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Furry Is Grieving after Mate's Death in a Car Accident
Recently (a little over 2 months ago) my mate passed away in a car accident. Now I've been trying to move on but it honestly just feels like I've hit a brick wall. I have a few friends but I still feel that something is missing. I used to be happy and calm. Now I've become angry, depressed(severely), and at certain times violent. And a lot of the places around here that I used to go to with her trigger those emotions. I don't want to be like this but I don't know what to do. And it seems that even my meditation(not medication) doesn't work anymore and my insomnia has now become worse. Do you have any suggestions that could help me a little bit?
--Kaza
Dear Kaza,
I am so sorry for your loss. Nothing Papabear can say will ease the pain of losing a mate or other loved one, but I can give you a little advice here. First of all, it has only been two months. That is not a very long time. Did you know that it typically takes two years for the average person to even begin to adjust to a major life change, such as a death of a loved one or a divorce?
Anger and depression are natural emotions to be experiencing right now. Your violent moods are connected to this. Do not berate yourself for feeling this way; you are feeling angry at the injustice of losing a loved one so early in your life, and perhaps even some "survivor guilt," as in "Why is he dead and not me?" You might be familiar with the stages of adjusting to loss, first put forward by psychologist Elisabeth Kübler-Ross in 1969:
- Denial: “This can’t be happening to me.”
- Anger: “Why is this happening? Who is to blame?”
- Bargaining: “Make this not happen, and in return I will ____.”
- Depression: “I’m too sad to do anything.”
- Acceptance: “I’m at peace with what has happened.”
There is no order or timeline for this process, and sometimes the order is mixed around a little, but you can expect these stages to occur in your immediate life. Eventually, you will reach stage 5. This does not mean you will not still feel some pain and loss, or even sadness, but when you get to stage 5 you will be able to cope with the loss and move on with your life.
So, recognizing that you are not acting inappropriately is the first step. Now, you ask what you can do about it? Meditation doesn't seem to be working for you, but there are other things you can try. First of all, do not try to manage your grief by yourself. Seek out other people to talk to. Do you belong to a church or synagogue? That would be an excellent place to go; talk to your minister or rabbi. Many religious organizations have groups where you can go for support. If not, look in your local newspaper. The community sections of newspapers often announce meetings for grief counseling and group support.
Also, try and get back to a routine of daily life. It might be that the routine you enjoyed with your mate has been disrupted. You will need to find a new routine and begin to move on with your life. Finding hobbies, and doing charity work can also be immensely therapeutic. Dr. Lou LaGrand has written a very nice summary of things you can try to adjust to this new time in your life: http://ezinearticles.com/?The-Top-10-Things-You-Can-Do-To-Cope-with-the-Death-of-a-Loved-One&id=524392.
Good luck, Kaza. I would love to hear from you again on how you are doing.
Papabear
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i saw a post earlier on how to greet other furs and I thought of this after seeing someones comment...
As we all know, 'The narwhal bacons at midnight' is reddits universal greeting to fellow redditors. Don't you think it is time for something similar for furries? Something really random that has nothing to do with furries so it is underground to those who are not furries. Some of the ones I came up with are: 'Why so cereal?' 'Your watch is untied'
?Well that's all I got... I know this is probably a really stupid post but it could get rid of a lot of awkwardness.
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Anyone at Animazement here in Raleigh, NC?
I have a border collie badge that says "Naryeth". Say hi if you see me!
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‘Life’s a Jungle’ and ‘Buz-e-Chini’ no threat to U.S. animation
Battle Beasts Attack Again!
Here’s a phrase we haven’t heard for a while: Battle Beasts. A would-be toy tie-in / collectibles phenomenon / comic book series from the 1980′s, it never took off in the way that similar ideas did about that time. But now IDW have announced plans to bring forth a special 4-issue full-color Battle Beasts mini-series — with a wait-and-see attitude as to if it goes beyond that. “It’s just another average day for Bliss, an ignored linguist at the Department of Defense. However, when Bliss unlocks the secret translation of an ancient scroll, terror rains from the sky… in the form of the BATTLE BEASTS! Unstoppable creatures armed to the teeth, the Battle Beasts are determined to make Earth their own personal war zone. Nothing can stop their merciless carnage. Nothing except perhaps a gentle word from the one woman who can understand them—Bliss!” The new series is written by Bobby Curnow, with art by Valerio Schiti and Dan Brereton. The new series of comics and toys first hit during the recent C2E2 con in Chicago. Check out Comic Book Resources to find out more.
I need a bit of help.
I first became interested in wolves; therefore deciding that my fursona would be one. But after the last couple months consisting of research about the stereotypical behaviors of wolves, they don't suit me at all. And they're also very common and generic. So, I'm going to list many things about myself and I would appreciate if anyone could assist me in finding a ideal fursona. It can be a hybrid and I would prefer a type(s) of canine. Without further ado, here are my basic traits: I'm extremely shy around people I'm unfamiliar with. I can be very quiet and very loud. I'm energetic around close friends and family. Many people see me as clever/smart. Many people suggest I'm funny/humorous. I'm usually mature but I can be quite childish at times. I'm mostly a optimistic person. I'm not easily upset. If you need any other traits just say the word. Thanks!
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Sly Cooper Thieves in Time on PS Vita Video Preview
Posted today, the Playstation Blog has for us some new footage of Sly Cooper Thieves in Time running on the PS Vita. The port of the game will have exclusive PS Vita features, which are shown off in the demo. The game has an expected release period of Fall 2012.
Check out the video below for all that thievious Raccoonus action!
ActFur on Air Season 4, Ep 1 – Grand Opening!
I'm having some trouble finding a suitable fursona...
I've been trying to find an animal that fits my personality, but no luck so far. I'm no expert on animal behavior, so if anyone has a link to a personality quiz or website on animal behaviors I would really appreciate it.
edit: I have chosen the always majestic (and maddeningly cute) Pembroke Welsh Corgi as my fursona. My thanks to all who offered their insight.
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How and why did you choose your fursona?
Sorry if this subreddit gets this question at least once a month, but I went through the new posts up to about eleven days and couldn't find anything...
But I'm curious. =)
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Fursuit help?
Well, I should probably start this off with a personal description. I'm about 6'3" tall, and 13 stone. Basically, I'm wondering if any of you would help to make me a fursuit(For money, of course). If so, could you please message me? I've been really wanting to go parading around in one for a while now, but I haven't the money, nor the craftsmanship, to do so. Any photos I would post including it would include whatever user-names you want, so long as you don't want to be anonymous. Thanks:)
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