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Hi there,

I’m recently struggling around with how can I be myself. I have this problem for a while already but its getting annoying. So as I maybe said before I’m a gay fur.

I adore femboy furs a lot, they can be so cute and all, and I want to be like that too, I also sometimes act really girly, now that brings me to the this: At about 50% of the day I feel really male and I’m like a cool motor biker, listening to hard music like hardcore or heavy metal and so on, and I feel really good then, but when I feel more comfortable, as like in class because they all now I’m a gay fur, I get to feel really girly and I'd just love to be one except for the genitals, as like a trans or crossdresser. But I cant satisfy that desire, to be able to try out clothing like a girl, its really embarrassing and I don’t have those clothes and its really awkward to go and buy some or ask some of my sister. 

Also its really different from feeling like a cool moto biker, I don’t know what feeling I have to follow, but one of my biggest dreams is trying out and being a trans for one day and see if I feel better.

But I just don’t know how to get to the point I can try it out without my parents or family or bf finding me weird.

How can get to that point I’m able to be a femboy without feeling embarrassed or weird? 

I’m scared that if I do like it a lot when I get to that point and choose to stay like that I’m gonna lose my bf :( or my family liking me. I have no friends not even on the internet who are a furry femboy and kinda experienced the same thing as me 

Bluefluffy Fusky (age 17, Flanders)

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Welcome back, Bluefluffy,

Papabear believes that many people are under the false preconception that they can only be one thing. In my experience, people are much more complicated than that. We have many many aspects of our personality. Some are more dominant than others, but we are definitely not one-dimensional.

Therefore, you can be, sometimes, a biker dude, masculine and tough, and, at other times, express your more girly, softer side. There is nothing wrong with that. You are lucky you live in a place like Belgium, which is much more open-minded about such things than the Bible Belt in the United States. It is therefore rather remarkable to me that you feel so uncomfortable about expressing yourself in such a wonderful country.

My guess about this is that your problem is you haven’t yet reached out to the LGBT community in your area. How can you know what opportunities are out there for friends and activities if, as you say, you have no friends in the community, not even online. You need to find some buddies, Bluefluffy, who understand you. Below are some helpful links that I copied from antwerp.angloinfo.com:

LGBT Associations

Çavaria: An umbrella organisation with over 120 member associations supporting the LGBT community through consultation and trainings. The organisation also lobbies the government to ensure equal rights for gay people and transsexuals in welfare campaigns and general policy.

• Çavaria (website in Dutch)
  At: Kammerstraat 22, 9000 Ghent 
  Tel: 09 223 69 29 
  email

Sensoa: An organisation whose aim is to promote sexual health and sexual rights. Its primary aims include promoting sex education and the prevention of STDs and HIV.

• Sensoa 
  At: Kipdorpvest 48a, 2000 Antwerp
  Tel: 03 238 68 68 
  email

Active Company: A sport and leisure association and club for gay people and their friends.

• Active Company (website in Dutch)
  At: Draakplaats, 1, 2018 Antwerp 
  Tel: 0477 51 03 05 
  email

Het Roze Huis: The Pink House is a café, a meeting point and an information centre for the LGBT community in Antwerp. It is part of Çavaria.

• Het Roze Huis 
  At: Draakplaats 1, 2018 Antwerp
  email

Useful Websites:

• GayBelgium: Information website in French or Dutch
• Zizo Online: Online magazine with news, an events guide and other information (in Dutch)
• Gay Bars In Flanders

That’s your first step. Learn from these people and you will be a lot more comfortable. Now, about your boyfriend. Hon, if you can’t be who you are around your boyfriend, than around whom can you be yourself? If you want a true relationship with him, you’re going to have to express yourself. If, after you do that, he doesn’t want to be your boyfriend anymore, then he’s not the guy for you. I was really nervous about telling Yogi I was a furry, for example, but when I did he was totally accepting of me, even though he himself was not a furry (he’s furry-friendly). You need to have an open conversation with your boyfriend, too.

Many decisions in our lives are made based on fear. We are always afraid of being judged harshly by others: friends, family, coworkers. The human psyche has a powerful drive to be accepted because we are desperately afraid of being alone. This has the effect of making us hide behind masks, concealing our true selves, and, when we do this, we die a little inside. 

The thing about fear, however, is it is often unjustified. When I found out I was gay, for example, I was very afraid of losing some of my Christian friends. Fortunately, I chose my Christian friends well, and they accepted me for what I was (wow, many other “Christians” could take a lesson here). The same can be true for you. I don’t know your family, but you might not be giving them enough credit and they could be a lot more understanding than you think. Same with your boyfriend.

In summary, don’t think that you have to be just one thing or another; embrace the complexity of your personality and soul, but do not make decisions about who you are based on fear of rejection. And reach out to your local community. When it comes to things like shopping, I’d bet you that there are shopping areas a train ride away where you can try on some pretty clothes and see other guys in the store doing the same thing. Do some research on the wonderful thing called the Internet and you will begin to learn about them.

Hugs,

Papabear

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Has anyone been fooled hard yet today?

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I'm really, really, REALLLLLYYY glad it isn't affecting us furries.

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I'm a little worried at this point that nothing is really sticking for so long and none of my previous fursonas have really "clicked". Anyone else out there that's gone through this?

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Hello :)

Errrrr, where to begin

I was introduced to furries via my SO. He has been one for years but hid a lot of it from me due to fear of being rejected.

So anyways, been trying to connect on this level, just being honest and whatnot with one another.

I find myself attracted sexually to the naughty art. I find the PG art adorable and sweet. Basically I just love any furry art. The thought of fur suiting sounds like a blast and just being friendly/playful suited up with people at a con.

I've attempted to make up a character of my own fersona, but have a hard time finding which furry/scaly creature I click with, but I'm enjoying the hunt.

I used to love writing stories and could see putting my fursona into one, even using this as a reason to start writing again.

My inner child is rather playful and loving... :p

So do I qualify as a fur? The only aspect I haven't grasped is the roleplaying/texting dealy. Never really roleplayed much and don't know any terms, meanings or lingo. :p

Thank you for any help! /waves

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One of those interesting modern-world phenomena: Václav Štajger and Michaela Štajgerová, a furry fan couple from the Czech Republic, are seeking international funding for their new furry t-shirt enterprise. They’ve actually been at it for a while, with Václav running the business and Michaela’s artwork on the shirts, but now problems with their printing company have left them with two choices: Either raise their shirt prices considerably, or go into business printing the shirts themselves. They’ve opted for the latter — and they’ve set up a new Indiegogo campaign to raise money for it, from now through May 12th. True, the shirts would be coming from Europe, but in this day and age what’s unusual about that? Visit their Indiegogo page to see some of their initial designs and find out what sort of perks they’re offering to crowd funders.

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