues. Regardless, plenty of people feel that they are too broken, or they have too much baggage, to accept love from anyone or anything.

We go over ways to overcome this mindset and to help you as an individual reintegrate within the vast, beautiful kaleidoscope that is love and accepting love. We talk about our own lives, and ways that we overcame (and still work on overcoming) our inner saboteur. It's a heartfelt episode and one of our most requested topics. 

We close out the show with a question on finding love and friendship when you're shy. Yes, we said there were two questions but, as it turns out, the second question is more involved and we wanted to give it its own space and time to truly dive into. Enjoy the minor gaffe (and later explanation) on this: it's a great episode.

For more information, including a list of topics, see our Show Notes for this episode.

Thanks and, as always, be well!

FA 061 Accepting Love as a Damaged Individual - Can polyamory be an asset to a marriage? How can you overcome your own past experiences to feel comfortable in loving again? How can you find friends when you are terminally shy? All this, and more, on this week's Feral Attraction!

Here is a short documentary on Barnaby Dixon the 26-year-old puppeteer that does the cute dabchick videos. "Puppets—they’re child’s play, right? Spend five minutes watching Barnaby Dixon and you’ll surely disagree. At first, it might seem strange for a 26-year-old to be hand-building puppets in his bedroom and shooting videos of his performances for a living, but the puppet prodigy’s creations are completely original and totally addicting to watch. Barnaby started his career solely to make YouTube videos (https://www.youtube.com/user/barnabyd...), but recently hit it big after winning a 50,000 Euro grand prize on the German puppet talent show, "Die Puppenstars.""
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​Papabear,
 
I've always been a furry since I was little, but only now am I getting a fursuit. They'll be finishing it next week, so I'll have it soon. Since my fursuit will be of the pokemon Solgaleo,my suit is a kid icon. I'm thinking of going to a children's hospital to visit kids in a fun pokemon suit. But I'm not sure what to do. How would I act around the kids, what would I say?
 
Jaelyn (age 13)
 
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Hi, Jaelyn,
 
Since you are 13, I kind of doubt a hospital or other company or organization will permit you to visit kids in fursuit, even with your good intentions, unless you were part of some formal organization or other, such as a church or other nonprofit.
 
I admire and respect your desire to put your fursuiting towards a good cause, but would recommend you wait awhile (until you are 18). In the meantime, get some fursuiting and live performance experience while in fursuit. It's not as easy as it looks, and when you are old enough to do some charity work you will be able to perform much better.
 
When that time comes, here's what you do: go to the hospital where you wish to fursuit and find the Volunteer Services department. Make an appointment there and then explain what you wish to do. Hospitals will have guidelines for how their entertainers must conduct themselves with patients, and these policies might vary from hospital to hospital. Give the Volunteer Services coordinator a clear idea of what you wish to do and why. Hopefully, they will be open to it, but if they say "No, thanks," you can always try a different hospital.
 
Happy Fursuiting!
Papabear
 

StupidFox is a fox. But is he stupid, or just misunderstood? Does he maybe have just a simple way of looking at a complex world? That’s the endless question pondered by creator E.Y. Chan in her full-color on-line comic strip called StupidFox — yes, spelled as one word. At her web site you’ll find not only the comic but a link to her shop full of prints, books, plush dolls, key-chains, and other cute items all graced by the simple fox and his friends.

image c. 2017 by E.Y. Chan

an all new episode just for you! Yes, you! Serathin's amazing Dragget Show story! - https://docs.google.com/document/d/1AYkJRCjPaNB6x1oYLn6QT7GjR6L6UAoy8RCsCK0NjEw/edit Chaotic Ravings podcast, reviewing Fur Squared! - https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=uz9Pfo07EpY&t=19s Reminder: We're on Patreon! If you could kick us a buck or two, we'd greatly appreciate it. www.patreon.com/thedraggetshow ALSO, we're not just on SoundCloud, you can also subscribe to this on most podcast services like iTunes! Don't forget to hang out in our telegram chat, now w/ over 100 members!telegram.me/draggetshow ep 156 - Pit Of Puppies - an all new episode just for you! Yes, you! Sera…

