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This is an excerpt from my dream journal, since I lucid dream (more info over on /r/luciddreaming ) but I decided to post it here since the folks over at /r/luciddreaming might not "get" the furry terms.

Last night I dreamt that I was fursuiting at a convention. I don't own a fursuit or have ever been to a con before so it was very strange. I met one of my friends from FA there who was also a suiter and strangely, one of my school friends was there too. After about thirty minutes to an hour some weird shit started to happen. I saw people injecting themselves and taking out pi millilitres of blood (3.14159.... I know you can't get exactly pi, but they were using estimates). I still wasn't lucid at this time so I was quite scared and wondering as to what was happenening. I have a kind of phobia for needles so I started to try and find the nearest exit, but someone was following me with a needle in hand... A few minutes after this I became lucid but the dream didn't want me in it anymore so I woke up.

Yeah I don't even......

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Hey Papabear,

(I came to you before but I never heard back on that subject. You don’t need to get back on that. It’s been solved.)

I am sorry in advance if I may sound too whiney or rant-ish in this letter but I am still emotional. I am a female. I am very independent and I usually can handle my own problems. But this is something I never had to be dealt with before.

About two months ago, my mate....let’s call him Insane...had cheated on me. He, himself, is a bisexual and I am straight. At first, the news of his utter betrayal didn't hit me....But recently I finally snapped. I snapped at him and cried and asked why would you do this to me. But if this isn't enough....Earlier in our relationship, he had lead me to believe he was also straight.

I was happy he could trust me to tell me he was bisexual but the part that got me was that he told me he is more attracted to a male than female. I mean I would have been mad at him no matter the gender of the person he cheated on me with....But it was with a man. A man who has tempted him before with sex and came onto him...He knew this guy gonna try to come at him, even though I am there in his life. And yet....Insane still did it. On the same bed I had trusted him with my own body, he had betrayed me. 

I want to scream at him, I want to slap him, I want to cry.... I want to hurt him back. But I know myself. I don’t get even in that sense. I’m not that type of person to do so. Insane had suggested we take a break and ... we did that. I hadn't visited him or vice versa. But we talked, though. I need to get my emotions out. 

Insane had told me right after it happened and he is genuinely guilty and sorry. This is the main reason I am giving a second chance. And because I love him and we all make mistakes. I know I will f*ck up too. We’re human. But since then, his anger and guilt to himself has affected us as well. I know he is mad but he won’t stop talking to me like a prick. The way he says things to me makes me feel he doesn't care.... But I realized its anger at himself.

When Insane told me that day, “I am more attracted to men than women”... It made me feel like I can’t compare. I can’t be his everything in that sense. I can’t pleasure him how a man could and toys will only do so much. (We still have yet to try toys.) But I know we are taking a break from sex ... because honestly I don’t want him to touch me in that way. I feel useless and unattractive.... Like I am not his everything. Insane told me I am but ... still. How can I compare to his preference? He told me he fell in love with me and he wants me only. But I sure don’t feel that way.... And after cheating on me with a dude, that made me feel lower than dirt....

I feel unattractive already with my body image issue but that’s another problem for another time.

My question is, though.... How do we get through this? I never have been cheated on like this. And I would like some help that isn't biased. (Went to my mother ... didn't end well.) And how do I get out of the hole of feeling unattractive? I need ... to be rescued.

I would appreciate it greatly and thanks for taking time out of your day to read this.

Signed,

The Jaded One

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Dear Jaded One,

My sincere apologies for missing your earlier letter. Every now and then, Papabear gets a little overwhelmed and accidentally forgets to reply to a writer. (When I do, dear readers, don’t be shy—poke me!) Anyway, I’m glad the earlier problem resolved itself.

I will get right to the point on this letter. The crux of the problem is to be found in the fact that you are straight and he is bisexual with a preference for men. If there is one thing I have learned in my life it is that if you have a couple who do not share sexual preferences, even if you love each other very much, you are in for a bumpy ride. Unless you, Jaded, can accept that your boyfriend will want to have sex, at least now and then, with men, you are not going to be able to work this out. 

I am not contradicting your boyfriend’s statement that he truly loves you. I’m sure he does, and he could probably be happy with your being his only female sexual partner. But his inner wiring is not something that can be changed. If that were the case, I would still be married to my former wife. 

