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Furry Feels Rejected by Furries
I have been a part of the furry fandom since the mid-nineties--or so I thought at first. Nearly twenty years later, I find myself seriously questioning that.
I admit that I am very much of a square peg, not fitting in regardless of what's involved, be it art or something else. I have tried taking steps to rectify that, tried doing what I could to get more involved, but it either winds up in abject failure, or what little success I have gets eclipsed by someone else. Either way, I get brushed to the wayside.
Is it worth it to even stick around? On one hand, I'd have to deal with continuous brush-offs from furries, bronies, and what have you. On the other, I worry that I'd possibly alienate the handful of friends that I have. Plus I'd be giving up something that meant something to me all this time. Either way, it's a lose-lose situation.
--JayTee
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Dear JayTee,
Are you a furry feeling alienated, or maybe an alien feeling furinated? Join the club, JayTee. In my experience, it is rare to come across a furry who has not felt like an outsider at some point in his or her life. It’s not very surprising, either, since I think a lot of people who already feel alienated by society in general can gravitate toward the fandom. What can hurt is that people like you and I go to the fandom to find acceptance and then find rejection, in some cases. I know some very bitter furries because of this, and some are very angry at furries in general.
All groups of social animals, from humans to wolves to chimps to elephants, tend to self-stratify themselves into a hierarchy, with some members at the top and some lower down. Papabear, like you, discovered furries around the 1990s. For the longest time I just sat by the sidelines, not really getting involved much. When I finally DID make my first forays into socializing more with other furries, I cam across the same thing you did. My first negative experience came with the first time I attended a Prancing Skiltaire party. I noticed immediately how cliquish people were to the point where I felt I was back in high school. It was very upsetting to me.
Slowly, however, as I began making more furiends, which helped me overcome my furry shyness. Now I have more friends in my life than I ever did, thanks to being involved with furries. However, I am still far from what one might call a “popufur,” and that is fine with me. I don’t want to be a popufur.
What I learned is to not try to nose my way into existing cliques but rather to build my own, and that sounds like what you have done, JayTee. You say you have a “handful of friends” and you worry that you will alienate them by “leaving.” But what exactly are you trying to leave? Are you trying to “leave” being a furry? Being a furry is that “something that meant something” to you. You can’t leave that because if you are a true furry you can’t leave something that you are.
Papabear’s advice to you is this: first, keep your friends in your life; second, do those furry things that please you, whether it is drawing or doing something else, and don’t worry about whether or not others accept you for what you do. You aren’t doing it for THEM, you are doing it for YOU.
Papabear knows it hurts to feel rejected. We all want to have people accept us for what we are and to appreciate the things we try to do to make this world a better place. Sometimes, though, we are not accepted. That doesn’t mean that you deserve to be rejected and it doesn’t mean that what you do is not valuable. For example, look at Vincent Van Gogh. Now considered one of the most brilliant artists of his day, nobody bought his paintings while he was alive and he felt he was a total failure. The point is that often the people who reject others are just plain wrong to do so.
Don’t let others’ opinions dictate to you what you do and who you are, JayTee. Do what makes you happy, and when you run into people who appreciate you for you, be friends with them and support them back. Maybe the whole world of furry doesn’t quite suit you, but your private corner of it can be very satisfying in itself. Embrace it and you will be a winner.
Hugs,
Papabear
What's up with /r/reptile?
It's private so i don't know if it is a furry subreddit or just a subreddit with reptile enthusiasts.
I like snakes is why im asking.
submitted by Legendman3[link] [10 comments]
Episode 22 - Sin keeps so many in bondage. It entices at the beginning, wooing people with promises of pleasure, but in the end it is a deadly trap with no way out. At least, that is what the enemy would have you think.
Sin keeps so many in bondage. It entices at the beginning, wooing people with promises of pleasure, but in the end it is a deadly trap with no way out. At least, that is what the enemy would have you think. It wants nothing better than for Christians to remain in bondage.
But that is not what we have been promised. No, God has promised to deliver us from sin. What He wants is for us to trust Him, to believe His promises and love Him. He has something more in mind than the never-ending cycle of guilt and despair. There is a way out. You can be free.
That is what we discuss this week. It’s a two-part episode, so be sure you listen to the whole thing.
