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Episode 544 - Muscle WorshipWhat Are Furry Memes And Where Can You Find Them?
- Introduction
- What Are Memes?
- What Makes A Meme A Furry Meme?
- Are Furries Just A Meme?
- Where Can I Find Furry Memes?
- Wrap Up
Introduction
Have you ever heard about furries or the furry fandom?
For those who don’t know, furries are people interested in cartoons or anthropomorphic animals. Furries closely relate to the furry animals’ traits, features, and other unique attributes.
Furry fandom is more like a subculture that brings people of the same interests together.
Their belief and devotion to the culture are so strong that they often create their own fursonas and fursuits and closely identify with these animals.
What Are Memes?You might think the culture of memes started after the advent of the internet, but that’s not the case at all.
It may come as a surprise, but memes have always been part of societies and have helped people uplift one another and view life ironically or on a lighter note for years!
Memes are also heavily trending on the internet today, and most of us have actively been part of it in one way or another.
A meme may be a phrase, an image, a GIF, or a video shared across social media as is or with slight alteration. Content-wise, it can be about events, everyday life, cultures, etc.
You can judge a new meme’s impact or how ‘good’ it is based on the speed at which it spreads and, of course, the content. It is bound to get popular if it has something others can relate to or simply gives the audience a break from the real world.
Another thing is that a good meme captures our situation or life, giving it a humorous perspective, and it gives you all that in just a matter of seconds!
So it’s easy to understand, relate to, and laugh at in just a glance.
Good memes are catchy, relatable, and attention-gaining, which makes them fun, easy to remember, and shareable. They often also contain cultural references from movies, songs, TV shows, etc.
Here are some of the key areas the meme may revolve around:
- Entertainment
- Ideas or behaviors
- Humor
- Emotions
- Analogies
- Cultural references
- Shared experiences
Example of a Furry Meme from Reddit
Image via Reddit
What Makes A Meme A Furry Meme?As we know, furries share a mutual interest in anthropomorphic animals. They often identify with their traits and create their own identities or fursonas around their favorite animals, like dragons, horses, wolves, etc.
Over time, furries have created their communities, and today, they are present all over the globe and even hold community gatherings where they meet with fellow furries and bond with them.
Ever since furry fandom gained fame and spread its wings globally, there’s also been a sudden increase in furry memes. So, just like other communities, the furries too share memes, especially those that conform to their unique interests.
Thanks to the internet, their popularity is ever-increasing, negatively as well as positively influencing furry fandom all around the globe.
Most of these memes are meant for furries to laugh along with their fellows, but there are still a few made solely to mock them.
A furry meme, hence, is a meme that features a particular character, reference, or theme that concerns furry fandom.
Here are some of the essential elements of a furry meme:
It Features AnthropomorphismA furry meme includes animals exhibiting traits like us. For example, animals that talk or walk on two legs instead of four, those wearing attire, or displaying thoughts and emotions.
It May Include Famous Furry CharactersDid you know a few specific characters are known to belong and, at times, even represent the furry community? When a meme features these animals, it’s a clear indication that the meme is, in fact, a furry meme.
Most furries identify themselves as dragons, canine, and feline species.
But some also create unique mixed identities for themselves, like “Cabbit” (a mix between a cat and a rabbit) or a “folf” (a combination of a fox and a wolf). So, a furry meme may feature these characters.
Many of these animals or sketches of furries are crafted by renowned artists from the furry community themselves.
A Furry Meme Has Inside Furry JokesWhen a meme includes a reference or humor attributable to furry fandom, it’s called a furry meme.
It may also include an incident based on a convention, the style of a furry character, or anything the furries can relate to.
Then, there are specific artworks the meme may refer to. These are specific to the fury artists and hence fall under the category of furry memes.
It is Posted on Furry CommunitiesA furry meme may be shared and even circulated from a furry community. The members of the fandom will relate strongly to it.
It may also include terminologies or jokes only those belonging to the community can understand.
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Are Furries Just A Meme?
Ask any furry, and they’ll tell you furries are not a joke, a trend, or a fad. Likewise, they aren’t and cannot be confined to memes or jokes only.
Being a furry is a lifestyle for those belonging to the community.
The fans have a very strong interest in animals with human-like characteristics. In fact, the association is so solid that they closely identify as those characters.