Here we have a cute new series a bit like an old 80s old PBS show. "Dr. Pegasus tackles the creative and rewarding world of interior lighting to make her home a brighter and more welcoming place!" (The anal video pedantic in me still cringes a little when people try to make something look old but still make it 16:9 but I'll forgive it due to extreme cuteness)
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It's an episode six seasons in the making - Roo and Tugs are thrilled to be joined by Kris Patrick (aka Sheen), creator of the popular "The Bedfellows" series of comics, animations, and now game! Yours truly explores the origin of the series, what goes into making the content, and what the future of the series is like, including their new game "Bedfellows Frenzy". Is Fatigue real? Where did "Keys, Keys, Keys" come from? Are Sheen and Fatigue really like their animated counterparts? What goes into an episode? We explore this and a lot more! And if that's not enough, we have a full 30 minute show bonus with the series musician, Buck Riley from Husky In Denial, about what goes into the series' soundtrack.



We also have Space News, Get Psyched, Fifty Sheds of Grey, an Olde Timey Ad, and more! This is one hell of an episode you don't want to miss!



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Special Thanks

Kris Patrick, our guest, and creator of "The Bedfellows". Check out his game and YouTube Channel.
Axikor, for the ident
Mfalme Lion
Moss Fox

Music

Opening Theme: Husky In Denial – Cloud Fields (Century Mix). USA: Unpublished, 2015. ©2015 Fur What It’s Worth and Husky in Denial. Based on Fredrik Miller– Cloud Fields (Radio Mix). USA: Bandcamp, 2011. ©2011 Fur What It’s Worth. (Buy a copy here – support your fellow furs!)
Some music was provided by Kevin MacLeod at Incompetech.com. Licensed under Creative Commons: By Attribution 3.0 License. We used the following pieces:

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Space News Music: Fredrik Miller – Orbit. USA: Bandcamp, 2013. Used with permission. (Buy a copy here – support your fellow furs!)
Closing Theme: Husky In Denial – Cloud Fields (Headnodic Mix). USA: Unpublished, 2015. ©2015 Fur What It’s Worth and Husky in Denial. Based on Fredrik Miller – Cloud Fields (Chill Out Mix). USA: Bandcamp, 2011. ©2011 Fur What It’s Worth. (Buy a copy here – support your fellow furs!)
Our interstitial bumpers were all from the Bedfellows Frenzy Original Soundtrack by Husky in Denial. You can buy a copy as a bundled item on Steam with the game or purchase it separately at Bandcamp. The music we used was 2 Fools, 1 Shop; Fools of Destruction; Ska 4 Life; all of which are ©2017 Husky in Denial.

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Next episode: Body Image, Nerd Stereotypes, and the Fandom. Do you have long hair? Are you overweight? Do you groom yourself or find it less important? Is body image something you think of or find important in others? What have you done to work on or not work on your body image? Let us know by Friday, March 10, 2017. S6 Episode 12 – It’s My Fetish - It's an episode six seasons in the making - Roo and Tugs are thrilled to be joined by Kris Patrick (aka Sheen), creator of the popular "The Bedfellows" series of comics, animations, and now game! Yours truly explores the o

Dear Papabear,

I don't want to beat around the bush. I am, obviously, a furry and I got a girlfriend and she is not ok with it. This bothers me a lot, but I never say that to avoid further, sometimes even embarrassing, discussions.

To give you some background: I always loved cats and by pure chance I discovered Nekos which in term led me to the furry fandom quite quickly. The first time I joined a furry chatroom was about two years ago, but I haven't gone to any furry conventions yet. I already was in a relationship with my girlfriend at this point. I didn't think the fandom would stick on me like that, but I quickly found friends and I'm friends with them to this date, although we live on different continents and rarely do something together outside of the chatroom.

And I yiffed and yiff to this day, though less frequently than before.

I admit, I shouldn't. To my girlfriend, it's cheating, to me it means nothing. I also know that she thinks of people yiffing left and right when she hears the word "furry" and a friend of ours, also a furry, is a good example of this. When we discussed about them, i tried to defend me and the fandom, but I can't make her change her opinion on them.

But I do love her! She means more to me than anyone else and leaving her is not an option for either of us, but I don't want to torture her or me by keeping it secret. I'm certain that I can change my behavior about yiffing, which would make the situation manageable, but I cannot change her.

I don't want to betray my girlfriend and/or myself. How do I convince her that furries are not a group of people to hate?
 
