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I know, I know - it's another one of THESE posts. But I've been a lurker for a fairly long time, and sometimes it seems ridiculous the number of subreddits we have. I also saw another post recently about how there aren't very many furry redditors, and I don't think that's necessarily the case.

I just think that we're all spread out among the various subreddits. If we consolidated, I'm pretty sure our r/furry page would behave a lot more like other reddits, with more upvotes on new and interesting content - and with a lot more content to one reddit, instead of sparse content spread across all ten of our subdivisions.

Thoughts?

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I have been in this Fandom a long while and I have seen it go through some trials, but each time it has made true on the promise that everyone has a chance in this Fandom. Everyone has a chance at making something of themselves and changing their life for the better. I find that this Fandom offers a promise of a peaceful place to explore the depths of your imagination, free of judgement. Most of all I find that it offers people with no social standing a wealth of friendship and comradery. Does anyone else find this Promise to be something that was given to you, and upheld?

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I just got a new bank card, and I want to personalize it! Can you send me links to your favourite clean artwork? (Can we try for a theme of music?) SFW work only. (Obvs)

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I'm a software engineer, having been in the industry for 10 years+ , and I'm curious if there's any applications/programs/websites people are interested in, or are interested in collaborating on. I think we have a lot of talented techies, and there are a lot of ideas out there, but I'm wondering if we can get those all together and produce some neat things for the fandom. Thanks!

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Please help me, Papabear :(

I am trying to recover from my date bringing us back to "just friends" status about a month ago. And he says he thinks we shouldn't go further anymore at all.

I don't know if I can handle that, Papabear.... I really loved it to be with him :'( sometimes it hurts just to be with him. He says he wants to stay friends with me, and I'm not sure ... somehow my life still wanted me with him somewhere.

Papabear, I need help to let go. I don't want to get hurt anymore. I want to get him out of my pain, but still be his friend.... That's possible, right?

I don't want to get plagued all my life, wondering "what if." I want to find someone who will love me, I wanna start dating and loving again, and not get hurt when I see him happy with someone else. :'(

I need help—what do I do to let go, to forgive him and forget all the pain he caused me by not being my mate?

I know it's possible for us to be friends again for real.... I once regarded him as my "bro" but after we dated and it didn't work out, I dunno what to do.

Please help, Papabear.

--from BW Mena 

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Hi, BW,

Papabear feels your pain. Your situation is similar to one I have gone through, though not exactly the same. As many of my readers know, I am divorced, yet I still care very much about the woman who is my ex, even after realizing I am a gay bear. We both realized that, because of my sexual orientation, continuing the marriage was no longer feasible. While the breakup was very painful, it had to be done. 

It was actually a very amicable divorce. We came to an agreement on how to split the assets, and we parted friends. I even helped her paint her new house after the breakup, and she has been supportive of me, as well. So, to answer your question, yes, it is possible to remain friends with an ex.

During times like the holidays, it can make me very sad and nostalgic about how things were and, as you say, the “what if” of the future that never happened. The problem with this is sometimes I idealize the past. It’s wonderful to remember the good things, but it wasn’t all good, and if I am honest with myself, going back really isn’t an option. I can’t go back to an idealized marriage that really never existed; and if I did manage to go back somehow, I would only find myself becoming discontented again in some way.

What I’m trying to say, BW, is that there must have been a reason why the person you love just wants to be friends now (don’t undervalue friends—true friends are almost as rare as true loves). He sees you as a good person, someone he would like to be a friend with, but he is looking for something in a mate that you just don’t possess. That doesn’t mean you aren’t lovable, just that you aren’t the match for him.

So, you see, your dreams of “what if” are just as illusory as mine. There is no chance of a “what if” because he doesn’t love you the way you love him.