It is important that you understand that your boyfriend’s behavior is not a reflection upon you, and you should not let it bruise your self-esteem. You could be the most beautiful woman on the planet, but, believe me, if he has a preference for males it would not matter. So, don’t feel unattractive and unwanted. It’s not about your appearance, it’s about your gender.

The reason for his being terse and surly with you, furthermore, is that he is doing his best to be faithful to you and it is getting him sexually frustrated. Your interpretation that his anger comes from his being angry at himself is incorrect because you are looking at the situation from the perspective of a woman, which is, to be fair, the only way you can do it. No, his anger is born of the frustration of not only keeping himself away from men but now you as well, as you are refusing sex with him, which is only exacerbating the problem.

There is a very fundamental misunderstanding between the sexes that goes back to the beginning of humanity: women are wired to have sex to have children and to be emotionally bonded with their partners; men are wired to have sex in order to fertilize as many women as possible and spread their genes. Now, if a man is gay or bi, even though he is not doing the Darwin thing by seeding progeny, the instinct to be sexually active is still extremely strong. I’ve heard this summarized in a couple of ways, one of which is: “Women need a reason, men need a place.” It sounds crude, but it’s generally true.

(Interestingly, one study claims the opposite is true: http://www.clutchmagonline.com/2013/05/newsflash-women-are-less-monogamous-than-men/. Do note this is just one book and one study, so take it with a grain of salt. It is also interesting that, according to this book, when women get bored with their partners they simply go the no-sex route rather than seeking an outside lover, although that happens, too. In my personal experience and observations, though, I really find this conclusion hard to believe. Men clearly tend more to promiscuity than women do.)

Does this mean men cannot be monogamous? No, they certainly can be, but it is less likely that they will be. Women usually take this to mean that men are morally inferior pigs. That’s really unfair; men are just men. We are all—men and women alike—ruled by biological instinct, like it or not. And, if your boyfriend’s instinct is to be bisexual and to prefer men over women, then there is nothing you can do to change that.

Now, it is up to you to decide whether you can love your boyfriend for who he really is or not because what you are currently doing—denying him sex with you and anyone else—is a strategy that is doomed to fail.

Good luck!

Papabear

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Sorry I am getting back to you way too fast. But I wanted say three things.

1. Thank you for getting back to me so quickly! I was seriously thought I was still asleep and it was a dream. I appreciate the words and I will try to get past the sexual preference problem because I do love him that much and I want us to work.

2. I probably should had also stated our relationship was semi-open. So if he wanted to go to a guy friend of ours and wanted to have sex with him.... He could only if I approve the person and vice versa. So I wasn't straining him of sex with a man (totally not saying you said I was or anything.) He could have and did what he wanted with those people I allowed. But the thing was I didn't approve the man he cheated on me with and didn't even ask if it was okay. 

3. And I just felt if I limit the sex, we could focus on him and myself without the thought of sex. I hope this was a good idea to also close our relationship until we get over it. Is it a good idea to do so?

Just thought I let that information out to clarify he could have sex with males as long I agreed. (I hope this doesn't come off as rude.)

Thanks again, Papabear

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Hi, Jaded,

Er, yeah, that is a pretty key piece of information you left out. If you are allowing him to express his "other side," shall we say, then that is more than fair of you. I also think it is reasonable for you to request that he only play with people with whom you are comfortable and about whom you are aware. I'm not sure why you disapproved of the guy he had sex with, but I'm sure you had a reason to, and he should have respected that or at least talked to you first before he did what he did.

As for having a temporary closing of the relationship and cooling off period in which the two of you also do not have sex, I'm still not certain that is a good idea. While I appreciate your intention for focusing on the relationship's other aspects, it sounds like this was your idea and, as such, might be seen as a kind of "punishment" by him.

Instead of refraining from sex, I would suggest you try to spice things up between the two of you. Instead of a "No sex for you at all until we figure this all out," try "Let's take a few weeks to focus on rebooting our own sex life, just you and me. By focusing on ourselves, I think we can re-bond and regain that trust that we seem to have lost. And once we have that trust again, we can talk about your having sex with other men."

This is called the positive vs. negative reinforcement gambit. Instead of giving the guy an electrical shock, so to speak, to punish bad behavior, give him a nice chocolate treat to encourage good behavior. Continue to reinforce good behavior until you have reaffirmed the bond between the two of you.

Thanks for writing again, and I hope this helps!

Papabear

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Are you prepared for disaster? In today’s episode we talk about our individual preparedness plans in the event of some emergency. We also have a hyperactive wolfin.