Fia (the Braixen) (age 18)
 
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Dear Fia,
 
Your girlfriend, like many other non-furries, believes that the fandom is about kinky, weird sex. You and this other friend, by apparently indulging a lot in yiff, have reinforced this conception she has.
 
Since you assert that you love your girlfriend and don’t want to lose her, and since you also say that you are willing and able to cut down (or perhaps eliminate entirely) your yiffing behavior, I would start there. I would then recommend you try to expose her to all the great stuff in the fandom that has absolutely nothing to do with yiff. To change her views about the fandom, you see, she needs a lot of evidence to contradict what she has already seen and heard about furries. Here’s a pretty good article about misconceptions and the fandom published in the UK’s Guardian.
 
Because you started off on the wrong paw, you’re going to have to do some damage control, and this will likely take quite a bit of time. Be patient and diligent, and hopefully she will come to see that the fandom isn’t just about fuzzy kinkiness.
 
Good Luck!
Papabear
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Submitted by Fred Patten, Furry’s favorite historian and reviewer.

Interlude: A Series of Shorts, by M. R. Anglin.
Seattle, WA, CreateSpace, August 2016, trade paperback $5.99 (79 [+ 1] pages, Kindle $1.99.

This fifth book in Anglin’s Silver Foxes series is only eight connected short stories of about ten pages each. It is an interlude, taking place between the action of the third and fourth novels and, presumably, the next to come.

The first five stories are set at the Isle de Lossierres, the Kingdom of Drymairad’s most exclusive resort. Xenatha (Xena), the adolescent Silver Fox (it’s a secret) who was the protagonist of Into Expermia, and her family are the “guests” of her foster father J.R.’s unwilling sister Chloe, the wolf businessman sister who owns the island.

The Isle is a rich, luxurious vacation spot, but they are there to hide out, not to enjoy themselves. It’s J.R.’s old family home. Xena wears an illegal image generator to pass as an ordinary gray-furred fox.

Although they are hiding out, they also have their first chance since they all came together to relax a bit as a family. J.R., a notorious criminal to the world, is their wolf Daddy. Xena and her younger sister Katheraine (Kathra), a white fox 11 years old, are his foster kits. Xena has an extremely rare genetic disorder that makes her build up metals in her fur, giving her the Silver Fox appearance and an attraction/control of electricity. Karalaina, a vixen with salmon-colored fur, is the girls’ mother who has just rediscovered them after ten years and came to claim them. They persuaded her to stay and join their family. Chloe Dunsworth is a rich wolf businesswoman, J.R.’s sister who is outraged when he shows up after so long with the others, asking to stay quietly on the family’s island resort.

In these first five stories, they begin to relax and bond as a family. The reader of the first four novels learns more about J. R. Dunsworth’s background, as well. The girls go to the beach, where Xena is introduced to other teen girls (chameleon, raccoon, and tigress) by Mira (wolf), her foster cousin. Her boyfriend Hunter conversates with a ghostly German Shepherd who may be a guardian angel (see Anglin’s Silver Foxes short story in the anthology Gods with Fur). When a flying squirrel swimmer almost drowns, Hunter and Kathra save him.

In the next two stories, the focus shifts to those whom they are hiding from: Maximilian (red fox), the former Minister of Defense of Drymairad who has engineered his becoming its king; Celeste, his wife, now Drymairad’s queen; and Jordan (leopard), Max’s henchman who has been rewarded by being made Captain of the Royal Guard. Celeste makes no secret of not trusting Jordan or Jané, his black panther assistant, and when nobody listens to her, she stomps off to do something about it.

The final story, only three pages, shows what is happening to an Expermian fox fanatic who is in an Outsider (Drymairadian?) prison. He is broken out. We’ll presumably see him again …

The cover of Interlude is by Tazia Hall, who did the covers of all four previous Silver Foxes books.