At this point, I need to pause for a moment. I find it peculiar that, at the beginning of your email, you call him “your date.” Is that an odd typo or a Freudian slip? A date implies that you weren’t even at the serious stage of a committed relationship yet and were just, well, dating. If that’s the case, then you are being a little overdramatic here because we’re not talking about a painful breakup between two lovers but, rather, simply two people who were dating and you, clearly, were more into him than vice versa. The other guy was just “testing the waters” at this point and concluding that he would like to date other people to find a deeper relationship.

Reading between the lines, you might have actually driven him away by being too intense, too fast when he wasn’t ready for it. Is that a possibility?

Either way, the result is the same. The guy likes you, but not to the point of wanting a loving, committed relationship. Young love can be intense, and painful, but this experience will hopefully mature you a bit and help you realize that not every relationship works out. In fact, given statistics, the majority of them don’t work out. 

This was not the guy for you, BW, but Papabear is sure that, with time, you will find someone in your life who loves you as much as you love them. Start seeing other people. Stop obsessing on the woulda, coulda, shoulda, and the pain you are feeling right now will subside. Who knows? You might even discover at one point that the guy you had a major crush on is really not what you thought. At which point, you might think, “Whew! Dodged that bullet!”

Life is about experiences and learning from those experiences. Take notes, remember the lesson, maintain your friendship if you can, but don’t worry if you can’t. That’s life, BW.

Wishing You a Greater Love in the Near Future,

Papabear

.. I feel like I'm joining it pretty late in my life. I wasn't interested in at back in high school or college but for some reason I am. But now I'm interested and want to dive right in but I feel kinda awkward trying to join a community this late. Should I just not even bother? Should I just fuck it, I might die somewhere in my thirties and just blend in?

edit: I'm 29 btw

edit: wow, thanks for the encouragement everyone! This fandom can be so supportive :3

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It’s Thursday, or here at WagzTail, it’s Proverb day. Join us as we compare Proverbs 9:7-9 to the dark caverns of Youtube Comments.

Hosts: Jwingy, Spenser, Wolfin
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Daily Show: November 29, 2012 - It's Thursday, or here at WagzTail, it's Proverb day. Join us as we compare Proverbs 9:7-9 to the dark caverns of Youtube Comments. - Hosts: Jwingy, Spenser, Wolfin Picture by: Silent Paw

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Hello there!

I've been a furry since March of this year, and have drawn a handful of cartoony furry drawings on paper, but I wanted to step it up and make a reference sheet of my fursona, Apollo.

Since I have no skills in computer artwork, I was planning to take the draw-scan-edit-photoshop-addtext route, but I don't know exactly how to do that. Do I need special programs? A certain variety of Photoshop? Do I need to draw a certain way?

I can torrent the programs of course, if needed, but if someone could just explain how I can make my reference sheet, possibly step by step, that would be wonderful! Thank you~ :3

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x-no-archive: yes

On 11/21/2012 11:46 PM, Friendly Neighborhood Vote Wrangler {One Of

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So I'm curious as to what other folks have had to deal with. Give me your stories of folks who don't know how to behave and have their behavior only reinforced by the fandom/the furries around them.

Here's mine:

So I've known this guy since summer, met him from a skype group with other furs. He's your typical Have-sex-with-ALL-the things furry, I don't mind too much because he doesn't get pushy with me. Now out of no where, he one day tells me that he wants nudes of me. I'm completely weirded out by this, especially since we don't really talk outside of the skype group and we don't even talk much in the group, so just tell him no.

Well surprise, he asks again, just a few days later, then asks why I'm upset since he's only asked TWO times. Later I find out 2 or 3 people in our skype group have given him nudes and that they've gone on webcam for him, and I know aside from those 2 or 3 folks, he's had other folks do the same for him before.

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Author: actfuronair From their early days in antiquated chatrooms and terrible geocities home-pages with scrolling marquee banners, to their current glorydays across twitter and deviantart; Social sites have been the bread and butter feeding the growing community fandoms, furry included. What sites brought us along and what places do we fondly remember spending our teenage [...] ActFur OnAir: ActFur s4 ep10 – Websites