In other words, their ideology goes beyond just memes.
They create and auction their furry artwork, participate in social conventions, build online communities, and enjoy roleplaying and listening to or writing about stories of their favorite characters while resonating with them.
It’s a whole community or subculture with a long history. So, while someone outside the fandom may view them as memes or humor, that’s not even the tip of the iceberg for them.
How Furry Memes Help Build the CommunityFurries share common interests and relate to one another. That leads to their affiliation with other furries and helps them build a community together.
Here are some of the things furries do to build a strong bond with one another.
- They invite other furries as they can relate to the jokes, experiences, and inferences.
- They share memes and other furry content, giving a unique identity to the furry culture.
- Furry fandom has shared beliefs and experiences often expressed as furry memes.
- Since memes are a way to express inner thoughts, irony, and humor on a light note, furries create and share these memes.
- Furry memes also work as a way to expand the community, introducing the concept to a broader audience.
- Furries also invite discussions and probe into debates that lead to daily reflections on life and the fandom.
Another Furry Meme
Image via Reddit
Where Can I Find Furry Memes?Memes are ever present all around us in today’s digital age. Wherever there’s a transfer of information or content sharing, you’ll find memes circulating the web.
You can easily find furry memes on various social media platforms, meme sites, and online forums. That means you will likely find content and furry memes in all those places where the furries congregate and gather.
The most common avenues for sharing (and finding) memes include the following.
- Social Media: Twitter, Facebook, TikTok, Instagram, etc.
- Messaging Applications: WhatsApp, Telegram, Discord, etc.
- Communities: Tumblr, Reddit, etc.
- Others: Online forums, image-sharing sites, discussion boards, etc.
Here are the top places to check out to find unique and funny furry memes.
RedditReddit is a renowned network of communities. It has people belonging to and associating with different communities, including the furry fandom.
Here, you’ll find furry memes on specific subreddits dedicated to furry memes, like r/furry and r/FurryMemeTime.
TwitterThe top social networking site, Twitter, hosts many furries and fandom accounts. The site has over 237.8 million daily active users, per the latest statistics.
You can quickly look up the furry memes on Twitter using #FurryMemes as your hashtag. You may also follow accounts that regularly post content on furries and find furry memes there.
InstagramInstagram is a haven for photographers, influencers, and even bloggers. The platform allows people to upload and share videos, pictures, and images with others, connecting with them via likes, comments, and direct messages.
Many furry artists share memes and artwork on the platform using furry hashtags.
FacebookIt is the largest social media platform today, with over 2.06 billion active daily users.
Since its founding years (2004), people have been actively using Facebook to create their profiles, connect with friends and family, share content, and create pages and groups.
You’ll find many Facebook groups created by furry fans. Many often share memes relevant to the community in these groups or pages.
YouTubeYouTube is the largest platform for uploading, viewing, and video sharing. Users can also like/dislike videos, subscribe to different channels, and comment with their thoughts on the platform.
Although YouTube is specifically for videos, the place is a favorite for many furry content creators. They create and share humorous videos or shorts based on furries, adding to the collection of furry memes.
TikTokAnother great platform for unique personalized content is, of course, TikTok.
Since it allows users to upload short videos only (maximum length being 10 minutes), it is another excellent avenue for exploring and sharing furry memes and humor.
TumblrMore of a microblogging platform, Tumblr is another popular place for sharing GIFs, images, text, and videos.
Furries registered on Tumblr often post memes and content relevant to the community.
Furry Forums and Websites
Then, there are websites and forums dedicated to the fandom. For instance, you can look up websites like
- Furry Amino
- Fur Affinity
- Furtopia, etc.
You’ll find content, artwork, and even specific sections for the furry memes here.
9GAG
Since we are looking for memes here, 9GAG is a must-check-out. The place features as the largest meme community online; you’ll find a vast collection of furry memes here and can add unique and relatable memes to your collection.
DeviantArt
Artists in the furry community regularly post memes and related images on DeviantArt as well.
Furry Conventions
Many furry conventions have online communities and forums with threads featuring furry memes. Some of them even have specific sections for humor and furry memes.
Telegram Sticker Packs
There’s also a messaging app called Telegram, which is common amongst avid furries. You can use the app to create unique sticker packs and memes on Telegram channels and groups.