–Fred Patten

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Another discovery from the recent Long Beach Comic Expo. On his web page, here’s how this artist describes himself: “Walter De Leon is an artist in the entertainment industry working on various video games and animated properties for clients such as Disney and Stan Lee. In his free time he would create and come up with various ideas for books in the hopes to inspire others to get out there with their own ideas.” To that end he started Voolah Voolah Press as a vehicle for his own illustrated stories and sketchbooks. He is also looking for other creative people to join the fold! His own books include titles like Bunny Chop!, Dear Mr. Bear, and drawing portfolios of birds, dragons, and monsters.

image c. 2017 Voolah Voolah Press

Peachy Keen Pets is a Canadian craft service that specializes in “cute and quirky pet accessories and apparel”. That means fandom-themed collars, leashes, and other accessories for your pet; and pet-themed t-shirts for you. “Fun and functional, Peachy Keen Pets strives to provide the ultimate in quality, comfort and originality for your pet! Not only do we make stylish dog collars, harnesses, and leashes, but fabulous accessories like bowties, bandanas, leash pouches and more!  Your pet is an original and should stand out on your block, and we’ve got that covered!” Take a look at their web site to see what they currently offer. Woof!

image c. 2017 Peachy Keen Pets

Hi Papabear,

When I was trying to figure out my gender identity, I finally settled on 'agender' because it felt right. I can't explain it...but I suppose it's the same as knowing yes, you are male, or female, or etc.! It's a gut feeling, IMO.

This isn't a letter about gender identity at all, though, heh. I bring this up because of the term 'furry.' I have two fursuits in the works, I'm wild about animals, and I like some furry stuff, but I really don't identify as a furry. The term doesn't feel right to me -- not because of the fandom's reputation (I'm past caring about that) but because I just...well, don't identify! The same gut feeling as when I figured out my gender identity.

(This is also not to say that furry is a gender identity or anything. Just using a comparison.)

However, I'm reminded of that old saying: "If it looks like a duck, quacks like a duck..." etc. I like fursuits and some furry stuff. Does that mean I owe it to myself to take on the furry label? I always considered myself just a person who likes costumes, animals, and good art. I also have plenty of hobbies outside the fandom, so it's not like I can't read a book or watch a show if there isn't a talking squirrel in it. 

I've had a friend tell me, "Well, if a guy liked only guys but refused to say he was gay, wouldn't you raise an eyebrow?" The answer to that is no: I respect people's labels even when they fly in the face of my own reality. Thing is, other folks are probably gonna think I'm in denial, and I'd hate to be seen as dishonest or immature.

Sorry for the long, winding letter, and thanks for all you do,
Wee Lioness (23)
 
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Hi, Wee,
 
Here’s a little secret: Papabear hates labels. People are much more complex than that, and trying to fit someone into one category or another can be an exercise in futility. For example, I could say I’m a gay man, but being gay is just one aspect of a much more complex personality. I’m also a furry, but I don’t go around introducing myself to people as a furry. I’m a writer and editor, too. I’m an amateur philosopher. I’m a brother. I’m a boyfriend. I’m Caucasian. I’m American. I’m a Virgo. I’m a spiritualist. I’m an empath. You see where I’m going with this. You know what I say when I introduce myself to people? “Hi, I’m Kevin Hile.” I’m not a label; I’m me.
 
Just because you like some furry art, fursuits, and some of the stuff associated with furries doesn’t mean you are now required to participate in any furry community activities, nor are you “denying you’re a furry.” The talented woman who made my fursuit, Beastcub, is not a furry, but she loves making fursuits for people. Maybe you’re like that. It begs the questions, doesn’t it, as to what really makes a furry? Obviously, it’s not what you wear or what you call yourself that matters. It’s what you are comfortable with, and if you don’t want to call yourself a furry, then don’t call yourself a furry.
 
Hugs,
Papabear

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• Anthro Weekend Utah Announcement Video
• Squatty Potty’s new product
• Snake Pass Game Trailer
• The Nut Job 2 Is Coming
• Furry Today Webpage
• The Wolves Outside Comic
• Zootopia Wins Oscar for Best Animated Feature
• Dog Dick Candle
• Furry Cons have a Twitter War
• Dante’s Infurno, Burning Man Theme Camp for Sex Positive Furries
• Dog Passes Driving Test
• CloudPets Hack
• Discord Tweets furry joke
• Chief Chien – Pancake Tuesday feat. CJ Husky
• World’s First Scuba Diving Restaurant
• Yelp Adds Gender-Neutral Bathroom Finder
• Denny’s Tweet Rocks Twitter
• Red Faction Armageddon Unicorn Gun
• Monty Python, The Meaning of Life, sex education, 1983