Metadata and Credits WagzTail Podcast 2.0 Episode 91
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Author: Fred Endtown has been a black-&-white Monday-Friday webcomic since January 18, 2009. Its popularity has grown fast, and it was shortlisted for the 2011 Ursa Major Award in the Best Anthropomorphic Graphic Story category. A rave review by Bill Sherman in the Seattle Post-Intelligencer (June 24, 2011) [originally on Blogcritics] began: A snappy blend […]

So a little bit back I said I was going to start 3D modelling, starting of first with "myself" and once I have that mastered move on to other things.

One of the other plans I have is making an animation, similar to that of the spyfox animation that was on the front page a few days ago...but probably nowhere near as good quality or puns :P

It will be very serious so don't expect much humour...sorry.

I have already written out the script for the teaser I will make...and if you guys really do like it and want to see more I will try and make the full thing.

I'll post the script if anyone is interested in reading about it before seeing it and I am sorry if I have posted this in the wrong subreddit.

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The furries can be artists, writers, puppeteers or any kind of fan who identify with animals "furry
Growing worldwide movement "Furry Fandom". These are people who dress in costumes stuffed animals, and are known as furry fans, furries, or simply furs, all derived from the word furry (which in English means "hairy").

The furries can be artists, writers, puppeteers or any kind of fan who identify with animals "furry" anthropomorphic (albeit with a lot of personality). The most common are cats, dogs and fantastic creatures (dragons or type alebrijes). Many furries congregate in cyberspace enjoy artwork depicting anthropomorphic animals, and especially like to attend furry conventions.

The Furry Fandom community has also developed its own vocabulary, including words such as "fursona" (person who has a furry character) or "fleshie" (a non-furry). They even have the furotismo, also known as furry erotica or pornography, and the "fursuiters" are fursonas who engage in furry pornography.

At the costumes to be used by "fursonas" are called "fursuits" (English "fur" coat and "suit" suit). To make matters worse there is also a WikiFur, where you can see articles and definitions for each term furry.

"Furry Fandom" is a whole way of life and of course huge profits: many furries are dedicated to puppetry, video design, creating comics or perform live shows. And of course, also prepared stripper shows adult furry style.

The movement also follows a legion of researchers, journalists, photographers and artists seeking inspiration from this trend, the same to establish anthropological treatise on the subject, a series of photographs, videos or pictures pornofurries.

The furries are inspired by cartoon characters (like Bugs Bunny), TV shows, movies, video games and even sports mascots and company logos.

Some researchers of the phenomenon "Furry Fandom" considered to have originated in the 1960s, when it became popular anthropomorphic cartoons. Others believe that arise in the '80s, between the conventions of comics and science fiction boom. Some more place the "Furry Fandom" as part of Fashion Cosplay; although the furry trend grew so much that almost became independent, as indicated by furry historian Fred Patten.

The action of creating a fursona is one of the first steps to enter and become known in the furry community: the new member chooses a certain animal that feels particularly strong identification, which will become your avatar or icon within the fandom . Through this character will interact with other members of role playing games online, or appearing in fantastic stories, pictures, forums and communities throughout the world. Another objective is to attend meetings or themed events to meet other members with general or private interest.

The most common fursonas felines (cats, lions, tigers), canines (wolves, foxes, dogs, and even skunks) fantastic creatures (dragons or alebrijes type) and combination of different furries as a "folf" (Fox and wolf) or an "cabbit" (cat and rabbit). Some choose most unique characters such as giraffes, horses, ponies, zebras, bobcats or deer. And while there are all kinds, rarely (if ever) are identified with primates.

Furry Fandom culture has its own art, animation, comics and literature, and many of the activities are carried out online. There is a wide variety of furry files on the network (art and writings), and some are free but some have to pay. The latter include adult-only materials.

In regard to the tendency to meet other furry fursonas, worldwide there are groups that meet regularly. The Anthrocon, held every July in Pittsburgh (Pennsylvania, USA) is the most recognized of all, but there are similar events in the UK, Germany, Brazil, France, Russia and of course Mexico. (Twitter: @ rolandolino)

Welcome to Fuzzy Logic Episode 90! Guilty Pleasures!

After a prolonged absence, Kyo makes an auspicious return! Yay! Fox is back!

Discussions start off with the saga of the noob drawing to a close at long last! YAY! …unfortunately, the Smokey now has all of the overtime trying to catch up. Oh well. Better that than error correction!