Furry Websites
The furry community also uses some dedicated furry websites to share their memes and content.
Such as
- e621.net
- Furry.booru.org
- Furry Memes
- FurRag
These websites combine and feature furry memes and other humorous content.
Furry Discord Servers
You can join Furry-themed discord servers, connect with furry fans, and find memes shared on the channel as well.
Less Common Avenues to Lookup Furry Memes
Then, there are some less common or known places to find furry memes. These include the following.
ImageboardsSome imageboard websites, like 4chan, have specific subsections for furries-related content and memes.
PodcastsMany furry creators also host podcasts and live streaming. They often share humorous jokes and memes on air to keep the audience interested.
You can find these podcasts on YouTube and Twitch.
Furry AppsMany mobile apps have been created explicitly for the furry community and have meme-sharing options and features.
You can also look up threads on apps like Fur Affinity and FurryLife Online, where members often share GIFs and comments that count as furry memes. You can find these apps on the Play Store or Apple Store.
One point to note here is that furry communities keep changing and evolving with time. So, never mock or start a negative conversation on these platforms.
You need to stick to the rules and respect the different opinions, thoughts, and feelings of all those belonging to these communities, especially if you wish to find quality content.
One More Furry Meme From Reddit
Image via Reddit
Wrap UpThere’s no preset format or rule for classifying memes or, precisely, furry memes. But some characteristics, like those memes featuring anthropomorphic characters or animals, can be distinguished as furry memes.
They may even combine images and text with puns or include humor-intended phrases.
Furry Memes have been part of the furry fandom for decades. Since the community is alive and ever-creative, the memes will likely keep coming and being shared across the board, firmly binding the furry subculture.
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Bearly Furcasting S4E19 - How Did This Happen?
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Moobarkfluff! Taebyn is back from Denfur and tells us all about their trip! Bearly has some interesting comments. We hear about some math theory, tell some jokes and play a little This or That. So come spend some time with us, you will be glad you did. Moobarkfluff all you furs!
This podcast contains adult language and adult topics. It is rated M for Mature. Listener discretion is advised.
Thanks to all our listeners and to our staff: Bearly Normal, Rayne Raccoon, Taebyn, Cheetaro, TickTock, and Ziggy the Meme Weasel.
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It’s A Busy World Full Of Sick People
Okay, so it’s called Health and Wealth: A Graphic Guide to the U.S. Healthcare System. The creators at the Center for Cartoon Studies describe it like this: “The goal of this concise and engaging 32-page comic is to provide a baseline understanding of the healthcare system so people can feel a little less intimidated by its complexity and cruelty, and more empowered to advocate for themselves and those they care for. We hope Health and Wealth will generate discussions around healthcare and healthcare reform.” So why should we especially care about it here? Well, because the creators made the decision to illustrate their comic in an obvious homage to the familiar style of author and illustrator Richard Scarry (What Do People Do All Day?).
image c. 2023 Center for Cartoon Studies
S10 Episode 13 – Social Media - Social media plays a big part in our daily lives and the fandom as a whole. And it seems to always be changing. Sometimes it can be great. Other times not so good. Join the cast as they talk about social media and how it in
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Intro: RetroSpecter – Cloud Fields (RetroSpecter Mix). USA: Unpublished, 2018. ©2011-2018 Fur What It’s Worth. Based on Fredrik Miller – Cloud Fields (Century Mix). USA: Bandcamp, 2011. ©2011 Fur What It’s Worth.
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Second Break: High Alert - Tom Spander, Argofox, Creative Commons 2021.
Third Break: Rise - Ampyx, Argofox, Creative Commons 2021.
Closing: Cloud Fields (RetroSpecterChill Remix), USA: Unpublished, 2018. ©2011-2018 Fur What It’s Worth. Based on Fredrik Miller – Cloud Fields (Chill Out Mix). USA: Bandcamp, 2011. ©2011 Fur What It’s Worth. S10 Episode 13 – Social Media - Social media plays a big part in our daily lives and the fandom as a whole. And it seems to always be changing. Sometimes it can be great. Other times not so good. Join the cast as they talk about social media and how it in
Growth of the Thai furry fandom w/Pukan #shorts #snippets
Listen to what Pukan has to say about the growth of the Thai furry fandom! Catch the full episode here: https://youtu.be/rVvvyq52o1Q ---- Social Media: Official FABP Twitter: https://twitter.com/foxandburger Michael: https://twitter.com/foxnakh https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCK9xoFQrxFTNPMjmXfUg2cg Burger: https://twitter.com/L1ghtningRunner ---- #foxandburger #shorts #snippet #furry
Peter S. Beagle warns fans not to trust The Last Unicorn movie page on Facebook
Statement on Peter’s official Facebook page
The gall of these people.