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• Spiders Have Threesomes To Avoid Cannibalistic Females
• Robots with Tails Help to Relay Status to Humans
• City employee busted for makeshift bedroom at work
• Peeps Oreos Are Reportedly Turning Poop Pink
• The Violent World Of Mongoose Gang Wars
• NASA Jokingly Asked The Internet To Name Trappist-1 Planets And It Did Not Disappoint

Emails:

• Anonymous – “[please anon based on response] Questions regarding dreams and motor complications (similar than the title I assure you)”
• Kray – “fan email – question for the cast”

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Watch Video Link Roundup:

• Spray Foam pictures!
• Anthro Weekend Utah Announcement Video
• Squatty Potty’s new product
• Snake Pass Game Trailer
• The Nut Job 2 Is Coming
• Furry Today Webpage
• The Wolves Outside Comic
• Zootopia Wins Oscar for Best Animated Feature
• Dog Dick Candle
• Furry Cons have a Twitter War
• Dante’s Infurno, Burning Man Theme Camp for Sex Positive Furries
• Dog Passes Driving Test
• CloudPets Hack
• Discord Tweets furry joke
• Chief Chien – Pancake Tuesday feat. CJ Husky
• World’s First Scuba Diving Restaurant
• Yelp Adds Gender-Neutral Bathroom Finder
• Denny’s Tweet Rocks Twitter
• Red Faction Armageddon Unicorn Gun
• Monty Python, The Meaning of Life, sex education, 1983

News:

• Spiders Have Threesomes To Avoid Cannibalistic Females
• Robots with Tails Help to Relay Status to Humans
• City employee busted for makeshift bedroom at work
• Peeps Oreos Are Reportedly Turning Poop Pink
• The Violent World Of Mongoose Gang Wars
• NASA Jokingly Asked The Internet To Name Trappist-1 Planets And It Did Not Disappoint

Emails:

• Anonymous – “[please anon based on response] Questions regarding dreams and motor complications (similar than the title I assure you)”
• Kray – “fan email – question for the cast”

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Link Roundup:

• Spray Foam pictures!
• Anthro Weekend Utah Announcement Video
• Squatty Potty’s new product
• Snake Pass Game Trailer
• The Nut Job 2 Is Coming
• Furry Today Webpage
• The Wolves Outside Comic
• Zootopia Wins Oscar for Best Animated Feature
• Dog Dick Candle
• Furry Cons have a Twitter War
• Dante’s Infurno, Burning Man Theme Camp for Sex Positive Furries
• Dog Passes Driving Test
• CloudPets Hack
• Discord Tweets furry joke
• Chief Chien – Pancake Tuesday feat. CJ Husky
• World’s First Scuba Diving Restaurant
• Yelp Adds Gender-Neutral Bathroom Finder
• Denny’s Tweet Rocks Twitter
• Red Faction Armageddon Unicorn Gun
• Monty Python, The Meaning of Life, sex education, 1983

News:

• Spiders Have Threesomes To Avoid Cannibalistic Females
• Robots with Tails Help to Relay Status to Humans
• City employee busted for makeshift bedroom at work
• Peeps Oreos Are Reportedly Turning Poop Pink
• The Violent World Of Mongoose Gang Wars
• NASA Jokingly Asked The Internet To Name Trappist-1 Planets And It Did Not Disappoint

Emails:

• Anonymous – “[please anon based on response] Questions regarding dreams and motor complications (similar than the title I assure you)”
• Kray – “fan email – question for the cast”

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This week on KnotCast, Savrin and Fuzz cover such topics as: The horrific compromise present in the executive branch, Peeps Oreos, Rainfurrest being permanently kill, an awesome new Japanese bookstore, anime, the Switch, the MLP movie being sent out to die, some local comiccon news, and the horror of the Internet of Things intersecting with the horror of Minions. Also, Furry Fiesta soon! Aah! Want to help support the show? We have a Patreon! www.patreon.com/knotcast Episode 342 - The Future Liberals Want

Hi, Papabear!

First of all, thanks so much for writing this column. Early last year, I found out that someone dear to me is a furry and I immediately had a lot of questions and concerns, but this column addressed them all, clarified the fandom for me, and really helped me accept it as not a problem. So again, thank you!

I'll try my best to phrase this as one question only while also including enough details, so it will have a lot of moving parts, sorry!