Metadata and Credits WagzTail Podcast 2.0 Episode 22Runtime: 60m
Cast: CrimsonX, Kail, Levi, Wolfin
Editor: Silent
Format: 128kbps ABR split-stereo MP3
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FC-95 Internal Handshake - A handshake within a handshake. A handshake inside the handshake within the handshake. Basically, it's a sexual thing.
A handshake within a handshake. A handshake inside the handshake within the handshake. Basically, it’s a sexual thing.
Watch Video News:- Want to create a character for a long-running furry webcomic?
- San Francisco’s furry night club covered in culture magazine ‘The Bold Italic’
- Kaze in Need of Commissons
- ‘The Boy Who Cried Wolf’ updated by automatic sheep collars
- SvendaWolf – “So I think I may be anti social (please help)”
- Montgomery – “this is from the rat king cousin”
- Marcus – “Therianthropy, shifting, for a new therian.”
- PhoenixTheChanthix – “Greetings from Phoenix the Chanthix”
- Anonymous – “READ AS ANONYMOUS: Furry Dating a Non-Fur: Problems and Solutions?”
- Strikepaw – “(Under-aged) Shitfaced Furries”
- Shashe Shereye – “Are We Anthros All Ready?”
- Arekkusu – “Questions about shifts and fursuits”
- Fell Blackpaw – “Problem with furs”
- Awkward Gay Club
- Strange Electric Device
- Daniel – “Wanted to drop a line about how awesome your show is!”
- Lostwulfy – “Shoutout”
- Matt Choice – “Figured I’d do this… At least once =P”
- Anon – “Hello Again I AM ANON (I am the 2%)”
FC-95 Internal Handshake - A handshake within a handshake. A handshake inside the handshake within the handshake. Basically, it's a sexual thing.
A handshake within a handshake. A handshake inside the handshake within the handshake. Basically, it’s a sexual thing.
Watch Video News:- Want to create a character for a long-running furry webcomic?
- San Francisco’s furry night club covered in culture magazine ‘The Bold Italic’
- Kaze in Need of Commissons
- ‘The Boy Who Cried Wolf’ updated by automatic sheep collars
- SvendaWolf – “So I think I may be anti social (please help)”
- Montgomery – “this is from the rat king cousin”
- Marcus – “Therianthropy, shifting, for a new therian.”
- PhoenixTheChanthix – “Greetings from Phoenix the Chanthix”
- Anonymous – “READ AS ANONYMOUS: Furry Dating a Non-Fur: Problems and Solutions?”
- Strikepaw – “(Under-aged) Shitfaced Furries”
- Shashe Shereye – “Are We Anthros All Ready?”
- Arekkusu – “Questions about shifts and fursuits”
- Fell Blackpaw – “Problem with furs”
- Awkward Gay Club
- Strange Electric Device
- Daniel – “Wanted to drop a line about how awesome your show is!”
- Lostwulfy – “Shoutout”
- Matt Choice – “Figured I’d do this… At least once =P”
- Anon – “Hello Again I AM ANON (I am the 2%)”
FC-92 Phantom Nub
Identical Characters Conflicts?
I actually just noticed that there was already a black jackal called Chigaru before I made my fursona. Even though I didn't really expect that, I'm not too surprised it happened. :( I plan to add more/tweak my fursona later down the road or something, but I'm still a bit disappointed.
Has anyone else ever run into the same or similar problem? and how did you resolve your identity crisis?
Edit: turns out the other Chigaru is pretty cool with it. :3 Still gonna work on a name change though.
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Dust: An Elysian Tail Launch Trailer is Epic
For those of you that DON'T know, Dust: An Elysian Tail is coming to Xbox Live Arcade next week for the Summer of Arcade promotion. Since it is so close to release, we have the final trailer for the game, and it is sick. Showing off much of the finalized product, the artwork, how the cutscenes will play out, and even a few bosses, the trailer shows off why we are excited about this frantic fighting furry.
Check out the trailer below:
5th Anniversary Edition
Truly an amazing masterpiece done by Foxamoore I give you, “The Ballad Of Midnight 5th Anniversary Edition” . Here some great classics such as, “Shimmering” and “Immortality” . These great tracks can be yours HERE and the FA post with more details HERE. Wow, he has some amazing talent and the music just gives me chills.
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