Peter S. Beagle created The Last Unicorn, made millions of fans happy, then got dragged through elder abuse and had to go to court to stop it.
In his 70’s, Peter was supposed to be making his magic and enjoying the golden years. Instead he had to spend years of battling his former manager, Connor Cochran, who was found liable for financial elder abuse, fraud, breach of fiduciary duty, and defamation.
Before his disgrace, Cochran would try to sue critics for saying what he was doing, and wanted to shut me up that way. He failed when I sued him before Peter did.
Now Peter is back in control of his career. His official Beagleverse site has an FAQ about his battle with the court judgement showing the black-and-white truth.
But the Beagleverse site warns: “Unfortunately, there are still several websites controlled by Peter’s former manager. Beagleverse® is the best source for all things Peter S. Beagle.”
Peter doesn’t control a Last Unicorn Facebook page with an official check mark. It was made in 2008 before Peter sued Cochran, and is now being used to manipulate 182,000 followers.
Its anonymous managers are spreading references about Peter with evasive, tryhard, blowhard posts full of ageism. While they hide behind the official check mark from years ago, they’re also blocking the official team of Peter, the actual creator, while pretending to be a “fan” page for fair use of his creation. They’re misleading other fans who don’t know their agenda or what a court already judged.
Peter’s official statement about the page is open to comment and has hundreds of shares. Meanwhile, the latest “fan” post aiming at Peter is locked to comments and has some dozens of shares. You should see what some of the sharers are saying:
- “I’m so tired of people talking BS about Peter S. Beagle, like he’s some old man who can’t do anything or doesn’t understand. He doesn’t deserve this treatment or abuse and this isn’t the first time it happened… Stop gaslighting his fans by claiming you’re just a fan page.”
- “You don’t need to read the post below – tl;dr – deny, deflect, defend. It’s telling that this novella is in the same verbose, bloated language as when the former manager was trying to defend their defenseless position throughout the lawsuit. It’s also telling that a) no names are given on page ownership b) there’s hella ageist language being dropped here, and c) no comments are allowed…
This is not how a fan account run by true fans of the work should behave. It’s embarrassing.” - “That’s a lot of words for “we’re lying” lmao”
If you’re a fan of Peter and his creations, be kind to other fans and let them know the movie Facebook page is NOT to be trusted.
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Wolfsbane and War
Sometimes just a title is going to tell you most of what you need to know. Definitely true for a title like Sgt. Werewolf, a new comic written and illustrated by Rich Woodall. “Sgt. Steve Hovatter leads a small group of U.S. Commandos to infiltrate Lichtenstein castle in Germany and recover intel on Nazi Occult operations. The Commandos are captured, and Sgt. Hovatter is executed. Hours later Sgt. Hovatter is transformed into a Werewolf, and he uncovers a much more sinister plot at Castle Lichtenstein.” It’s coming to the comic book shelves this month from Scout Comics, through their horror imprint Black Caravan.
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IndyFurCon 2023: New Venue, New Start, and A Big Donation
This year’s IndyFurCon (IFC) started on a different note. First, they moved to their new hotel at Wyndham Indianapolis West. The nostalgia of the previous venue, Marriott Indianapolis East, still lasted among some people. New place, new start? Slightly bumpy, with some encountering issues here and there. In preparation, IFC released their schedule, fursuit parade […]
Joe Strike’s “Furry Planet” chronicles furry fandom in the USA and beyond
乔-斯泰克的《兽迷星》记载美国及其他地区的兽圈
Bugs and Books
Somehow we missed the Sir Ladybug stories by award-winning creator Corey L. Tabor, but now they’re out with the third volume in this series of graphic novels for young readers. Here’s what the publisher says about Sir Ladybug and the Bookworms: “Sir Ladybug — the duke of the dandelion patch, champion of truth and justice — must fulfill a most noble duty! Upon his knightly honor, Sir Ladybug vows to return his library book before it is overdue. But some diabolical creatures dare to stop this hero and his friends… Beware of the Bookworms!” All the books are available now in hardcover from Harper Collins.