Me: a straight, female, non-furry who used to have a lot of misgivings (prejudice, even) about the fandom but did more research and has come to understand that it's not what I was worried it was.

Him: a bi, furry male who is kind, smart, diligent, sweet, good-looking, funny, etc., etc. I think that he has a bit of a preference for males, but I don't think us women are completely out of the question. (At least, I hope!)

We met a little more than a year ago through work, where he was my direct supervisor and so any socialization/fraternization would not have been allowed. I developed a crush on him pretty quickly that turned into full-blown feelings before too long (two or three months, I'd say), but I didn't say anything due to company policy and I think I kept it to myself pretty well. We pretty much always had fun chatting at work, and that's when he started dropping hints that he's a furry. I honestly think that he did so based on some things I said that may have sounded like I was a furry (referring to the public at large as “humans,” that kind of thing). It didn't take me long to put two and two together and I realized, “Holy cow, he's what???” Cue initial freak out and worry session.

But I knew him well enough to see that the things I thought I knew about furries were simply incompatible with the good person I was certain he was. So either he wasn't a furry—which he definitely was—or I was wrong about furries. So I decided to really learn the truth about things, and a day or two of proper research (and finding this column!) proved to me that I was incorrect to freak out. Hooray for knowledge combatting prejudice! I was able to stay friendly and close with him at work and the fact that he is in the fandom no longer bothered me.

He left the company for better and brighter things, and I hoped that would be my chance to ask him out, but a) he's really shy, and b) I'm a total chicken (in the figure-of-speech sense), and so it seemed like I would never see him again. But we kept in touch via text, and eventually he revealed to me that he’s in the fandom. So now I know that he knows that I know that he's a furry. Phew! Many failed attempts at planning outings together later, we've hung out a handful of times over the course of the 6 or so months since he left our company. I even went to a (non-furry) con with him in town and got to see him in his fursuited glory—it was pretty awesome!!!

That being said, none of our outings have been dates, even though most of them have been one-on-one. Virtually all of them have happened because I planned them and made them happen. I've told him he could invite his friends to some of them, but he never has. I did meet some of his fandom friends at the con, but it was fairly awkward—almost like he was embarrassed with them about me, or maybe vice-versa. We talk often about the technical aspects of his fursuiting (I'm a tech nerd, and I like problem-solving), but pretty much not at all about deeper matters (his relationships within the fandom, his experience of his furriness growing up, that sort of thing).

I guess the heart of my question is this: Why aren't these fun mutual activities turning into dates? Do I stand a chance of being his girlfriend, or am I disqualified because I'm female/straight/a mundane? Or perhaps he feels embarrassed to hang out with me and his friends at the same time because I'm a mundane? To be clear, I would be 100% fine with being just friends with him. He’s an incredibly awesome person who would be well worth hanging out platonically with, so I'm scared to come right out and address the matter head-on for fear of losing my chance of being just-friends with him. Surely he can tell that I'm okay with his furriness by now, so does he think I wouldn’t want a more-than-friends relationship with him because of it?

I would love to know where I stand with him and if I have a chance of being more than friends, but don't know how to proceed. 

Thanks so much, Papa Bear!
 
MundaneButCrazyFurHim (age 25)
 
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Dear MundaneButCrazyFurHim,
 
My my, I am so glad that my column answered your questions about the furry fandom and you are more comfortable with it.
 
Let’s begin by stating the obvious: Papabear has no idea what is going on inside the mind of your furry friend, but his shyness likely hampers his ability to tell you whether he likes, dislikes, or is indifferent to you. However, he seems agreeable to spending time with you, so it is probably safe to assume he at least likes you.
 
I don’t think it’s fair to accuse him of not wanting to date you because you aren’t a furry (many furries such as myself have romantic relationships with mundanes), and if he is bi there is no reason to assume he is avoiding something more because you are a woman (lots of bi people decide to have serious relationships with one sex or the other).
 
You have also done a lot to make him feel comfortable about you, mostly about his being a furry. Have you also reassured him that you’re okay with his being bi? That seems to be the one element of the equation that has not been thoroughly addressed. Here’s a good article that might clear up some misconceptions on the matter.
 
I would like to suggest you spend at least as much time learning about bisexuality as you have about his being furry. Show to him that you are just as comfortable about that as you are with his being a furry. That might be what is causing him to pause.
 
I hope that helps.
 
Papabear