Kyo regales us briefly on what happened while he was gone as well as reports on Rocky Mountain Fur Con and Indie Fur Con. Then, we get his impromptu word of the week! (that’ll learn ya fer being gone for six weeks!)

Halfwit tells the tale of the centipede that found its way into her bed, and then expresses displeasure with the changes to the American Health Care system, more specifically, how they have impacted her indirectly.

Isty engages rant mode over a certain individual who has been arrested for alleged acts of a rather heinous nature. Really? We gotta defend ourselves against this now? He then mentions a bit of an inconvenience that has recently befallen him.

At the end of our music break, we have us a little ad from our sister podcast, Fur What Its Worth! Go give them a listen and a subscribe! They’s good peoples!

Emails arrive next and they are four in number (with a surprise bonus message that arrived mid-show!)

First up, Ryo, mentioning how he enjoyed a certain theatrical feature for a certain multi-colored-pony-themed cartoon that Kyo will cut a bitch over. He also continues the discussion regarding a church’s behavior in regards to offensive speech.

Next comes Lux, the email-deflowered European transplant now living in Houston! He tells us he enjoys having his hair fiddled with and how it makes him feel cuddly!

Legionbunny gives us a quick little cover of ‘A few of my favorite things’ and then lists off some of them! Nice job on the re-writing lyrics!

Runes Iceblur provides a fairly lengthy message, a nice introductory one none-the-less, about himself, focusing pretty strongly on writing. We give him a few tips based on the limited information we have, and then move on to discussing his job search progress. More info is needed, write in again! Good luck with your writing!

Our bonus message was from Morgain and was read in a fast Scottish accent for being late! They tell of ‘Teen-Mom’ and crochet!

Next show’s topic will be about ANGER MANAGEMENT!! How do you deal with it? Do you have trouble? Have you met with success? Do you have tips for those who might need a means of keeping their cool under pressure? Write in and let us know!

Music Break: Lily Allen – The Fear

Episode Summary Music: Gay Activity – Ren & Stimpy Production Music

Episode 90 – Guilty Pleasures - Welcome to Fuzzy Logic Episode 90! Guilty Pleasures! After a prolonged absence, Kyo makes an auspicious return! Yay! Fox is back! Discussions start off with the saga of the noob drawing to a close at long last! YAY! …un[...]

So hey guys, I just moved into my dorm at college, and because schedules are so weird, there's a lot of downtime and not a lot of people to hang out with. I was wondering if anyone was interested in chatting some every once in a while :)

Just a bit of background information, I'm Trystan, the Skunk. 18, male, and gay. International business major, huge video game and sport fan, and really haven't had many furry friends in a while, so I'd like to reconnect.

I primarily use Skype, so if you'd like to talk some, you can add me at wolfee.fur. I don't add people, I apologize; I wait for requests. This can basically be a big skype username friend so everyone can meet everyone and the like.

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I am heading out on a camping trip Friday and I'm looking for something to read while I'm there. I need something that is available available in an ebook format and I like sci-fi and adventure stories. I like Stephen King, but Im looking for something a bit fluffier for this trip. If it helps at all, I have just read "A Distant Sun" and "Rosettes and Ribbons" by MCA Hogarth and liked both stories, although, I am looking for a full length novel rather than a short story.

ED: Also, it should be SFW.

ED2: Thanks for all of your suggestions! I ended up buying "The Shattered Sky" Paul Lucas and "The Colour of Magic" by Terry Pratchett.

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Bill Robinson is an animator and illustrator living in the Bay Area in California. He’s currently a lead artist at Kabam, where he helps to create social massively multi-player online games like Dragons of Atlantis.  At his personal web site. FlimFlammery.com, you’ll find other examples of Mr. Robinson’s illustration projects, including several children’s books and fantasy works. Turns out he even illustrated a tie-in book for the animated film HOP.

image c. 2013 Universal Pictures / Bill Robinson

Telltale Games' next choice and consequence game is The Wolf Among Us, which is based off the Vertigo comic books, "Fables" by Bill Willingham. It follows Bigby Wolf (aka Big Bad Wolf) as the nicotine-addicted, werewolf, detective sheriff of Fabletown, which is occupied by downtrodden fable story characters. In this new trailer, we see the rough-looking Bigby explain a little more about what he's doing in this town. On the eve of The Walking Dead game, we cannot -wait- to see what Telltale does with this series.