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FWG Monthly Newsletter September 2023
We come to September, the final month before Furry Book Month and Oxfurred Comma! Preparations are going on in earnest behind the scenes, but there are still things you can all do as well! We are open for submissions for the furry book bundles and the flash fiction contest! We are also opening our call for panellists to present at Oxfurred Comma. More information on all of this below.
Oxfurred Comma Panels
Panel ideas can now be submitted! We have the option to run panels live or pre-recorded, and can be run around any manner of writing topics! Please submit your panel ideas for approval to this form: https://forms.gle/5nYCQgUQTTpS3oCv8
Oxfurred Comma will run October 21/22, so if there are any time or date preferences for running live panels, please let us know in the form. Looking forward to seeing your great ideas!
Flash Fiction Contest
The flash fiction contest is unthemed again, so your 500 word furry stories can be about anything you can imagine! Entries can be sent in with the following link: https://forms.gle/GnSdDTrneyjWsDye8
You do not need to be a FWG member to submit an entry. All entries should be kept to a PG-13 rating. Just one entry per person.
Novel Bundle
We are open for submission for two novel bundles – one adult rated and one PG-13. This one is open for FWG members only, and priority is given to those authors who were not included in last year’s bundle, and we will not consider novels that were included last year.
Both novel bundles have the same entry form: https://forms.gle/CeB2D4QNQMrZLGSYA
As with last year, the bundles will be made available on Gumroad for a pay-what-you-want (minimum price of $10), with proceeds split evenly between all contributing authors and the FWG. Please get in your entries for this before Sunday 24th, as we want the bundle to go live on October 1st.
Social Media
To update on our post last month, the FWG is now set up on both Mastodon and Bluesky. We haven’t yet started the long process of ensuring we are following all of our members, but you can join us on the two platforms with the links below.
Mastodon: https://furries.club/@furrywritersguild
Bluesky: https://bsky.app/profile/furrywritersguild.bsky.social
If flash fiction is a little short for you, then don’t fret! We have a few new short story openings this month.
Feisty Felines and Other Fantastical Familiars – Deadline October 15th 2023
Altered States: Draconic Desire – Deadline November 30th 2023
Get Wild – Deadline December 1st 2023
Sniff – Deadline December 1st 2023
Night of the Howling Dead – Deadline December 8th 2023
Indulge – Deadline January 31st 2024
Indecent Exposure – Deadline When Full
This Is Halloween – Deadline When Full
Furry Femdom Erotica – Deadline When Full
F/F No Erotic Anthology – Deadline When Full
Isekai Me! – Deadline When Full
Children Of The Night – Deadline When Full
Furry/Lovecraftian/Erotic/University Themed Anthology – Deadline When Full
Beyond Their Pale – Deadline When Full
#ohmurr! – Deadline: Ongoing
We hope you will also check out the following upcoming and recent releases from our members.
Clade, A Post-Self Anthology, edited by Madison Scott-Clary. Released August 2nd 2023.
Werecats Convergent, by Mark J. Engels. Released August 21st 2023.
Angel, by R.A. Meenan. Released September 20th 2023.
The Prince of Thorns, by Tim Susman. Available for pre-order. Released November 14th 2023.
Commander Annie and Other Adventures, by Mary E. Lowd. Available for pre-order. Released November 14th 2023.
From all of us at the guild, we are looking forward to Furry Book Month in October. We hope you’ll join us for a great month of celebrating furry fiction.
Until then.
Happy writing.
J.F.R. Coates
Why People Bully and What to Do about It
I hope this letter finds you well. I wanted to reach out and share my thoughts and feelings regarding a situation I've been experiencing. As a freshman at THS, I am grateful for the support provided by my IEP. However, I have recently encountered some challenges that I would appreciate your advice or insight on.
In an effort to cope with my autism and ADHD, I've been carrying around a stuffed coyote that holds personal significance to me. It has become a source of comfort during the past few days. Unfortunately, I've noticed that I've become the target of mockery and ridicule from my peers. While I understand that people might not fully comprehend my coping mechanisms, the teasing has been hurtful.
I am reaching out to you in the hopes of seeking guidance on how to navigate this situation. I believe that everyone's unique qualities should be respected, and I am striving to find ways to manage my challenges in a positive and supportive environment. Any advice or explanation you could provide would be greatly appreciated.
Thank you for taking the time to read my letter. Your support means a lot to me, and I look forward to your insights.
Finn (14)
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Dear Finn,
Are you sure you're only 14? Because that was a very well-written letter, better than I get from some adults! But let's get down to it.
Emotional Support Plushies (ESPs) are valid tools to help emotionally sensitive people, just as Emotional Support Animals are. Since it's not too practical to bring a live dog or other pet to a school, a plushie is an excellent substitute. Clearly, it is helping you, so you shouldn't get rid of it because you are being teased.
Why do kids tease you? As a freshman, you are a vulnerable and easy target, and older kids and bullies typically target younger people when it is noticeable that they are different somehow. That's how bullying works: they find someone they feel they can push around who is "different" in some way and then pick on them to make themselves feel better (bullies have a lot of emotional problems themselves and use this strategy to cope in a very unhealthy way).
So, first thing to do is to recognize these bullies and their toadies for what they are: shallow people looking to gain social status by putting other people down. These people do not deserve your respect, and the harsh words of people you do not respect are hollow indeed.
The first strategy in dealing with bullies and taunters is to ignore them. They can only get off on their belittling if it provokes a reaction from you. This is what I do. I have been teased and criticized for everything from this advice column to my Good Furry Awards. When I get hate mail, I simply do not reply to it. When people post nasty messages on Ask Papabear, I simply delete them. I get very little of this nowadays because bullies and haters simply don't get a reaction from me, and they totally hate that.
Another strategy some use is humor. A number of famous comedians (Robin Williams comes to mind) survived taunting at school by becoming class clowns. Try turning around the taunts about carrying a plush coyote with stuff like this:
- I'm studying to be a taxidermist, and this is my homework
- Yeah, this is a coyote. I couldn't catch the road runner
- What do you get when you wind string around coyotes? Yo-Yotes
- What kind of luggage do coyotes take on planes? Carrion
- What do you get after an animal dinner party? Stuffed animals.
If you're no good at ignoring or humoring people, you might try educating them.
- Did you know that 40% of American adults sleep with plush toys? Did you know that youth suicides in America have risen 50% in the last 20 years? Anxiety and depression are way up, too. Many psychologists and psychiatrists agree that simple tools like ESPs have proven beneficial in alleviating this crisis. My counselor suggested this for me, so I'm doing this on advice from a professional. (Here's an interesting article on that https://www.sleep.com/sleep-tech/stuffed-animals-for-adults)
- I bet you a lot of the people here in this room have plushies at home. But they might be too scared to admit it because they are afraid of being teased. It doesn't bother me, though. (Raising your voice) And if anyone here has a plushy or two at home that you like to hold, don't be ashamed. It's okay to do that.
High school is tough. Unlike middle or grade school, everyone has raging hormones and is struggling to find their place in society. This results in a lot of competition, social posturing, and plain old meanness. Recognizing the fact that all your peers--even the bullies, and, maybe, ESPECIALLY the bullies--are going through emotional and hormonal turmoil can help you recognize that they are all temporarily insane and should be regarded as such.
When they act out against other kids, it actually has nothing to do with you and everything to do with them. If it wasn't you and your plushie, it would be the fat kid or the unathletic kid or the shy kid or the trans kid or the Muslim kid or anyone they can label as different. Heck, even me, a white boy, was targeted for being German (I got a lot of "Heil Hitlers" because my last name is Hile), and even made fun of because I was born in "a mass of two shits" (aka Massachusetts). So, you see, it doesn't matter what it is, as long as they find something--anything--different about you AND sense weakness (rather like a pack of feral dogs jockeying for status).
You can't change how others behave, but you can control how you react to it.
Be chill. Be bear. Be cool. As Nick Wilde said, "Never let them see they got to you."
Hugs,
Papabea
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Episode 543 - Cancel Time with Ajax